Im 20 and my girlfriend is 19, We have been togather for over 2 years now, I know shes not cheating now because we are togather alot and when we are apart we know exactly where eachother is..But the past I think she has cheated on me, The topic came up because I was talking to her friend as a fake person on a messaging system and she said "ya i know this girl who fucked two other guys, One in her hometown and one here in blah blah" Which makes exact sense because she went for a 3 week trip back to her hometown and was drinking ALOT when she was there, She admitted kissing another guy when she was drunk and I went nuts!So hence why I dont think she will tell me a DAMN thing now! How the heck do I find out, its killing me literally, I want to know if i have been her only one!Also lately I cant trust her because she has so many guy freinds (at work) so she goes to the bar with them and drinks alot, She promised me she wouldnt drink yesterday on there party day at work PROMISED , swore up and down on her grandfathers grave. And i picked her up and she was pissed drunk trying to act sober, and then today I found out on facebook that she indeed did, A guy friend said ""hhahaha your a funny drunk;)" Well I made her look totally bad, Maybe when I write it down like this I see everything and should get the hell out:(
Has she cheated?
this is gonna sound like a really mean thing to do, but it might work. make a fake name somewhere, and try to pose as one of the guys you think she's cheated on you with.
If it gets to the point where you're spying on her, there's not a lot of trust left and the relationship is in bad shape whether she's cheating or not.I think you have to consider whether you can forgive that she sometimes goes astray, or not. If you can't, there's no point in continuing the relationship. You'll be constantly suspicious, and she'll feel pressured and confined.If you can forgive her, then you need to accept this is the way she is. What you can't expect is to change her. Change may happen, but it will be when she chooses, not you.
the evidence is against ur gf. Heres what i do when it's about a relationship. In this relation ship, you are in it for YOU. If she is not making you feel better about yourself, and making your life better, dump her. Now if you feel that you can't do this, then sit down with her and tell her straight forward, say "it's either you change or i'm leaving" ... that sorta thing. plus, i think she's in need of a lesson and not taking you, THE MAN, seriously. Like when she PROMISED not to drink, and she did. i wouldn't take that from any girl, no matter how hot. (ok except megan fox)
Never EVER take the excuses:
-I was drunk.
-I was high.
-I wasn't thinking.
-I didn't know what i was doing.
-It happened too fast.
-I didn't know it would be like this.
All that stuff is bullshit.
I'm going to say this bluntly.
No sugar coating.
From what i hear, she doesn't love you.
Now, i don't know what kind of relationship you two have, but either way.
I'll put it like this.
From what i hear, she tends to do silly, perhaps even unfaithful things when she's drunk.
If she really loved you, she would acknowledge that and refrain from getting drunk and prevent problems before they happen.
I'm not saying she should stop drinking altogether.
She just needs control of how much she drinks.
If she can't even keep a simple promise such as, 'i won't drink at the party', do you really think she'd be able to keep the 'promise' to be your faithful wife?
It's common sense to be faithful.
She obviously lacks it.
I'd suggest you to end it now and only suffer a bit, rather than put up with anymore of this bullshit before or maybe even after marriage.
You will be riddled with worry whenever she leaves the house.
You will be jealous.
You will be hurt.
You will be heartbroken.
End it now and not suffer in the future.
PS. I agree with the first response post.
If you MUST know, pose as someone else to get the answer.