Wow, that's just insane what I just read. I'm really sorry that your future in-laws are giving you such a hard time. You seem to be such a good and patient woman. You're doing everything you can, but I don't know what more you can do.I say, just forget about them. What matters is the relationship you have with your fiancee. Don't lose your dignity and start being bitchy to them. You have every right to be upset but don't lower yourself. It might cause friction between you and your fiancee, since it's his family.I just hope that someday, they will wake up and realize what a good person you are for their son. Best of luck to you!
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I think i might be pregnant.....
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I get the idea your a fairly intelligent person.You are pretty young to be getting married. I would highly suggest that you take your education as far as you can possibly run with it he should as well. And.. well quite frankly.. after that never talk to his parents again. (Personally) I think his dad should shut the fuck up and deserves a nice swift kick to the testicles.. (maybe even having them cut off?) for telling you to gain weight.At the risk of sounding superficial.. I actually like for girls to weight less then me. 0.o If your small you should really be proud of it. I get disgusted when I go to the local water park.. and I feel like I'm back on the great planes.. Buffalo chicks abound!
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Originally Posted By: NnyAt the risk of sounding superficial.. I actually like for girls to weight less then me. 0.o If your small you should really be proud of it. I get disgusted when I go to the local water park.. and I feel like I'm back on the great planes.. Buffalo chicks abound! Honey, was that really necessary?
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This is a subject which I can rave on about for hours. I'm going to keep it at this. I am all for people being healthy. I can assure you the plethora of obesity is by no means attractive. I have what I feel safe in saying is a medium build for a guy.I assure you. THe people I'm talking about are by no means in any way healthy. I am against anerexia as much as I am obseity. However, I get pretty riled up to hear that her father is encouraging her to gain weight which is ultimately pointless.
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Originally Posted By: NnyI am against anerexia as much as I am obseity. However, I get pretty riled up to hear that her father is encouraging her to gain weight which is ultimately pointless. I agree about being healthy and you're right about her future father-in-law. But my problem with your comment was this... Originally Posted By: NnyI get disgusted when I go to the local water park.. and I feel like I'm back on the great planes.. Buffalo chicks abound! Is there a reason why you feel like you have to INSULT bigger people? That was just rude and uncalled for.
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Quote: Is there a reason why you feel like you have to INSULT bigger people? That was just rude and uncalled for.I hate to say it but, I feel pretty justified.(even though I'm clearly not) I'm a guy with a medium build. Not large not small. When I go somewhere and I see that the majority of the people there are over weight and bigger then I am. I can't really help but, feel disgusted.I don't support the uber slim unrealistic version of beauty found in magazines. However, I also don't believe that the solution is to simply say "let yourself go".If anyone has a legit medical reason for being over weight. Then I apologize whole heartedly.I have friends that are wayyy over weight. However, they realise its unhealthy they make an effort to change. Even if they never become uber slim models they are trying to be healthy and thats what I value.I am hard pressed to believe when I go to the water park that very many of the people there are remotely interested in losing weight.So I have no problem with calling them buffalo girls simply because even if you take out the people who are over weight but, attempting to get a better life style.. odds are the majority of the girls there are over weight with no intent of changing it.
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thank you for your help with my future in laws. honestly ive somewhat decided that im going to work from elders in. starting with my mother in laws momma and dad. they both love me, hopefully the more im around them, and the more my mother in law gets well flustered, shell go to mommy dearest and ask whats up. hopefully. if not oh well, they have the rest of eternity to get used to me being around and being madly in love with their son. OH WELL. as far as the weight thing.... i totally agree with the both of you. i have had girlfriends who were anorexic and bulemic...(i think i totally dont remember how to spell that.. it doesnt look right lol) and i also have friends who in the dr's words "dangerously obeis(wow its too late to be posting, im half asleep lol) but putting others down for their weight isnt right. honestly ive always weighed more than under 115 lbs.... to me that is very petite. but even when i weighed about 90 and was playing sports, i was constintly put down for it, simply i was told i was too fat... it affected my outlook on my self so much. now im being told im too skinny that it is unhealthy. HA! as far as im concerned, when a dr steps in and says "patient, you are endangering your health and life by being this (obeise or underweight)...." then why not just love your body for your body! its your temple. but saying rude comments about their size, although it is your opinion, isnt truly un-needed. thats just my outlook on it.
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As I have said, I take a pretty tough stance on it. Anyone out there that is over weight and makes a legit effort to change then I can exempt them.However, I think you have to keep in perspective that many people are over weight not because they have a condition, not because they have a kid and don't have time to eat healthy, they are infact over weight because they don't put down the fork and walk. Most women gain weight after child birth.. so to see most of the mothers with fairly young children (4 and under) skinnier then the single women (and not just by a little I mean by ALOT) I have to say I'm less then attracted.
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Originally Posted By: NnyHowever, I think you have to keep in perspective that many people are over weight not because they have a condition, not because they have a kid and don't have time to eat healthy, they are infact over weight because they don't put down the fork and walk.So, you feel you have a right to belittle people who's lifestyle you don't agree with? Just because they have a bit more meat on their bones? This is disappointing to hear this from someone like yourself.I'm stopping here. We got off topic.