shit i dnt know where to begin here. my brother is 2 years older then me (16 and 18) we are moving from nor cal to switzerland in 3 weeks. we have known about this move for close to 6 weeks now and so i have been trying to have fun before i go. for the past 2 weeks my parents were in switzerland looking for a house and my 80 year old grandma came out to hold down house. he has been working working a community service job and my mom made me join him working as a TA for the mep at the locale university. When i joined he quit and took up another community service job doing reserch at a uc. i did not want to be there and did not put forth all that much effort. after the first session (6 weeks and 180 hours) a second session was about to start and i told the people i would not do it. this was right before my parents went away. they needed more help and asked him and he accepted it ontop of his other community service job. now he is leaving 7 am home at 7 pm both for things that he chose to do. he now accuses me of causing to work him to work as the TA and when i did it i did a shitty job and ruined our "good family name". he said he is doing them both to get into college (he will be a senoir next year) and now says i took over his old job making him get a new one then lieing so he has to work 2 now or saying he is doing it because htey needed help and he helps his community. my parents went away and in my free time i have been helping out with my six year old brother during the day driving him and my grandma around and overall babysitting him. my older bro told my parents he would watch him at night and put him to bed and shit so at night i go out and have fun. over the past week he progressivly become more of a dick about how i am doing nothing for the community and confronting me about how long i am out and where i go. i have a curfew of 11 pm and he called my parents long distance to tell them i was out past it twice (once i was 10 minutes late the other time i was spending the night at a friends). i found out yesterday that he looked up on my computer all the placing i had gotten directions too (i have no sense of directions so need directions to go everywhere) and looked up who/what were at the location of the maps i looked at. i found today that he was going through my shit looking for random shit. he found a box of condoms and confronted me about it and how much time iv spent with my gf with my parents gone. the place where i used to keep my stash was totally torn apart. im trying to have fun because we are moving in 3 weeks. last night leaving the house i had a bottle of vodka and a pack of cigs and he took the vodka talking about drinking and driving and then took the cigs saying they were bad. this doesnt make since because he smokes and was the person who i first smoked cigs with. he has been telling my parents that all i have been doing is playing video games and not helping out and when i have to watch my little brother i have been having him watch tv. i let him watch the disney channel while my grandma naps and my older bro claims that the shows are for teen age girls and tells me that im irrasposible for having him watch them. i have offered to help while he is at home and he tells me im to immature to watch my little brother or will call me up and tell me to come home and watch him and critize every step i do. anyone have any suggestions on what i should do? my parents come home in 2 days and i do not want him to rat me out about everything iv ever done but i think he will. i would not put it past him to try to frame me. he knows i have been over at my gfs house with no one there and that iv gone to a hooka bar. he knows i smoke cigs and other stuff and drink so i am worried about the blackmail or him simply telling my parents believing to do me a favor. my parents so far have believed his reports over mine and my grandmothers and my little brother thinking i am biased i bribed my little brother and my grandmother does not pay attention. in the past i have just avoided him but he has gone out of his way to make it no longer possible. in the past he has been chill with anything i do but is no longer.ps im sorry for the spelling and if some does not make since im not totally sober and it is late at night.
Brother being a dick
It's clear that you and your brother have very different personalities. On the one hand it seems that responsibility is not your strong suit, while my feeling is that your brother has a strong sense of duty.People with a strong sense of duty sometimes become excessively anal when they are put in a position of responsibility. Indeed, that's fairly common - new teachers, for example, are often over-strict and unbending before they get more experience and confidence and are able to be flexible. When you are in charge but not sure of yourself you tend to stick to the rules; when you are more sure of yourself you become more confident about when to enforce the rules and when to let things go.Your brother probably feels that he has been left in charge and responsible for you. In that he is probably over-estimating the situation, and he is over-doing it. That's my reading of it - coloured by the fact that it's what I once did.I suggest that when your parents come home that you make your own report on what has happened since they were away in a balanced and rational way, to give it the most credibility, and make it early. But it would have helped if you had worked a bit more and played a bit less.