Women are attracted to confident men. Why do you think those guys who are real jerks seem to have a girl hanging off their arm all the time. Because they have confidence.
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18 and never been with a girl, im pathetic
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why would i want a women who likes jerks? I dont want to be anyone but myself. Not some jerk who looks down at everyone else.
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You don't have to be a jerk to be confident. You can be confident without looking down on other people. Confidence isn't necessarily giving yourself a high rating, and it isn't being someone different. Confidence is having faith in yourself as you are. It's knowing that though you are far from perfect, yet you are worthwhile.
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I guess you misunderstood me. Inelegible put it well. You don't have to be a jerk, but confidence in who you are and what you stand for are key.
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I think I am not confident enough because I am not satisfied with the way I look. I went to the gym last night and ran for 2 hours... I felt really good afterwards.I am going to just stop trying and stop looking like you said, and 'let it come to me'.
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I agree with the guys who've said 'confidence matters, it can make or break you in many situations.
For example, there could be two well dressed, clean cut, good looking men in a room. One introduced himself to me, gave me a firm handshake and looked me in the eye and acted like it was the high light of his day to meet me. The other looked at the floor as he mumbled 'hello,' shook my hand but didn't put any enthusiasm behind it and basically acted as though he really couldn't care less if I was there or not. Which do you think I would gravitate towards?
You can be confident without being a jerk. Be proud of who you are and where you come from. You don't have to act like someone else in order to get the girl, being yourself is far more sexy to a woman than acting like something you're not (that makes everyone look pathetic when they do that).
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Hey mate, look at it like this. Being physically attractive only gets you an audition with a woman, if your all show but you have no substance ur nothing. You consider yourself to be good at talking to women once ur over the insecurity of ur appearance but really, take a look around, are you the worst guy youve seen with a girl? I seriously dout it.I look at myself and i see flaws, i would rate myself 7/10 in looks but others would say 8 or 9. I dont make that much effort in my appearance, my hairstyle is shocking but i am fairly stylish and do have a cool appearance, i think im cool therefore i come across as cool.Went out Fri/Sat night aware of my flaws but still i get plenty of female attention, i rarely look up and not have a girl look at me, but why? I dunno. I always think that if i was a woman i wouldnt look at me twice but they do, i have a cool personality too and when im 'in the zone' i can have any women i want.I asked a girl what it was about me she liked soo much. She couldnt put her finger on it, she said it was how i walked, how i moved, how i spoke, how i looked at her, she said that compaired to people about i look powerful and confident.It really all comes down to self confidence. I know im a great guy. I know myself, i know what i am, i am the shit. By putting the flaws i see in myself to one side and accentuating my strengths i come across as charismatic and get attention without even speaking to a girl, you can tell a lot about what a girl is thinking by the way she looks at you, if she likes you her eyes she likes what she sees, if not her eyes will be dull. Also if she looks at you more than 2-3 times she probably like what she sees. Know you are THE man and assume she wants you.It is a fact of life that its the guys who have to stick their neck out with women, it is best to make them went you before you start talking to them, that way the feel special that you picked them out of all the other girls, doing things the other way is much harder as you have to make her like you.--------------------------This is all you need to think"You are THE man" If you beleive you are THE man you will start to become THE man you have to beleive ur a great guy, know it, live it. -----------------------------What you say is only like 12% of how you communicate, body language is the key, walk tall, slow, head up, by moving in a confident way you stand out.Eye contact is key. As i said you can tell a lot by someone from their eyes, if someone looks you in the eyes make sure you hold their gaze for a few seconds. Let them look away first but if you look away first DONT look down, look into someone elses eyes but dont have shifty eyes. Dont stare either :PI could write all day on this topic (i have been known to) It may get you thinking a bit, if it does it was worth the typing. Just remember that YOU ARE a great guy.