Well, lately, my relationship with my younger sister has been deteriating, and I suppose, I'd just like some insight on our situation. Well, to start thing off, many people view this as the "typical annoying younger sister relationship", it could be that, but I find that she's more than annoying at times, and will just flat out piss me off. There is a 3 year age difference between us, me being 16, and her 13. At times, we can be cool with eachother. Maybe watch a movie, play a video game, or something of the sort. The problem is, we're only like that maybe 5% of the time. Another 20% of the time, we just completely ignore eachother, I tend to be distant from my family that lives at home anyways, because I get annoyed easily some days. But this 20% of the time, we don't really talk or anything, we just acknowledge that the other person is there, move out of the way if they're trying to get something type of thing. The other 75% of the time, I'm just bothered by her. She is at times the general annoying sister, saying "I love you" when I enter a room, just to bother me. Or inquiring about my life, when I tend to keep things to myself. She asks so many questions, and it usually gets to me, and I tell her just to 'mind her own business'. I guess that I'm just the kind of person that can be annoyed easily, but it's gotten to the point where I hardly even talk to my sister anymore, except for telling her to leave me alone, or that I'm going out and to tell mom sort of thing. Lately, I've been wondering if this general annoyance with her, is just a stage in our lives, that we will grow out of with time, or if this will define our relationship in the future, which would probably not be a very good thing.
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Relationship with my sister.
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Sounds like a typical brother-sister relationship.She tries to annoys you, it works, so she does it a lot. That's all it really is.
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Sounds like a typical brother-sister relationship. It will only get worse now that the both of you are going through puberty.She will grow out of being annoying but if you still have other issues with her and don't work it out, then it could be a problem.
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everytime she annoys you, use physical violence, using your better strngth to limit the fooling around
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. . . . ?To the OP: As everyone else said (bar GaryBazmorfin's post which I have yet to fathom the reason for) it sounds like a typical sibling relationship. I was like that with my sister until a couple of years ago - there is a 5 year age difference between us, and we didn't start getting along properly until I was about 17, and she was 22. It will chill out eventually
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If that was supposed to be a joke, it wasn't even close to funny.
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I had the same issues with my sister, except I'm the younger sibling. During the teenage years there is always that kind of squabbling and distancing. Now I'm 19 and she's 22, and we get on better than we have in years.It'll pass in a few years.
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I don't agree with the whole "typical" scenario people are posting about brother sister relationships. My relationship with my sis has always been a loving one, we have never fought. Although we are distant from eachother ever since she was like seven and I was her fulltime babysitter (I'm eleven years older), but when she was a lil kid I even would take her to band practice and she'd substitute me on the drums (at seven). So we've been tight although we dont hang out as much. I don't think a brother should be annoyed at his sister, that's too typical and predictable. You can divorce a wife, choose your friends, but there are certain people you cannot substitute, and the sister is one of them. Have patience, she looks up to you. When she barges in to tell you I Love You, she really means it. She wants your attention, so just take a lil bit of your time to please her in that way. Kids who grow up without attention become the most annoying as f*** adults who ever roamed this earth, like my co-worker, I cannot stand him (or any other attention seekers)!. If you don't pay attention to her, she'll seek it elsewhere, not as healthy as a brother's love and concern. So please, just give her the time of day she needs from an older brother, it won't take too much of your life to say hi, how was your day. She'll probably leave you alone after that too. By the way, I'm like you (an introvert) in the sense that I hate to talk about my day, and people annoy me real easy when they ask me a bunch of questions, but some things in life cannot be avoided, like sharing this planet with other humans. Cross - B
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I'm sorry... maybe I'm just weird. But I would think my brother or sister was POSSESSED if they said "I love you" to me when I walked in the room. You're annoyed because she says that to you? Man, I say I love you to my older brothers or sister and they'll be like "what do you want". From the sounds of it, it seems like you're just very impatient. I don't find the fault with her, she does what every little sibling does. My little brother asks me questions all the time. Stupid questions that annoy me yes but I don't get mad at him for it. I'd say it's healthy if he's willing to ask me anything. It's better than him not saying anything to me at all. Not to mention he talks too much about his anime and video games and such. So to be real with you, I think you need to learn patience. I mean sure it's your life but she's your little sister. She might enjoy having an older brother and you just not wanting to deal with her is like saying you don't want any part of it. You should try and get more involved with her. I guarantee you if you're nicer to her and pay more attention to her then she'd understand it when you tell her you need some time to yourself.
