My mum....

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im not sure if this post goes here but o well my mum found out i self harm and shes just so dramatic she wants me to talk to her but i say i dont want to she doesnt seem to get that i dont want to talk to her she'll keep going on at me like oh you know your mutilating yourself what's so bad in your life to do this to yourself. i just dont want to talk to her i tell her all the time i would if i wanted to or could and recently i just cant express my feelings anymore i just want to spend as much time away as my family as i can these daysanyways my question is how can i get through to her that i dont want to talk to her or anyway of getting her to like calm down and maybe leave me alone without having to talk to heri know i probably have to talk to her but im just avoiding it

If you can't talk to your mom, you should talk to someone else. Self-harm is not the route to go.

yh i do go and get help but its not working it just making me feel worsei saw this letter she got and its about what she can do as a parent and the tips on there well shes doing nothing of what it says shes doing the opposite

yh part of the reason i came on here is that the people dont know me personally and wont judge me or wont think im attention seeking or anythingand the strange thing is im not even depressed anymore but im carrying on this whole thingbut i am seeking help its making me feel worse and she wanted to me seek help im doing it theres not alot more i can do for her n she dont seem to see that she wanted me to get help i am but she doesnt know what more she wants i supposebut thanks for replying and looking at my post sdp and helms x

What are you doing to get help?And you should consider yourself lucky to have someone who cares enough to try to help you. She's worried, and you not telling her anything is making it much worse for her. Since she doesn't know what's going on, she can only assume the worst.

I'm going to some mental health clinic =/ just makes me feel abnormal ya no?i just get the feeling she doesnt care sometimes she said to me that she thinks im doing it for kicks and just to get on her nerves which im actually not i dont know shes too overbearing

just makes me feel abnormal ya no?So cutting doesn't make you abnormal? Abnormal is a strong word, let's say "outside the norm" or something.> i just get the feeling she doesnt care sometimesIf she doesn't care, then why is she trying to find out what's wrong with you? Trust me, not caring is WAY different and you would know if your mom didn't care.> she thinks im doing it for kicks and just to get on her nervesWhat is she supposed to think? You're not giving her anything to work with. She sees you are cutting, that's all she knows. She's scared.> i dont know shes too overbearingAgain, she's scared about her own child. Is that so bad?

she thinks shes helping me but shes not

its not bad at least she cares butid like her to care a bit less

that sounds wrong but i just want my space

Besides feeling "abnormal", does going to this clinic help you a bit? Do you talk to someone over there?I know you don't want to talk to your mom but is there anyone whom you can talk to about whatever you are going through? Cutting yourself isn't the answer and keeping your feelings to yourself won't help you either. You can't avoid this forever.

nah the clinic doesn't help its actually useless and triggers me more and yeah i talk to this woman but shes not very goodi did talk to a friend about it briefly but it didn't relieve me of anything =/

Originally Posted By: xrachxnah the clinic doesn't help its actually useless and triggers me more and yeah i talk to this woman but shes not very goodMay I ask how it was useless? When I was seeing my therapist, I found it to be helpful. Besides listening to my problems, she would also give me lifestyle advice, like breathing exercises or a different way of thinking.But I guess there are some not so good therapists out there. Well, how about a school counselor or teacher? Or another family member who isn't your mother? Or you can always PM a mod or admin here. They are very helpful and understanding. And please don't feel like you're an outcast or anything. You may be suprised how many other people suffer through depression like you are. You're not alone in what you are going through, so please try not to see yourself as out of the norm.

shes just not very organised or certain of anything and its just really odd ive just left school and starting college in september so school is not an option lol and im not really close with anyone in my familybut thanks for the advice its helpful for me

Cutting is never a good idea.I tried it one time.. ended up drinkin alot of blood =/.Having been to "icare" once.. I can see why some councelers would make you cut yourself more >.As helms said feel free to message anyone on the board.I get the feeling there is a bigger issue involved then just cutting. There usually is..

Quote:shes just not very organised or certain of anything and its just really odd Ew, sounds like my boyfriend's therapist, lol. It sucks how people in need get people like these.  Quote:ive just left school and starting college in september so school is not an option lol and im not really close with anyone in my familyOh, if you're going to college soon, try to see if your school has a health clinic on campus. I don't know about over there, but here (in the USA) my school has a health clinic. They offer mental health counseling from certified people. That's where I went when I saw my therapist.Or, like others said before me, PM someone here on the board. Feel free to do so whenever you're ready to open up. No one wants to see you hurt yourself even further. We all want the best for you.

yeah theres therapists out there and they are so cr*p they are so clueless and barely qualified!

Well, at least you found this place. Hope things get better for you soon.

thanksso what should i say to my mum to stop her from her worrying and stuff because ive told her im not depressed and every now and then she will randomly bring up that im doing this and it angers me and i dont want her to bring it up all the time it jus makes me feel ashamed

Not much you can say will truely stop your mother.Were i ever busted cutting I would be sent straight to the mental facility.edit its just a parent thing. They will react how they will react. Its the same way with alot of things.Some people come here asking about sex and whether or not they are "ready" we all like to believe they will take our advice seriously however, the truth is when its said and done if a 14 year old ask if he is ready to have sex. Usually they are looking for approval. If they don't get it.. they will probably do it anyway. People will react how they will react. not much can really change it.

yeah she wanted me to get a c section

Don't feel ashamed. She's just worried and acting like any parent would.Being honest with her is the best way to go, I believe. She may not listen to you at first because she has a million questions in her head, but you have to be patient with her as she needs to be with you.Tell her that you are going through problems but now's not the time you feel is right to talk. You need time and space for yourself. And, once you feel ready, you'll come to her. Also, tell her how you feel uncomfortable when she brings up the subject at random. Let her know that this is very sensitive for you and your mother needs to respect your feelings.Hope this helps a bit, but I wish you the best of luck!