Does it seem that family (sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, cousins) are just strangers whose life you know a lot about? I mean, I know the names of most of my cousins and aunts and things, but I hardly talk to them except when I have to for holidays and things, I don't like them, they aren't good people, they we inheirantly as a society have to forge this ridiculous relationship with these strangers just because its our society and culture to. It seems so stupid./end rant
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I agree, Java. And sometimes families do very great harm. Of course families can be great when they work well, but I think the concept is put on too high a pedestal.
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I also found that really ood. I mean, I know the members of my family but I don't know really much about them. We are not in each other lives but when we do meet, we all behave like best friends.Very strange.
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I'm so tired of pretending to be nice to these people soley because I have to. I hate them, everything they stand for, yet every year I have to call them and congratulate them for being alive for another year? blaaaaaaaaaaah
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Most of my family I am pretty close to, mostly because we have the strangest resemblences. We have a couple of kids who were given up for adoption (as in, they were adopted out of our family, not in) who act and talk and look just like the rest of our family, it's kind of creepy. It's sort of like how you look at old photos of your great-great-great grandparents and realize, wow, I have that person's smile...
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That whole getting along because your family is bullshit. Don't waste your time and energy hating them, just dismiss them from your life.I have aunts and uncles that stole a lot of shit from me (big shit like land and houses) and worst of all treated mom real bad... after she had paid their way through college, bought them cars, furnished their houses... I spent a lot of time in my twenties hating them. It was a waste of energy, now I simply don't care about them. It's much easier on me. When the opportunity comes along to flip 'em over and dry hole 'em I still take it, and enjoy it, but I don't waste my energies on hating that goes nowhere.How's that for dysfunction? LoL
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I never knew how to word it myself, but i feel exactly the same as you do. I have always wondered this myself, and if I was the only one that felt this way, but what you just said describes my situation perfectly.
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LOL, I was kinda going through this last week (or the week before?) ANYHOO, I still deal with my family, I have just accepted the fact that my MADE UP family is where I am gonna invest my time and energy. It seems to be for the best. They love me like I am, and have made their investments more so than the real family.
It's pretty cool, we're family because we want to be, not because of some obligation of birth right.
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lol. mother father sister brother who gives a damn? Just because your related to me doesn't mean your worth my time a day.Right now parents = free college and such. nothing more or less.I only have one brother that i'm really attached to and I don't think of him as a brother.Actually now that I think about it.. my great grand parents are cool. and I do have one aunt and uncle who are awesome.. but, to hell with the rest.
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You really just think of your parents as free college? That's... Really really ungrateful.
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Right now parents = free college and such. nothing more or less.I hate taking money from my parents, and I swear to God, when I get money, I am paying every dime back to them, in any way I can. If they won't take the money directly, I will find a way through retirement or something.