okay..I'll try to shorten this up & not make it confusing, but i got alot on my mind so i might just end up putting random thoughts here and there. Just bare with me.So theres this guy (ill call him Ken). We've had little crushes on each other for the past..mmhh about 5 years. In the last year we started getting very close and it become much more then a crush. We were going to start a relationship when my parents decided BAME we were going to move states away (about an 8 hour drive ). So we just stuck really close & it was pretty much like we were dating.We ended having sex a few times (I stayed up all night with him the last night i was there). It was his first and my second. Ive been gone for about 2 months now. I still feel just as close to him as ive always, nothing much has changed except...theres some other girl now. Before I left I told him I wanted him to be happy & find a girlfriend as long as he doesnt forget about me. I dont know what im worried about. Mabye im just jealous? I mean, they arent dating & they dont do anything together, they just talk. But is it possible to love someone & like someone else? He always talks about being with me & how he cant wait till we can see each other again.I mean obviously im going to want to date someone else around here sometime soon. Im being selfish? Thats what it is.I guess my questions really are..How can I get over my jealousy? & Is this really worth fighting for? I feel like it is, but mabye its just not possible. I mean, 2 more years (with a few visits). It doesnt seem long, but at the same time it does.
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But he drives me crazzzzy!
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Unfortunately, it's hard to compete from a distance with someone who is close at hand.
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Maybe giving it space or time or something.. I dk how to word this. Long distance is hard to do. In a way yea…like wut helms said. I went threw that. Shannon (my gf now) I dated years ago… she broke up with me cuz I moved away (to the coast) while I lived on the coast I dated two other girls. Well we moved back and about a month after we moved back I was dating Shannon again. (still dating Shannon) while I had two girlfriends (and yes I couldn’t keep my penis in my pants!) she had no boyfriends during that time, was about 4 years. She said she never dated anyone…. dk.. I don’t think she’d lie to me about that. so.. i dk
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Easier for girls to not date, or easier for girls to lie?
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I think its easier for girls to lie about somethings and easier for guys to lie about somethings.I definitly think its probably easier for a girl to not date xD.\To the OP.. I hate to say it.. but, I think your hurting yourself long term. I hate to seem shallow.. however, I'm a guy and I don't think I'll ever try long distance relationships again. I personally consider the physical aspects of a relationship extremely important."I love you" is great to see typed. "how do you really feel" is great to be herd over the phone. Yet, nothing quite takes the place of that accompanied with a hug. Hearing "i'm so happy you got to do _____" isn't quite the same as "THAT WAS AWESOME WHEN WE _____"Its never easy to be young and want a serious relationship. I would really suggest letting him go.
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Thanks CR125.That story makes me feel better.I understand the whole physical thing. I dont think its much different with girls either. Hugs & kisses deffinently mean more then just alot of talk. Its good to have alittle of both.Im gonna try to stay good friends with him. Mabye even get a bit friskyy when I come into town ;). Haha.But ill still be hoping that he'll end up in my life again.I just need to get over all this jealousy!!!
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Try finding another guy.
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Girls and girls can be friends.Boys and boys can be friends.Girls and boys can be friends.Just because its a girl and not a boy, you shouldn't always assume the worst of a male just because of his gender.