Wow I cant believe this happened!

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There may be a moral issue here but a legal one?The victim found the attacker attractiveThe victim couldn't stop the attacker at the first oppotunityWhy?It felt too goodGood luck in court with this one

Let's think here. If you woke up one night and someone was having sex with you, you'd be very shocked at first, especially if you were as young as he is. Note that he was only conscious for 10 seconds during what happened. Obviously there would be shock combined with drowsiness that would cause him to not do much because his mind would be trying to process what happened and whether it's a dream or not. This isn't too dissimilar to a date rape, obviously the raper doesn't truly have to force the person to have sex, because the person has little to no ability to stop it.

I don't think that he has any intention of bringing a court action--only to protect himself if she winds up pregnant and accuses him of raping her.

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I don't think that he has any intention of bringing a court action--only to protect himself if she winds up pregnant and accuses him of raping her.
Yea. that's wut it sounds like to me.

We all know if she does do that crap that her word will be took over his cuz she is a girl. (stupid people) BUT if he does wut we have suggested...... printing out this thread (its got the dates listed), telling a sibling, parents, getting a report done.... Then he'll have the proof to back up his word.

Originally Posted By: buzzie69This is NOT a rape situationYou were conscious?You said she was attractive?She had no knife at your throat?You could have pulled out if you choseYou decided not toA woman held down by a man generally does not have these options I am not even believing what I am reading here. Un-fucking-believable! And I don't usually talk like that.What if the gender roles had been reversed? Would you still make the same claim? I'm thinking not. If you think that there has to be a weapon for it to be rape, you're clueless as hell.If you think the fact that the victim thinks the perpetrator is attractive means it wasn't rape, you're clueless as hell.What options did he have that a woman doesn't have?Un-fucking-believable.

100% agree@ buzzie This is NOT a rape situation ( YES IT IS!!!!) Educate ur self b4 commenting on a rape victim.!!!You were conscious? Didn’t u READ. he was asleep! You said she was attractive? SO! That’ss like telling a woman she liked it cuz she got a orgasm ( or even a guy…) urgg!!! She had no knife at your throat? When ur asleep (as he was) , drugged or even outsized/ numbered she don’t need a weapon. Just cuz a guy is a guy dosen’t mean he can’t freez up. Is it like drilled into dumb-ass heads that all guy are fighters are some shit!>?You could have pulled out if you chose. Didn’t u READ. he was asleep! When u first wake up and see a bitch riding u ur mind don’t exactly think straight…. it’s called shock! You decided not to….. NO he decided to do the right thing and ask for help. U are NOT helping. Only putting more negative shit for him to wonder about. ( If u knew anything about a person (male or female) that has been raped u’d shut the fuck up. A woman held down by a man generally does not have these options. There is this thing. it’s called FEAR!!! It paralyzes a person and their brain. I don’t care if a person is the size of helmz… if he (or she) is scared and in fear….. There not going to be able to think…. Or move. Or I just can’t describe it. (really I dk y I’m even trying to describe it to u. …yes I do. Because I know there are so many other people reading this and I don’t want them to get the wrong ideas. PEOPLE NEED TO BE EDUCATED ON RAPE VICTUMS DAMB IT!!! < yes I’m yelling!The victim couldn't stop the attacker at the first opportunity……..while he was fucking sleeping……….Why? HE WAS SLEEPINGIt felt too good < how the fuck do u know wut this guy felt. Humm??? How it wasn;t u laying in that bed. U didn’t feel wut he did. U have no fuckign idea wut he was or is feeling.!! SEX DON’T ALWAYS FEEL GOOD!!!! Especially when it’s NOT sex but it is RAPE>!!!I’m sorry pete….. I couldn’t hold it in any more.

To CR125: You don't know how much that means for you standing up for me, I was asleep and it all happened so quick I honestly couldn't do anything. To everyone: I have some updates, since this is several days later. Ok a couple days ago I went to police statio with my 18 yr old bro. I requested someone high up that took their job seriously. We got somebody that talked to us for a good hour and a half. He was really kind and helped out tremendously. (Why can't there be more people like that out there)He told me to record everything and that if he needed to he could personally help me in court but that probably would not happen as the person who raped me would not accuse me of anything unless, obviously pregant. I got all his information and headed over to the doctor. At the doctor after we told him a bit about the situation he said he couldnt for sure tel if the girl might be pregant just by looking at me. But he said I was healthy and everything seemed to be tip top shape so there could be a chance. Once again Im recording everything and Im trying to keep my cool and get thru this as easy as possible. I know what I must do, thank you all for everything.

Caleb hunn, you took the "words right out of my mouth" so to speak lol.superman, im glad your keeping us posted here. im really worried about this so how are you feeling??? if you need to talk to anybody, just pm me anytime

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I'm sorry pete..... I couldn't hold it in any more.

Why are you appologizing. SO many of us totally agree.

I know that there is the thing of "can't rape the willing" but not every guy is willing...and DEFINATLY not ALL the time like it is made out to be.

Morning wood, is a real thing, that a girl COULD take advantage of....I am not a rapist, so that is the time I know of that I could um, find my whatever not appriciated.

Superman, at this point you've probably done all that you can (or need to) to protect yourself and it's time to try to relax and get your life back to normal. I assume that the doctor gave you a clean bill of health.Given that it's a bit of an unusual situation, I'm not sure if a rape counselor would be of help or not. But if you're finding it difficult to move on, it's an option you might consider.But whatever, remember that you had no fault in this. You were the victim. It's something that unfortunately happened to you, but fortunately is not life threatening. Try to put it behind you.I hope that we at A2A have been of some help and comfort to you.

I went to the doctor today and he said hes heard some news about a girl telling a lot of people including a lawyer that she was raped and that she is now pregant. Im pretty sure that means im a daddy. I feel horrible right now.

Well, don't jump to conclusions until you find out that this girl is the same one who raped you. But please try not to feel bad about this. This happened to you against your will and it's no where near your fault. Everyone here is behind you 100% and wishing you the best of luck.

Well, I'm pretty sure this is the same girl because here nothing like that ever happens so that would be an extreme coincidence. And i should feel bad even though it wasnt my fault because its my duty as a christian to love and mentor my son and that won't be fulfilled near as well without a mother for the son. Im assuming this woman will not be wed to me. Sure, im not weeping but I am trying to think with a clear head and make decisions that be best for my future

In your first post on 6/21, you said that this happened "the other night." It's now a week later. Unless "the other night" was several weeks before you posted, there's no way that girl would know (in 2 weeks or so) that she was pregnant from her actions with you. Something stinks here.

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there's no way that girl would know (in 2 weeks or so) that she was pregnant from her actions with you. Something stinks here.
I agree. Plus, who knows who else she's had sex with around the time of the incident. There may be a small chance that if she does become pregnant, the child may not be the OP's.

Just my theory, anyway.

my points exactly

I really don't mean to sound self-rightous and I'm sorry, but I'm really pissed and sick to my stomach right now. As it turns out, Superman's a lying asshole and this whole situation was fake.

Any possible way to delete/move/lock this thing? I can't begin to imagine how people who really did go through such a horrible ordeal must feel about this. :frowning:

I wouldn't want to delete it, and I don't know where to move it. It probably should be locked, but perhaps some people may wish to express their own feelings first.

i agree with virtual here.

i feel so upset and hurt that someone would think of something so rude and thoughtless and to make us waste all this time tryin to help the guy.

im really pissed over this.

im too gullable i guess.

i think i missed something,how do we know he is a liar?