I have a situation I would love some comments on. I have been married for almost 7 years and have been completely faithful except for one time last November. Before this one time my husband had been the only person I had any sort of sexual contact with. Basically I got stupid and had an unprotected one night stand with an African American man I barely knew. I did get nervous enough that the day after I did take the "morning after" pill to protect against pregnancy but honestly didnt think to much about any posible STDs. He told me he was clean and hadn't been with many women. Now it is 9 months later and I have what I think might be HPV genital warts. I have about 4 small bumps down by the entrance to my vagina. They do not hurt, are the same color as the rest of my skin, and do not seem to be growing or spreading. I need to get tested for this but am very nervous about how to explain how I could have gotten this. I am also wondering what my risk of getting HIV would have been from that one night stand. I have read that having other STDS can increas your risk of HIV. Do you think I have a high risk of having HIV as well?
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What's my risk?
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There is ALWAYS a risk, especially with a one night stand. You made a choice back then and now you have to live with it. See a doc, get tested, and make your decisions from there.If your still clean, you won't have anything to tell your husband if you don't want to.But if you have a desease, I think you HAVE to talk it out with him, YOU after all put him at risk as well.Also, was he in any other relationships before you? IF you have HPV, he may have been the one to give it to you.
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Just go get tested, and if comes out positive, have them treated. Since it's a virus, you cannot get rid of it, but you can have them burnt off and take stuff to prevent them from coming back. Just as easy as you got the HPV virus, you could have also gotten HIV. So as far as "what are my chances?" that's my only answer to that.You could claim that this was something you were born with during vaginal birth, but I'm not sure how good a lyar you are or how perceptive your husband is. It's all I can think of, but then you'd be making it sound like your mother slept around, since you'd be putting the blame on her. It's up to you.
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Well I am adopted so I suppose I really could have been born with HPV. I have had multiple abnormal pap smears in the past but have never had anything done to look at them further to figure out why. I have no problem telling him that I have HPV if that is in fact what I have. So many people get that that while it is awful to have, it isnt the end of te world either. I am mostly panicing about HIV and what that would mean for me and my family. There are so many varying statistics out there about what the risk is after 1 time. The information is very confusing.
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It is not confusing.You don't know if this guy had HIV or any other diseases. PERIOD.If he had it, and you didn't use a condom, there is a good chance you could have gotten it. If he didn't have it, your chances are zero.Go get tested. That is all there is to it. Then go from there, I hope you test negative. I also hope you have learned your lesson about such risky behavior.
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Well I am adopted so I suppose I really could have been born with HPV. Highly unlikely.