Porn addiction

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I'm 12-going-on-13 and have had a porn addiction for 2 years now. Can anyone help me stop watching porn??

I got into the business of supplying myself and my friends with porn in third grade, and I have been doing it ever since (I'm in twelfth now). My personal opinion of the majority of porn is that it is evil. Because of these things, I believe I have rather a good amount of knowledge on this subject, and on mental, moral, and emotional conflictions it can cause. I just thought I would preface my reply with that.

Now, before I give you any advice, I would like to ask some questions:
1. Why, and how, did you start watching porn?
2. What is your reason for wanting to stop?
3. Where do you acquire the porn? (Free internet sites, magazines, peer-to-peer programs, etc.)
4. Why do you watch porn? Do you just look at the porn because you like to look at it, or do you use it as a masturbational aid, or something else?
5. Do you look at porn only when you are alone, only when you are with other people, or both?
6. Where do you watch porn? (Home, school, friend's houses, etc.)
7. How often do you watch porn?
8. How long would you guess your average porn watching "session" is?

Those are the only questions I can think of right now. I don't think anyone could give you any good advice without knowing that information. If you can think of anything important that is not asked by any of those questions, it would be helpful in analyzing your situation. I hope, if you want my help and don't mind my lengthy writing style, that I can help you out with this.

1. Why, and how, did you start watching porn?I came across a video while I was searching something.2. What is your reason for wanting to stop?It's controlling my life.3. Where do you acquire the porn? (Free internet sites, magazines, peer-to-peer programs, etc.)Free internet sites.4. Why do you watch porn? Do you just look at the porn because you like to look at it, or do you use it as a masturbational aid, or something else?Curiosity.5. Do you look at porn only when you are alone, only when you are with other people, or both?While I am alone6. Where do you watch porn? (Home, school, friend’s houses, etc.)My Grandmother's house.7. How often do you watch porn?2 times a week.8. How long would you guess your average porn watching "session" is?1/2 an hour.I answered your questions, can you help????

Step one: Delete your historyStep two: Set up Child blocks on your browsers, and/or delete any porn downloading programs that you have.Step three: Take a post-it note, write "NO!!!" on it, and stick it on your monitor. As far as the child blocks go, type in a bunch of giberishand copy and paste it into the confirm password box, if, there is one.

Tell your Grandmother that you're disturbed because of random things that come up on your computer that scare you or concern you. Ask her if she can get a filter to block that stuff. That way, you get the filter and she doesn't have to know what you've been up to. Plus, she'll think you're the nicest grandson in the world.

You can create a Parental Control Program, but 2 times a week isnt too much, but the best way to control it its by yourself (internal thinking or idk)

Thanks you guys but just one thing, I'm a girl not a guy.

Sorry!I mean nicest granddaughter in the world.

Sorry I asked all those things and then didn't reply for a while. Alright, the first thing I have to say is: Addicited? Twice a week for a half hour each time? That's only one out of the one hundred and sixty eight hours in a week. That does not sound like an addiction at all. And you say it is "controlling your life"? What do you mean? Nothing you do for 0.6% of your time (I acually calculated that) can control your life. If I were you I would re-evaluate this whole thing, and think hard about whether or not I was blowing this way out of proportion. I mean some people spend several hours every day looking at porn, and get along just fine with their lives. I don't mean to be mean, blunt, or insensitive, I just want to try to get you to put things in perspective and realize what a small, harmless part of your life this is. If you really think about this for a while and you still think it's a big problem, I'll be happy to help more if I can. I just think you may be making to big a deal, and worrying to much, about something that is really not a problem. Watching porn at your age (or any age in some cases), is in my opinion, just a normal, curiosity driven acivity. And, as it's alternatives (casual sex, voyuerism, complete ignorance, etc.) are all worse and much more dangerous, even watching porn can sometimes a good thing.

I don't know - when I was 12 I would look at any porn I could see (which, being the days before the internet, was hardly any, and mainly boobs). I don't think the other boys my age were any different. In those days it was our best guide to what women looked like under their clothes - the diagrams in the furtively-thumbed "Reproduction" article in the encyclopedia weren't very helpful. We assumed the girls felt differently about porn, but perhaps they didn't.

I don't know - when I was 12 I would look at any porn I could see Sure, but can you really compare the "porn" we looked at in a magazine in our time and the PORN kids are exposed to these days on the internet?

There's no doubt there's stronger stuff available now on the Net than what was in magazines in those days - though a decade later, still well before the Net, kids were probably rifling through their fathers' video stashes and had access to much stronger stuff than my friends and I saw.My point is that the idea that 12 year olds play innocently with never a thought below their navel has never been true. For me, and I think for most, it was a time of transition.

kids were probably rifling through their fathers' video stashes and had access to much stronger stuff than my friends and I saw. Sure it was a time of self discovery for any child at that age, then and now. But again, even if "some" kids might have had access to thier parents video's, it was definitely not as prevalent and accessible as it is with the internet today. You seem to be excusing the excessive exposure to porn on the net because we also "kinda" did it too. It seriously doubt it is a "positive" influence on this generation.

