ok.. I find it wierd that last sunday was my last day at my house for a while. Least a month or two. My mom broke down crying as I left. I mean like utterly depressed and saddened to see me go.here I am 3 days later.. and well I am probably the happiest I've ever been =/.For the first time in 19 years of life I'm living within walking distance of friend... I have the internet my computer a good game or two. A chance to learn. I am sorta wondering if I should feel bad.. but, right now I really just view my parents as dollar bills =/.I don't miss my family at all. I mean my friend was depressed after a week away from her family.. but, me I really am probably the happiest I've ever been. I dunno. It just seems like I am argueing with myself "they are the people that gave you life".. "they are the people who gave you hell"... back and forth wtih no real logic.
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Should I be depressed?
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One of the best days of my life was when I was able to leave home. I was much happier and I didn't miss my old life in the slightest.Everyone is different, and everyone's experience is different. But I see no point in feeling guilty that your feelings don't seem to match what you are told they should be.I'm glad you're happier.
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I don't think you should be depressed, either. Just because you don't miss your parents doesn't mean you don't love them. Heck, when I leave for college, I suspect I won't miss them much at all. But it won't mean I'd stop loving them or feel guilty for not missing them. I guess you're just feeling the feeling of "it's nice to have a little space."Plus, even if you still felt like you SHOULD be depressed, there's plenty of time to let it kick in, if, of course,it's in your system and just not... out yet.
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There's no such thing as a list of things that should make you depressed, and things that shouldn't. It's all an individual thing.Things that make me depressed might nto make you depressed, and vice versa.To you I would say stop worrying about whether you should be depressed or not, and enjoy your new freedom.
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Hey, if you're happy, we're happy for you. Happiness is not easy to find for some people, so enjoy!
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Quote: I don't think you should be depressed, either. Just because you don't miss your parents doesn't mean you don't love them. erm. They could get hit by a freight train and I would probably be more sad about the fact I didn't have them paying for college then anything else.
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Alright, so you don't love them.So what?
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Agreed.
But the bottom line is, You will feel depressed until you don't anymore. Whenever I get depressed, as well as many other members on here, we talk to each other, but at the end of the day, you're still depressed. It has to work itself out in your mind.
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Whenever I get depressed, as well as many other members on here, we talk to each other, but at the end of the day, you're still depressed. It has to work itself out in your mind.Very true. Especially the last sentence.I, personally, have been trying to figure out my depression thing for many years, and I've been depressed for my entire life (I'm 18). The first step that helped me a ton was moving out a couple days after my 18th birthday, just to get out of that place called hell, I mean home.Basically, depending on how much it really effects you, it could take shorter/longer to "work itself out your mind"
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Good point about the moving out. A lot of times the best "therapy" is cutting loose from the main factor in your depression.
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I guess I just kinda find it wierd.I mean they are paying for the whole college ordeal. You would think that logically it means that they care and I should care for them.Instead I just view em as a paycheck. Oh well.
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Nah, nothing odd about it. Money cant make ya care for someone.
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Spose your right. However, achieving a higher lifestyle is something I will only be able to do because of them. I guess I'm in some ways grateful. In some ways I feel its sorta what they owe me.