Well, my girlfriend And I have been talking about sex for a bit now, and tonight we established that we are going to have sex tomorrow night.I myself am a virgin, technically she is too, but about a year ago she got fingered, I asked her how long it lasted, and she said she didn't know because all she could think about was the pain while it was happening, the guy who was fingering her was 19, and she was 13. =/ She told him to stop because it hurt too badly, and instead he used 3 fingers, that's all the detail that I have about her experience. and she said she bled, so I assume her hymen is popped.Well, she knows that she's going to feel pain, and she is going to look past that, but I'm wondering how bad it's going to hurt her?Do you think we'll be able to finish, or do you think that the pain will stop us from being able to have full-on sex?
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Sex tomorrow. =/
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So you're 15 and she's 14? Just wondering.
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Yep, I'm going into my sophomore year, and she's going into her freshman year.
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Hey there,
There's no question that there's pain for first-timers, but you can help reduce it. You need to help her relax and get in the mood. She'll get lubricated but keep a bottle of lube handy so it will be easier on her when you penetrate her. Another way to help her get ready is to finger her yourself. But be gentle!
Originally Posted By: withmyheart
Do you think we'll be able to finish, or do you think that the pain will stop us from being able to have full-on sex?
If you do what I just said, you should be okay. The pain shouldn't be that terrible for her to not enjoy sex. Don't forget that condom! :smile:ADDED:
I personally say for you guys to wait since you two are pretty young (I never understood the rush with teenagers). But it's your choice. As long as you're safe, I guess. -
Thanks sooo much for your input, condoms are a definite yes, I have some in my drawer, not sure which one to use tho. =s I have Normal trogen, then I also have twisted sensation, oh.. And I have ribbed. I'd assume the normal would be most comfortable for her right?And I have lube too. So I think I'm set.We figure that whatever happens, happens, but we are aware of the risks too.
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No problem, sweetie. Yeah, start with an original/regular condom for now. Have fun and stay safe!
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Thanks soo much!! =]I'm just worrying about her more than me, because I would hate to hurt her, that's why I want to take it slow, and be really careful!But she's not worried about the pain, she's worried about other things, not like pregnancy, but after the guys she's been through she is just scared.
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Originally Posted By: withmyheart
I'm just worrying about her more than me, because I would hate to hurt her, that's why I want to take it slow, and be really careful!
Lol, I was just going to add that important tip, but you beat me to it. :grin: That's another important tip to help her reduce the pain.I can understand why she's scared for such a reason, but just reasure her that it's going to be different with you because you do care about her and you're doing the right thing. :smile:
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Originally Posted By: Virtual_Star Originally Posted By: withmyheartI'm just worrying about her more than me, because I would hate to hurt her, that's why I want to take it slow, and be really careful!Lol, I was just going to add that important tip, but you beat me to it. That's another important tip to help her reduce the pain.I can understand why she's scared for such a reason, but just reasure her that it's going to be different with you because you do care about her and you're doing the right thing. Awwww Thanks!!! =]I really do care about her, her ex bf's have treated her like shit, she is so beautiful, but her most recent ex always told her a bunch of bullshit, and killed her self esteem, at that point we were just friends, but I remember the pain she went through, he used her for 2 years.I retain myself from going over to his house and kicking his ass.