Craig at 44 years old

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Hi Everyone!! I hope you're OK. It would seem like a big waste of time if after I went to the bother of uploading some new photos to my homepage - no one saw them!! [Don't you think?!]So if you would like to see what I look like - at 44 years old - click on THIS!!And while you're at it - take a look at the rest of my homepage - too. Have a great day!!GREAT BIG HUGCraig!!

Craig, i think you're even better looking now than the pics i saw yesterday, i hope i age as well as you seem to lol

I havent been on here in a while, but I have to say, you look really sexy!!!!

When I first opened this thread I was expecting to see an ugly fat guy at his computer that everyone was just being nice to, but jesus christ man, you look great! I would never guess that you were in your 40s!

Wow Craig, you look amazing for your age sweetie! And no, I’m not implying that 44 is ‘old’ by any means (it’s just that I know people who don’t look as good at 30!). Kudos on the weight loss too!! Now if only I could get the motivation to do the same...

For a second I thought it was a joke and that was a picture of a guy chokin a little girl XD"here is ME!"*uploads picture of girl getting her head sawed off.Anyway gotta admit you aged well. I'm 19 and on the downhill slope...wait.. i'm 19.... crap.. where did 18 go? 0.o I don't remember anything 0.o

i dk wut to say really.. but u look different..differnt in a good way. i dk.. i thought the beard (from u at 42) made u look older than the pics of u at 44. all i was thinking really after seeing the beach pics is wtf were u on about wiht not looking good in digtal pics? Dude!

I think you're better looking now

Craig, I think I love you........ because you're older tham ME!!

Dude, wtf are you worrying about? I'm not gay or nothing but even I can tell you look good for a guy, especially for being 44.

Stop worrying about your looks. You talking about your looks makes people like me look like ugly farts. Be happy with what you got.

i love the SRT8

Well I am gay and I think you are a VERY handsome man. As Angel said, you look better than the pic I seen last week!

You look great!

Hi Everyone!! I hope you're OK. Thank you VERY much for ALL of the wonderful compliments. It really means a lot to me. Now I have to say... I know that some people might think it's vain of me to ask people to see my photos - but it was a risk I have to take. [In my quest to become more realistic about what I really look like] I was bullied for the first 15 years or so of my life BECAUSE of my looks. [I was the biggest kid - height and weight wise - in my school] I have always [As a result of that bullying] felt extremely insecure and have always wished that I looked like some other guy. ANY OTHER GUY!! [Well - as long as he was in shape and smaller] Because - well - IF I looked like some other guy - THEN I'd be worthy of love. It sounds sad because it IS sad. But I'm working my way through those ingrained thoughts and feelings - but it's not easy. But it sure does help when someone tells me that I am at least acceptable looking. I just have to start believing that and stop wishing that I looked like someone else. I desperately want and NEED to like the guy I see in the mirror. I want to feel good in my own skin. I'm sure many of you can understand that. Thanks again. GREAT BIG HUGCraig!!

Whoo look at you I did not expect to have a look at the pics and see a man as good looking as you !!

Hey Craig I can certainly relate to the issue you are going through. I was teased for the majority of my young life and teen years until my senior year (some unknown weird reason I became somewhat popular, that still confuses me). I was kind of the opposite of you though; I was tall but VERY thin. I was 6'2" and maybe 140 lbs. I got teased ALL the time for being so thin, and homely looking. I didn't wear nice clothing; I came from a very poor family so we wore the cheapest clothes possible. I had severe acne; lord knows that alone gave the bullies more than enough to feed off of to tease me to death.Though as I got older and left school much has changed. I know I am better looking than I was when I was in school, I dress better, my acne is gone, and I have filled out weight wise. But even so when I look in the mirror I still see that boy that was brutally teased almost every day of his life. It’s really hard to look past that, regardless how much you grow up and change; the pain is still there. As an adult I still hear the remarks about my appearance something I thought would have changed as people got older. Hearing those comments today still feels like a dagger in my heart and brings back the flood of emotions I felt as a child. It’s hard to feel comfortable in your own skin when people did everything they could to tell you you should basically be ashamed of it. I have come a long way from high school and my boyfriend now tells me all the time that he thinks I’m sexy and that does a lot to help me (though I admit I still sometimes have a hard to accepting the compliment). People who say words are only words are wrong on so many levels. Emotional damage can truly affect a person for a lifetime. I wish that these “bullies” would understand that while they are getting their kicks by teasing a peer they could also be messing that kid up for a life time emotionally. Like you Craig, I hope I can come to the point eventually to simply accept who I am and what I look like. I have come a long way, but I still hold on too much of the past. In time it’ll happen, it’s just not as easy as I wish it were.BIG HUGS TO CRAIG

