Hi, I'm 16 years old and my girlfriend broke up with me last month. Ever since then things just dont seem to be the same between us. At one point she's telling me that she still loves me and cares for me, and then the next moment she's talking behind my back, and basically being a complete slut.Alright maybe it wouldn't be quite so bad if this was the first time she'd fucked me around. But its far from the first time, it's my fifth time round in 3 years, and I hate myself for being stupid enough to fall for it every fucking time. But I still love her and i can't seem to change that. I wish I could it's tearing me up inside and I really dont know how much more punishment I can take. I feel lonely and sad, I've turned from being the life and humour of a group, to an emotional wreck.I didn't talk to her for a year and was finally starting to forget about her and getting my life back on track, when she decides to attempt suicide, and I find her in a hospital. I now feel like im adding to everything bad in her life and I think that im not making things easy for her. As if she doesnt have enough problems of her own right now. I can't sleep at nights and i find it hard to smile and laugh, which i normally could never stop doing.I cant be botherd with anything anymore. I sleep in late, and put no effort into anything. I stay home and play games all day, and feel I've nothing better to do. It also doesnt aid in the fact she keeps telling me i've changed, when i know for a fact that i have not changed in the slightest way what so ever. At least not until she turned me into a miserable emotional wreck.She also seems to love making me feel jelous and awkard in front of my friends, which they all wind me up about, and then I dont know what to say, or where to look, and just attempt to laugh it off. Everything around me right now just seems so incomplete and worthless and I dont know how to fix things. I just dont know what to do anymore any advice would be much appreciated.~Thanks
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Finding it hard to cope
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Whatever she is, she's not healthy for you. With people like that, the only thing you can do is cut all contact. Completely. Permanently. Don't talk to her. Put her on ignore lists. Don't answer her calls.It's time to make a fresh start in life without her.
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I wish it was that easy to forget about her. But i just cant get her out of my head, and it's been like this for 3 years now.
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hunni, listen to me, you seem like such a nice person you do not need to put with this shit from her. i know it hurts, ive been through some pretty nasty breakups. just cut her out of your life. thats what i did, and it made life soooo much easier.
time heals everything. i promise :smile: -
Here is my recommendation.Sit back in your chair. Plug in some headphones to your comp and headbang like a retard. Or dance like a retard. Or do whatever. Just make sure your having fun and acting retarded.Call up a real friend and ask him (or her) to go skating or to a movie or whatever.You will probably always carry some scar on your heart from this. I know I will probably always have marks from mine. You might not realise you have changed.. but, you probably have.The fact that your posting means you want to get over her.. kudos for that. You have to (and it hurts don't get me wrong) slowly walk away. I was in a relationship where I was obsessed with the girl before.. I lead myself on for a year.... and she sorta sat back and watched me..It wasn't until I said "I'm gunna find someone else" taht I realised tahts all there is to it.. finding someone who you want to hang out with and doing something fun with them.
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Originally Posted By: HelmsmaN
Wow man, you're only 16, and this emotionally wrapped up in this crazy story of hers?
Exactly.
Screw her story.
Start writing your own.