This isn't actually depression, but it shares some of the feelings. I've also been putting off posting this for ages now cause its more of a rant-ish post than a plea for help.For the past few weeks I've had an uncontrollable feeling of loneliness, and its really bugging me. I hang out with my friends and my family every now and then but it never goes away, nearly all of my friends have girlfriends/boyfriends and I guess the jealousy is getting to me. I'm really happy for them all, but... I dunno.I miss being with someone, even tho my ex and I barely ever saw each other, I always knew that she was there and that she loved me. But now I have nothing, I have nobody and I hate not having that comfort. I'm not the kind of person who picks up women out in clubs or anywhere for that matter, if I ever see a girl I like I might go up to her and chat with her, but I never do anything.So I know what I should be doing, and as I said, I'm not asking for help. I know what advice I'd be getting, "Just suck it up and ask someone," "Nothing will happen if you don't take a chance," and even the odd "The right girl will come around." Its seems to be part of the condition that I have, if there is an easy way out of something I will always take it.<<< Psychologist told me that.
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Loneliness
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Actually my advice would be more along the lines of trying to be self-sufficient, and then when you no longer need a girlfriend, you'll get one.
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Eh.. I have to deal with this alot. I can't say why... but, it seems I am constantly in search of someone..I have quite a history considering I'm only 18.. (well closer to 19). Seems like every girl I like doesn't like me. Or only wants to be friends. Or.. well their screwed in the head somehow.Finally find one I'm good with and welll you have probably already read my post about the one that finally likes me and is semi normal.. and bam agoraphobia.My problem is even if I do go up to girls and talk to them.. either A. they are taken. B. they end up pulling some wierd crap.Can't really give you any advice and I don't think thats what your looking for. All I can say is.. god bless video games.
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The best things come along when you aren't looking.If your friends are in relationships, so what? I understand you are jealous, but that doesn't mean they aren't still your friend.You may not be a person who just goes up and "makes a move" on a girl. But that is you and you can't change that. I do think that there will be someone who likes you for you. Just knowing that someone will come alone eventually may not help ease your pain; but don't dwell on it. You are only as lonely as you let yourself be.
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Um, yeah, I am with ineligable on this one...
Remember the moronic stalker dude I had? Well, It took a few months, like 8, to stop missing being in a relationship, though he was NOT the one.
I finally got comfy being alone, had my comfortable little routines, was enjoying NOT haveing to answer to anyone, kinda liking who I was, and who I was becomming. THEN! about 4 or five months of that, and bam, in walks, Mr. Perfect. So, of course, I am all ok with what I had, and it took a while for me to be ok with dating him.
Learn to be happy with you. Scream at the hilsides once in a while, sob yourself to sleep, but remember....tsk tsk, "your only lonely when your alone, because your in shitty company" I dont' think your shitty company, but you need to be able to enjoy your own self.
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Lol.... reminds me of interesting quotes."Better dead then alone" Lestat.And"Better alone then in bad company" Leo tolstoy.interesting to think about.
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Bob, you should hop on a boat and come to Mayberry and live in my house with me. Then we could walk around town, hiding the fact that we're two lonely blokes, struttin our studly mick stuff and looking down with condescension upon every girl we see who thinks they have a good life, cause we know it can't be worth crap without a Damien or a Bobbo!