Hi NtroducingMyself!! I hope you're feeling GREAT!!I appreciate you responding to my most recent message by being so open and honest about what you went through. Kids sure can be cruel. And many of those kids - unfortunately - become mean spirited adults. Just the way it is - I suppose. But I refused to be one of those kids and I refuse to be one of those adults. Like it says in my signature - "It takes far more COURAGE to be KIND than it does to be CRUEL." Not being so nice is easy - it's something that comes naturally to most of us. We have to work on being something better than that. NOT always saying what you might think takes more effort. I am truly sorry to hear that you were bullied and made to feel 'less than' because of what some people considered to be your flaws. But in reality - it was THEIR flaws [Of character - if nothing else] that was at the root of there desperate need to elevate themselves by attempting to make you 'less'. [In their minds] As far as I am concerned - NtroducingMyself - you are not only 'acceptable' - you are 'better than' most. "Sticks and stones may break our bones - but 'names' can hurt forever." - CanadaCraig GREAT BIG HUGCraig!! PS Thanks Amz for the compliment!!

I think we all know what it feels like to (some degree) bullied for our appearance; I know it all too well. I was bullied myself as a child because I've always been more of the 'voluptuous' variety.

Children can be rather cruel, especially little girls, and because I've always been overweight, I was teased mercilessly growing up. I hated who I saw in the mirror everyday, I hated how I dressed (we couldn't afford name brands as a child) and I just hated everything about myself.

I was so desperate for approval and attention from people that I allowed them to walk all over me, never once caring how pathetic I was becoming. I craved someone to 'notice' and 'love' me and it lead to many failed friendships and romances. For a long time I didn't feel like I was worthy of anyone because it had been beaten into my head by the cruel words of those pathetic people from my childhood (and from my family).

It wasn't until a few years ago that I started realizing that I didn't need someone's approval to be beautiful. I didn't need someone to tell me that I was worthy of respect or that I was worth anyone's time.

I am beautiful. I am smart. I am sexy. And dammit, I am worth more than people want to give me credit for.

Now, do I believe that most days? No, not on the surface, but I know that if I reach deep down I can find the strength to let go of all that ugliness I hold onto and realize that I don't have to allow myself to be brought down by others.

I feel where you're comming from hon. *hugs*

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"Sticks and stones may break our bones - but 'names' can hurt forever." - CanadaCraig

That is so very true, if only more people would understand that and should I also say care about it.

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As far as I am concerned - NtroducingMyself - you are not only 'acceptable' - you are 'better than' most.

Thank you, that means more than ya know :smile: *hug&

Hi Katie Lou!! :smile:

You are indeed a beautiful person. AND you don't need ME to say that. [Or anyone else - for that matter] The TRUTH is the TRUTH no matter what someone else might [or might not] have said. It sure is tough though - trying to rid ourselves of all of those lies. I am truly sorry to hear that you were bullied and lead to believe things about you that are not true. I'm glad to hear that you are finally finding your way through all that mess and coming to realize the reality of you.

A SUPER GREAT BIG HUG
Craig!! :smile: