Where to begin? So I've been hanging out with this girl who lives in my neighborhood. Latley she calls me everyday and I pick her up, we pick up her friend and we go out and do things. One day we went to lunch, one day we just drove, one day we went to my house and chilled. Just random stuff. The problem? I feel like I'm being a royal dick to them but they make it so I have to be.For example, I'm at the gas station filling up my car and they keep beeping my horn. Over and over again! WTF!! Eventually, before getting yelled at I opened the door and almost yelled but I didn't instead in a very serious tone I just said "Hey! Stop that shit!" and they both looked at me like I was crazy and then they looked at eachother and laughed. Other times they look like they don't have much respect for me/my things. My one friend was in the backseat with her feet on my seat (in my brand new car) and the other was doing the same. There are other times where they ask me to come to certain things (like parties) or take them places (like the supermarket) when I don't want to go, etc. I just have no friggin clue what the hell they're all about. I would say they're using me for my car but my one friend wanted me to go to her house and chill there with her. So the only question left is, does me acting like an asshole saying "No to this" and having to tell them to stop doing things a likeable trait? If I hang out with them for 2 hours I need a nap haha and I'm 17 (and they're 15). Also, a bit unrelated. Not the same girls but I was friends with this other girl for 4 years and last December I told her I had a crush on her. I think things may of been weird for a while, but then we started working together and things seemed alright. I asked her to go to the movies one night and I told her it was as 'just friends' because we had just recently discussed being 'just friends'. She kept avoiding it and one night I snapped and asked 'why'. She said she never goes to the movie with just one guy because she feels as though she is 'leading him on'. It didn't matter how many times I told her it wasn't a date, she still said she wouldn't do it because it would be 'leading me on'. Again, what the hell? So these are my 2 problems. Any feedback appreciated.Thanks,
Quote:I'm 17 (and they're 15).There's your answer right there. They're teenage girls, that's how the silly ones behave. If you don't like what they are doing, simply stop hanging out with them until they mature. Quote:She kept avoiding it and one night I snapped and asked 'why'. She said she never goes to the movie with just one guy because she feels as though she is 'leading him on'.That you did to yourself. You have to respect her feelings and if she doesn't want to go out with you, you gotta accept it.
Well, yeah, I agree with everyone else. If this continues to a point where you absolutely are intolerant of it, then you have to find a way to get away from these people. If they tell you to bring them somewhere again, just tell them no and you don't feel like it, and if they whine and ask why, then you can say that you've done enough for them, and you deserve a break! Especially after the way they seemed to take you and your car for granted.
Dude there only using you for your car. Just stop hanging out with them. The way they sound to me, I would just never hang around them to begin with. Or you know what you REALLY should do is next time they do shit like that, just stop the car. Tell them to get the hell out.And for the other problem, it seems shes just not gonna change, so bring one of your friends with you.
aight dude, listen.About the girls that you are driving around. You need to stop caring about what they want and man up. Understand what YOU want and act only from that. I can't tell by the info u gave me, whether they are only using you, but only drive them when you want to, and if you are HAPPY to go with them. About the girl you asked to the movie just "as friends". at first when she said she doesn't want to lead u on, u said it was just as friends. but if she still doesn't budge in her decision, this should be a clear sign that she doesn't want to hang out with you. Do you still have feelings for her? If you do, thats probably why. girls can sniff that stuff out.
This is about the second part of your post. The girl who won't go to the movies as friends.
I'm actually exactly like her.
I don't go to movies one-on-one as friends.
I do not want to tempt them.
They may not want/plan to do anything, but the temptation and feelings are still there.
Instead, invite another person, or a bunch of mutual friends and go together.
She'll be more comfortable, and hopefully, you will too.
It's kinda hard to explain this kind of stuff over the internet, but i hope you understand what i mean.