I mean, is it really? I have an AMAZING job, an Amazing son, A husband women dream about having, and yet... I mean, I'm doing everything I've always dreamed of, I'm getting the life I've always wanted. You all know me... I mean, for the last what, 3 years? I've had ups and downs, but at the end of the day, I have a family and a job, and my traveling. I don't know how I can still look into the stars at night and feel... so desperatly alone. I've always felt this way, always, so I wonder, is it just a natural human emotion and underlying consiousness to feel alone?
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Is it possible to not feel lonely?
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I think my signature answers this for me...
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You have a son? Wow...I didn't know.I think it's normal to feel that way. When you say lonliness, do you mean not having anyone to talk to about things? Or do you mean not having anyone to relate to?
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I'm not going to tell you it's possible to not feel lonely, because I'm not quite sure myself. However, other people feel not lonely so it must be possible somehow.
You say you have an amazing job, amazing son, and a wonderful husband... but do you really? Or is that just what you tell people?
> I'm doing everything I've always dreamed of
But now that you have everything you've ever dreamed of, it's not as good as you thought it'd be, right? I mean, people say "I wish I was rich" every day, and then someone might get rich and say "Ok, this isn't as great as I thought it'd be"
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My husband is romantic, amazing in bed, funny, good looking, has a fabulous job, and is completely in love with me.
My son is bright, healthy, well mannered, and funny.
My job is... what I've dreamt of since I was little, and traveling is something I've dreamt of since before I can remember.
I didn't always want a family... or a husband, or really anything... I dunno stable? But It's nice. I only feel truely happy when I'm traveling, living off of room service or in a straw hut in Honduras. That is my passion and what makes me happy, all other times it feels like I'm just waiting for the next trip. Anyway, I have to go right now.I'll add more tonight when I get home
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Sounds to me like you have a great life, but that doesn't matter what I think. What matters is what YOU think about it (as is obvious because you still feel lonely, even though I would be having a great time with your life).Maybe the problem is that you have everything you ever wanted, you've achieved all your life goals (maybe? I dunno). It's possible that you have no more life goals and therefore nothing to strive for. Again, that's something only you can answer.> I only feel truely happy when I'm traveling, living off of room service or in a straw hut in HondurasTo me, this sounds like a problem. You can only be happy when living the expensive life and travelling? There's got to be something else that makes you truly happy.I know this doesn't apply, but this is the best way I can describe this: People who've always wanted to be rich and somehow do become rich and have more money than they can spend. Usually, people like that are not happy, and/or lonely if you will. This is what I think may be your problem... you have so much of the things you've always wanted, and now that you have them, it's like, now what?
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i get lonely too. it's worse tho when i feel like some one has left me. i dk.. like i'm talking to my brother and he looks at his watch and goes i gotta go... and leaves.. it really just fucks my head up worse. but i knwo peopel have other and better things they need to do...... it still hurts tho. but it's only like that when i feel lonley....... or sometimes it's a triger and it makes me feel lonley... i know some of u remember lance (i still talk to him some) i feel like he only wants to talk when i'm doing bad.......and i don't want that. u knwo for like.... so long i have said i don't want to get married or have kids..... and fuck Shannon was talking about us having kids this summer..... i was asked if i would marry Shannon. i surprised myself when i said yes. I like traveling.. i hate it at home... i dk wut it is about it but... i just love going away staying in hotels or in the horse trailer...... i don't care as long as it's not home. I’m a different person. we have a condo share in Florida (every summer for as long as I remember we spent a week or two there in the summer….. I love the beach and ocean) and my uncle lived on our coast and he had a boat and we would go out fishing or go to the island… plus we traveled a lot for big shows...... i loved it….I miss it. Last year instead of Florida we went to Georgia.. It was cool tho their water park is sick and we went white water rafting……fucking fun shit man.
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and he looks at his watch and goes i gotta go... and leaves.. it really just fucks my head up worse. but i knwo peopel have other and better things they need to do...... it still hurts tho. but it's only like that when i feel lonleyI know exactly what you're talking about. Especially hwen I'm talking to whoever and I have so much to talk about, and he goes "I better get off and work" or whatever... but you gotta realize other people have other things to do, and that's just how it is.I get the feeling Java is talking about a different kind of loneliness...
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well i didn't want to put him on the spot. ..i understand he has to go to work. i mean he puts up with a lot of shit from me....lol really his working and family comes b4 me..... i dk wut kind of loneliness she means........ i'm talking about the no one cares kind of oneliness..... when i get lonly i miss her... no matter wut she was there. that just add a whole lot more feelings to it all.
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Your right, I edited out his name. You should too now.> i understand he has to go to work. i mean he puts up with a lot of shit from me....lolreally his working and family comes b4 meExactly. I dunno hwo he does it with you AND me, but he's the man I guess.> i dk wut kind of loneliness she meansI think she's talking about the "I have everything, why am I not happy?" type loneliness. Though I can only guess until she comes back.> i'm talking about the no one cares kind of onelinessSadly, I know hwo you feel
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Yes, it is possible. I often feel like I don't get enough time alone.
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Not really expensive living, my trip to honduras only costed me $400,excluding plane ticket. I just, I dunno. I love my life, I really do, I just I dunno. I can be sitting watching a movie, or reading with my family and still feel completely alone. I know Ari is there for me no matter what happens, and it's unconditional (well, mostly). But that doesn't sooth my loneliness at all.
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I feel as lonely when they leave, as I did when they were here.
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Depends on the person really =/.Ultimately I think some people can be with someone and never really feel lonly... others no matter what happens there will be a certain isolation factor.however, even if someone never really feels "lonly" then ultimately they will suffer some other way.