It doubt that it's positive, but I doubt that most of it is very negative either. I don't think it matters greatly either way.We've never bothered with parental controls on computers for the girls. The older has been upset more by newspaper reports and polical Net articles than anything else; the younger more by social interactions.

_I don't think it matters greatly either way.
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Can't say I agree with that.

There was a lot of debate about this, you may remember, in the late 1960s and 1970s, in the context of the legalisation of pornography. Most studies found what their authors wanted them to find, but in fact there was little evidence anyone could find in either direction. Rapists possessed pornography, but when Denmark legalised pornography the number of rapes decreased.There's no doubt that porn gives a false idea of sex, but those who wish to suppress it don't advocate putting real sex on the Net instead.

To HelmsmaN: Everyone I know well enough to know whether they've watched porn or not, about 27 people as far as I can recall, watched porn when they were 12 or earlier, and it did not cause any kind of harm to any of them. That, combined with the natural curiosity about bodies and sex that generally heightens at that age if not before, the fact that most people in that age range lack alternate means of exploring that curiosity, and the easy access to soft and/or hard porn, often leads to watching porn. Not because these people have some kind of problem, not because they are evil, not because they are sex maniacs, and not for any other negative reason, just because they have a natural and completely normal curiosity. Also, watching porn does not lead to or increase the chance of people having underage sex and/or unprotected sex and/or protected sex and/or any other kind of sex, and it also does not lead to or increase the chance of teen pregnancy. Actually, more often than not, when young teens release their sexual tension and appease their curiosity by watching porn, they are less likely to do negative sexual things like those. All those FACTS put together are why I said it was normal. So maybe you should think more before you start babbling crap about things you don't know about, and probably scaring young girls with your exaggerated and incorrect information.To Ineligible, sdp, and HelmsmaN: Whether or not I agree with any of you, I think we should all stop arguing and concentrate on helping this nice young girl. I don't know about you people, but I joined this site to try to help people, not to argue with people.

maybe you should think more before you start babbling crap about things you don't know about, So as a "late teens" guy, you are now an expert? Who's to say you're not "babbling crap about things you don't know about"?

Wow...okay, I tried not to hit the reply button but I couldn't help it because I can't read that and not say something to you. I have no idea where to start. Everyone, forgive me for what I'm about to say!  Originally Posted By: MrZEDOI got into the business of supplying myself and my friends with porn in third grade, and I have been doing it ever since (I'm in twelfth now). My personal opinion of the majority of porn is that it is evil. Because of these things, I believe I have rather a good amount of knowledge on this subject, and on mental, moral, and emotional conflictions it can cause. I just thought I would preface my reply with that.That makes NO sense whatsoever. Because you've seen boobies, penises, and vulvas since you were eight that makes you an expert on porn? That's the most ridiculous thing I've EVER heard. And if that in itself isn't an addiction to porn (a self-proclaimed "expert"), I don't know what is. Originally Posted By: MrZEDONow, before I give you any advice, I would like to ask some questions:...The questions you asked were, in my honest opinion, really creepy and unnecessary. She asked for help in not looking at anymore porn, and yet you say it's "normal", giving her the okay to continue watching? What kind of help is that? Originally Posted By: MrZEDOEveryone I know well enough to know whether they've watched porn or not, about 27 people as far as I can recall, watched porn when they were 12 or earlier, and it did not cause any kind of harm to any of them.Horray for them, but that doesn't help this young girl here. Originally Posted By: MrZEDOAlso, watching porn does not lead to or increase the chance of people having underage sex and/or unprotected sex and/or protected sex and/or any other kind of sex, and it also does not lead to or increase the chance of teen pregnancy. Actually, more often than not, when young teens release their sexual tension and appease their curiosity by watching porn, they are less likely to do negative sexual things like those. All those FACTS put together are why I said it was normal.Are you serious!? If what you said are indeed "facts", PLEASE show me the proof. Right now, all I'm reading is a bunch of blabbering words that are coming out of your ass. Either put up or shut up. Originally Posted By: MrZEDOSo maybe you should think more before you start babbling crap about things you don't know about, and probably scaring young girls with your exaggerated and incorrect information.An 18-year-old who knows more about sex than a man who's wiser and old enough to be his father? Puh-LEASE! Originally Posted By: MrZEDOTo Ineligible, sdp, and HelmsmaN: Whether or not I agree with any of you, I think we should all stop arguing and concentrate on helping this nice young girl. I don't know about you people, but I joined this site to try to help people, not to argue with people.Yes, let's help this young girl by telling her to GET RID OF THE PORN instead of saying "Hey, it's normal!".

I'm here, I'm here! Heh heh, hope I wasn't too hard in raising the bullshit flag. But yes, it's crazy what I read. I would really love to see what he has to say next.