Few Questions
Well me and my girlfriend have been going out for close to 3 months. I fingered her for the first time tonight this is the most either of us has ever done. she said she really enjoyed it but it was starting to feel sore so we stopped. anyway my questions are.
Is it normal to feel sore or slightly painful during the first time.
secondly she is very quiet i mean made no sound whatsoever exept for breathing deeper. will she get more vocal as time goes on or is it that she will always be quiet?
Hey, welcome back, byrd!You want to be particularly gentle the first time, especially if she isn't used to it. Perhaps you were being a little rough?Some women are naturally quieter than others. That can be an advantage.
I got way more vocal as soon as my boyfriend and I knew what we were doing. we were both virgins and we were really bad at sex and kissing and everything in general. As he got used to my body and I got used to his, I became far more vocal. I used to just breathe heavy but now I scream at the top of my lungs sometimes. About her being sore, maybe you were just touching her clitoris which does not produce any lubrication. Sometimes you need to go back farther and get some lubrication from her vagina. You don't need to stick your finger in; you can just sorta slide your finger by it. She'll like that and it'll feel nice for you two. Also, using some foreplay before you do anything will make her more wet down there and more fun.She may just be a naturally dry person so you two may have to go to a store and buy some lubrication. I hope this helps!
Thanks for the welcome back it has definatly been a while. anyway as for her being wet she was soaked when we go farther a towel will be needed :smile: although i may have been to rough at the start i quickly eased off and was very gentle. and as for touching the clit dry that may be true as well because i switched hands. but i will keep all this in mind for next time.
with her being soaking wet, does she become that way after a while of touching or is she just that way all the time? If she becomes that way, I'd say you are doing a heck of a job at pleasing her. What she's feeling may not be pain but may be increased sensitivity from an orgasm. sometimes I have to push my boyfriend out of me because I'm just way too sensitive from orgasming. And I think she is just a very quiet women. Some are loud and some are quiet.
it was from me messing around a bit foreplay and whatnot. but i dont think she orgasmed she may have but cant you usually tell?
Not all guys can tell if they get a girl off. We are sneaky that way, this being said, we can fake it too. There are girls out there that squirt, but I personally don't know any. That is going to be a good give away, if you find a girl that squirts.Some girls may twitch a little after they get off, but also for some girls the sensitivity goes way up and the girl needs time to cool down and so you will need to stop touching her.
You just met someone who squirts. Me. I don't always "squirt" when I orgasm but the best orgasms I've ever had were the ones where I "squirt." :P
Well thank you all for the advice i tweaked how i did it and it worked much better tonight thank you. and also off topic but i just noticed that it says im a new member even though i started in '04 lol
Yes, you're not really new at all, but it works on number of posts.I'm glad it was better tonight!
I'm glad it worked better tonight for you! Good luck with your love life!
ok well i have one more question. the other night i gave her oral but since she has never had anyone do this sort of thing she dosent know what an orgasm would feel like and I certanily have no idea how it feels for a girl. so how will she know what does it feel like for her?
If she had one, you'd both know it.
Originally Posted By: hotpants
Not all guys can tell if they get a girl off. We are sneaky that way
thats why i asked
