I dunno about my relationship or what to do with it. It's going strong so far. But I dunno.I'm not really losing interest in my girlfriend, but sometimes I just wanna try others out, not even actually dating, more of just flirting around and chilling to see if they're interesting enough. But I won't due fact I'm with my girlfriend.My girlfriend is in no position to want me to leave, or to want to leave me, and without me, she might return to her Depression stages, and drinking and cutting and suicidal I worked so hard to get her out of. (which she has made hints she would return to that state of mind)I don't want to leave her in chance of losing her forever, or even a long period of time, because from my standing point, I don't have a high chance of finding another girlfriend, nor one with such amazing benefits. Now don't thing I'm only with her for benefits, but I which at this moment can not be changed, don't have a social ground, this girl however is older then me and is able to travel down to my area and stay with me for couple of weeks to month at a time sometimes. Which right now I think I need someone who is capable of spending allot of time with me. So to lose her, would lose more or less everything, so after a long enough time working I could go out with some chicks long enough to try out other people. and realize all I wanted was her all along, but by then might not be able to get her back.Like I said, I don't want to break the relationship because there's no problems with it, I do want to keep it, and it has nice benefits to boot. But sometimes, not even including making out. I just wanna try going out with another girl. maybe eat dinner watch a movie, hang around and then be finished.I guess you could say I simply want to occasionally date other girls.So I'm not sure, do I give up everything so I can "Date" chicks that I probably don't have much of a chance with because of situation I'll be in until I'm about 16 or 17 for short period of something new.Do I just hold out until something does go wrong with our relationship, and hope I didn't miss out to much while waiting.Or stay with her and be happy with what I got, knowing it benefits us both tremendously, and whatever happens futurewise happens and I may or may not go out with other people for awhile.see most of the chicks I'm around are about 2 years younger, which could also be difficult to hold relationship with Legal wise at this point, and parenting wise, so ugh I dunno.Somebody say something uber smart and reassuring to help me before my brain dies of too much thinking and alternate ways.
I'm just not sure.
Originally Posted By: TheFallenLightI don't want to leave her in chance of losing her forever, or even a long period of time, because from my standing point, I don't have a high chance of finding another girlfriend, nor one with such amazing benefits.You're 15, correct? That means you still have the rest of your life to find another girlfriend. It might seem like the end of your life, but trust me, there are other people who will come and go in your life. Originally Posted By: TheFallenLightNow don't thing I'm only with her for benefits, but I which at this moment can not be changed, don't have a social ground, this girl however is older then me and is able to travel down to my area and stay with me for couple of weeks to month at a time sometimes. Which right now I think I need someone who is capable of spending allot of time with me. Sorry to say, but I honestly believe you are with this girl for the benefits. It actually kinda sounds you need her more than she needs you. But that's my opinion. But what is one reason why do you want to stay in this relationship, besides "benefits"? Originally Posted By: TheFallenLightI guess you could say I simply want to occasionally date other girls.Unless you talk to your girlfriend about this, you simply can't have it your way. Relationships are give and take. If you want to be faithful to this girl, then get rid of the idea of dating other people.However, no one can tell you what to decide. That is up to you. How do you feel about this girl, honestly? Again I'll ask, why is it you stay with this girl, besides the lame benefits and I-can't-get-another-girlfriend reason? Is the relationship worth more than that?If you don't want to stay, then don't stay. But also don't get the idea of dating other girls while you're with her. That's not fair to your girlfriend and you should have enough respect for her to leave her before you go off dating other people.
your young and full of raging hormones. from the way that you talk about her it sounds like your too young to even know what it means to be in a serious relationship with another person. if you wanna break up with her and date someone else, then by all means do so, just don't go behind her back and be an asshole about it. also, don't let your self be trapped in a relationship out of guilt because you think the other person might cut or become depressed, it's unhealthy. your way too young to have to feel like you are emotionally responsible for another person in that way. if you are worried about her tell a school counselor and let them help her, you can still be her friend and support her, but you shouldn't have to feel like her problems are your burden to bear.