Recently (after funeral on wensday) I began speaking to my ex. (The one I posted often on here about). Right now she has a sorta "don't think that we are talking because I like you" attitude and she said that to me. (when I say like I mean that she wants to actually have a relationship outside of just friends way)I am sorta debating on whether or not I should ask something of her. Her and I have a rather wierd relationship. We have a sorta "total honesty" ordeal going on. Not that we need to tell eachother ever minute and crappy detail of our life. But, rather we don't lie when asked and we don't hide things from eachother.Now. While I have moved on. I am not really looking to have a relationship with her. I would definitely be open to that idea. If for no other reason then because we have a relationship which I think its rare for anyone to have.So would it be wrong to ask her to simply be honest about her feelings and tell me if she does desire to go out at some point again?The main reason why I am considering asking this is because ultimately while I have moved on, I don't want her to have feelings for me and keep them inside just because she assumes I don't want a relationship.I personally don't think its that big of a deal however, for some reason unknown to me I just feel as if I need to run it threw a filter.
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Think its ok to mention this?
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I say no.Firstly, I'm guessing she doesn't still like you.Secondly, if you really have this total honesty thing going wouldn't she have told you by now she likes you?And finally, if YOU don't really want to be with this girl, why waste both your time (and her feelings) in starting the relationship again? Unless you really like this girl, and are willing to make an active effort to get her back I just say let it go.
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Quote: Secondly, if you really have this total honesty thing going wouldn't she have told you by now she likes you?I am not asking her if she does like me. I am only asking that if she ever decides that she does to tell me. And while we do have total honesty going on I could easily see a situation in which she would like me and not say anything. Quote: And finally, if YOU don't really want to be with this girl, why waste both your time (and her feelings) in starting the relationship again? I am over her. I can accept she doesn't want to be with me and I am fine with it. I am not going to mope about feeling bad over it and any chance to date I would probably take (assuming the person was hygenic and intelligent) Why should she be excluded from that list if she did have feelings?Unless you really like this girl, and are willing to make an active effort to get her back I just say let it go.
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Quote:I am over her.You say this, but everything else you say suggests the opposite, I'm afraid.
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really?may I ask why?
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Quote:I am only asking that if she ever decides that she does to tell me that's one..... if u were really over her. u wouldn;t care if she likes u or not.