Telling my girlfriend?

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Hey guys

So, i was at this party, my girlfriend wasnt there. To make a long story short, i tried a drug, it wasnt anything bad.
But now i feel bad. Real bad. I dont know if i should tell her, or what to tell her.
I guess im just after some advice? :frowning:

Thanks guys

well what drug was it? is it something you know she is very against?

Hi. You obviously feel really bad about it, and you obviously feel like you have a reason to share the information with your girlfriend. To be honest, whether you just feel as though you need to talk about it, or you feel as though she has a right to know, you should just tell her the truth. She is your girlfriend, and more than likely wants to hear what you have to say. Just remember, she is your girlfriend, and is on your side. Remember though, if she doesn't approve, don't lie to her and tell her you will not do the drug again if you know that you probably will. I am not familiar with the situation,but I hope this helps a little. Good luck.

Well, it seems you feel like you should tell her, but afraid of the consequences. I'm thinking you should tell her, but all the while emphasizing the fact that didn't really want to do it in the first place, and it's not something you would do again. If she dares to suspect the truth in your reason, tell her that the proof is in your feelings. You felt bad. If you were going to do something like that again, you wouldn't feel bad. :laughing: Good luck. I hope for the best for you.

Just don't worry about it man. Seriously, when I started reading your post I was like,  Quote:here we go, another: I was drunk and made out with some girls and guys too and now I have to tell her I cheated... but you tried a drug?? Is this even that serious? Many people experiment with drugs man, not everybody cheats (see the difference in severity?) Just don't worry about it unless you feel you can bring it up in normal conversation and just play it nonchalantly.

Depending on your personal morals, legal compliance requirements etc it could be as serious (or even more so) than cheating on a girl friend.

I'm not going to egg you on either way.However, if I were in your position i'd probably talk to my girlfriend about it.

Even though narcotics are illegal, I don't think I would be stressing on whether or not I would tell my girlfriend. If anything, based on the morals, and legal compliance, he should be considering whether or not to consult legal authority. I don't see how he would stress about his girl but not about the police.

As far as the legal side; I'm speaking of employment. I don't think this is a big issue with the OP; but for some of us, doing illegal activity, or associating with criminals can cause us to lose a career, and possibly be subjected to further sanctions, investigations, and punishment.Morals (and perhaps even trust and self discipline) seem to be the OP's main concern; and unless you have the same ones I doubt you'd understand his point of view. He conveys he has done what he believes was wrong and feels remorseful for it; if he feels even the slightest urge to tell his GF about his lapse, he should consider doing so; it would be a great sign of honesty, trust, and intimacy if he tells his GF.

I'm going to laugh when he says he tried "marijuana"

Quote:if he feels even the slightest urge to tell his GF about his lapse, he should consider doing so; it would be a great sign of honesty, trust, and intimacy if he tells his GF.I guess it would depend on her personal attitude towards said drug. If she feels that it is a terrible mark on his character, than I guess he should tell her, thereby opening up line of communication create a feeling of trust, etc. But for all we know she could be like many (myself excluded) and just think it's a small one-time affair. Therefore brushing it off as another experience he's had. If that were the case, I honestly don't see how telling would help or hurt the relationship. That'd be like a child opening up to their parents that they watch porn. No real positive or negative result will follow.

I can agree with your statement 100%, I should have written it first, lol

That porn and parents example isn't a really good one, because most often the parents will make a negative result happen, like taking away computer privelages, grounding, etc.

That, I think, would depend on the background of the family. Religion, upbringing, etc. I don't really think in a lot of cases privileges would be suspended over something that could be deemed, "boys being boys". Like masturbation...AHH that's what I should've used.

Thanks for the help guys. I didnt mean to cause any friction between anybody by posting this, so sorry if i have.
I guess the right thing to do is to tell her. I will just have to pluck up the courage.

I think somebody said it depends on the severity of the drug? The drug was ecstasy. I know it was stupid, and i feel a bit stupid. It might not seem that bad to some people.. i know there a worse drugs out there that i wouldnt even think about touching. It may sound stupid but i just feel like I have broken my girlfriends trust.

But again, thanks for the help guys, the right thing to do is to tell her, if she finds out another way then that would be worse.