Maybe it's me?

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My girlfriend and I have just recently been participating in sexual activities. Lol, I mean we do stuff. (for about a month) Not sex, but She's given me a handjob and even a blowjob. I offer to finger her everytime we get in 'that mood' but she usually declines me. I don't think I'd mind eating her out either. The thing is, I feel ready for all of this. Maybe not sex completely, but I think I could handle it emotionaly. She, on the other hand, is really frightened and worried about it all. She says I could finger her...but she seems to scared, so i won't unless she asks me to. Sex is totally out of the question though. I'm starting to think I'm just too...mature? I don't know. The thought and action of having sex doesn't scare me at all, I'm ready for it. She seems completely oposite, terrified at the discussing of it. It's like...she's not scared of sex, just of the thought of something entering her body.Am I more mature, or just too horny? We are only 13, but i want to have sex because i love her, not just because i have a hard-on. You know? I feel like I'm too old for my age.And i know alot of people are going to look down on me because I am only thirteen, but I'm probably more mature than alot of 17-18 year olds. I don't do drugs, i don't get into fights, i do VERY well in school. Don't think I'm just some stupid horny punk that doesn't know anything. (I've done my homework)Ps. this is my 69th post!

I think 13 is way too young for sex. You may be mature and ready but obviously she is not. Don't push her and leave her be.

first of all, ur not too horny. girls are way hornier than guys could ever imagine.i don't personally think you should be having sex at 13, but i have no idea if you are mature enough or not, so i can't tell you that as a fact.the fact that she doesn't want to talk to you about sex is confusing. i'd sit down with her and slowly open her up and let her explain why she feels uncomfortable, and go from there.

dont you think 13 is a little young for sex? i seriously doubt that she's ready, and you probably arent either whether you know it or not. i lost my virginity at 14, i know i was too young and i definately was not ready for it, i was preasured into it. 2 years later, the experience still haunts me. dont do that to yourselves, you're young. go outside and throw around a football or something, have fun. you dont need sex to have fun, or to express your love. save it for later in life, you have a lot of growing up to do

Whether you're ready or not, it's clear your girlfriend isn't. That's not surprising, and I think you should step back a bit and not pressure her.I don't think the fact that you feel ready for sex and she doesn't necessarily indicates different levels of maturity. Lots of guys feel ready for sex as soon as they can do it. Lots of girls (for whom it often means more emotionally, and who would have to bear the consequences of pregnancy) don't.

alot of people on here may get mad at me for this but...the way i see it guys want it. and if he finds a girl that is willing (note i said willing) then he's going to do it. no matter if he's 12, 13, 14, 15 ...25 or older. ur gf don't sound too willing. sorry. If she can't talk about sex.. she don't need to be doing it.(includes, oral and jacking u off too/ yes i know u said u 2 were not having intercourse) u keep saying ur mature. or asking if ur too mature for her?? but would a mature guy do something to his girl that he knows she isn't ready for? b4 u answer think about it. if u don't get wut i'm talking about then maybe ur not as mature as u think u are.

Ok. what a lot of people aren't getting is that I'm not trying to get her to have sex. I don't want to yet, and neither does she. I know I'm thirteen, and probably too young for that kind of connection with another person. What my question meant was should i feel this ready and i think ineligible and CR125 anwered that for me. A lot of guys feel ready when they find out they can, and if someone finds a partner willing, they most likely won't hold back. THAT BEING SAID, i just wanted to make it clear that I wasn't asking if i was too mature for her, and i'm not pressuring her, and I don't feel i NEED to have sex. Please let go of the fact that I'm thirteen...trust me, i know how old i am...

Originally Posted By: CR125 but would a mature guy do something to his girl that he knows she isn't ready for? b4 u answer think about it. I didn't give this information earlier, but she's asked me if i wanted to finger her. I don't want to, because she seems scared. I would NEVER do ANYTHING she is uncomfertable with. I DO respect her, don't doubt that.

um... just because you want to engage more sexually with her and she doesn't doesn't mean you're more mature. just thought I'd point that out.

Originally Posted By: Emo_BoyAm I more mature, or just too horny?Point blank: too horny. You're only thirteen with raging hormones, and after reading EVERY word in your post, you're no where near mature. Originally Posted By: JapanFan14um... just because you want to engage more sexually with her and she doesn't doesn't mean you're more mature. just thought I'd point that out. Agreed. '-')b

Quote:Please let go of the fact that I'm thirteen...trust me, i know how old i am... dude they are not going to let that go. lol

How right you are, lol.

kids get away with so many things nowadays. why can't I get away with things. darn.

Because you're a good person. Or are you trying to turn to the dark side? Lol, ever heard of the expression, "Good girls are bad girls who don't get caught."?

Quote: Good girls are bad girls who don't get caught."? that needs to be my gf's slogan. lmao

It's still my slogan, heh heh.

but I'm probably more mature than alot of 17-18 year oldsfollowed by> Ps. this is my 69th post!Don't work well together.Reading your original post just soudned to me like "I'm more mature than anyone" type attitude.I can tell just by reading what you've said in this thread that you are nowhere near mature.I can also guarantee that you aren't as mature as you want to think you are. Stop trying to grow up so fast, you're 13 dammit.

oh how I wish to be evil for a day. do you realize how much fun I would have! to yell at an annoying person maybe even "oooh" curse and not feel bad. To seriously take my dad's volvo for more than just a spin around the block. To actually ANSWER those guys that try to "holla atcha" when you walk by lol... well maybe...Dance like I "used to" to the kind of music I usually like. eh... people might think I've been possessed or something.

at 13 I was on the mummy ride in Florida screaming my head off and dancing in the rain while being chased by my older sister for eating all her cotton candy... I miss those days. lol

LOL! When I was 13, I was learning to play music, became obsessed with Pokemon, went to theme parks with my friends, was active in my after school program, and was confused for a boy because of my short hair. Boys and sex? No thanks, I was having too much fun.Ah, the good 'ol days.