Hi, i have just join the forum. I think my life is miserable. I dun have a friend who is close to me. i am not the anti-social kind. I am well-liked by my schoolmates in class because of my sense of humor. my friends see me as a "source of entertainment" for them. when i am there..they dun notice my existence. they normally tell secrets among themselves without telling me. And when they want to go somewhere, they will like leave me without telling me anything and they will go somewhere and talk without inviting me to their conversation. Actually, i am more of a quiet type of person. i took some steps to overcome this situation. Like i will purposely crack a joke or say something funny to notice me and talk to me. Is it I am becoming senstive or wanting attention?please help me guys on how to improve my relationship with my friends.
Having problems with my friends
Have you tried being proactive? Ask the one you get along best with if he/she wants to go do something with you. Suggest going to a movie or a strip club or the library or whatever the both of you would find fun. Do it one on one (or just three of you), leave the group behind, so that way the two of you can get to know each other better on a more personal level. That's how you build close friendships. Group dynamics are good for meeting people you know nothing about but it's time go beyond that and establish closer ties. Don't think it's something you have to plan like a date. It may be something as simple as picking him or her up and driving to a party together without the interruptions of the group.
OldFolks has good ideas. In general, being entertaining makes you well-liked, but not known as a friend. It can even put up a barrier between the class and the real you, because what you present isn't the real you. Clowns are often lonely people. For getting deeper relationships with people it's important to be prepared to open yourself up.