Dating a super christian....

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ok so this chick likes me and shes decent looking and such but i like sex in my relationship. and i KNOW she wouldnt wanna so i keep tellin her dumb crap like "i dont want a girl right now" and stuff:| what should i do ?

Good to see you back!Is there any reason why you shouldn't tell her the truth? Are you hoping to keep her around in reserve? That wouldn't be fair.

I agree with Ineligible, just be honest with her and tell her the real reason you don't want to be with her. You'll be doing her a huge favor.

no im not keeping her in reserve or whatever. i just dont wanna say "i dont want to date you because you dont want seem like you wanna give up the pussy" lol.its just a scary thing to say.

Then say something like "I'm sorry, but I'm just not interested." I mean, you don't HAVE to tell her you want sex.

What about, "I'm sorry, I'm only looking for physical relationships at the moment".

Lol.. A little bit of tact goes a long way.

Originally Posted By: d[-_-b]no im not keeping her in reserve or whatever. i just dont wanna say "i dont want to date you because you dont want seem like you wanna give up the pussy" lol.its just a scary thing to say. No you can't say it cos you know its a horrible thing to say! If you really feel like that, then be man enough to tell it like it is.

No offense, but if you’re looking for a physical relationship, man up (or as we say in the south, cowboy up) and tell her the truth. You may not know it, but in her mind, she’s thinking she still has a chance because you haven’t actually said ‘No, I’m not interested’ to her, you’ve beat around the bush. You don’t have to vulgar when you tell her, but be blunt and straight forward and cut the poor girl loose.

You're going about this all wrong man. What makes you think she'll not be interested in a physical + emotional relationship? Just because you like sex in your relationship doesn't necessarily disqualify her. I've known PLENTY of hardcore Christians who have put out before married (or even age 19). Man the hell up and tell her you like things in a relationship that she might be uncomfortable with.

in other words, prepare your own doom. you're advising him to take a big risk. she could be truly offended with that. and that won't end up too well for him. the best advice given was to say that he's looking for a physical relationship that way he's kinda saying he's not interested but still letting her know why.

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Honesty.
I used to get alot of girls by telling them I onyl wanted physical relationships. Honesty goes along way.

just like others have said, tell her your looking for a relationship involving sex, or if your looking for a purely sexual relationship,whether your actually interested in her or not you need to let her know, like b.m.o.c said there is a possibility for sex if you were to get involved with her though it could be minimal and if it were to happen theres a chance itd be awhile ,but you need to determine whether or not your actually interested in her if your going to try that, if you arent interested tell her so she doesnt sit around waitin for ya

If I were you, I would talk to her about it. I'd explain that the physical aspect of a relationship is just as important to me as the other things that help make a relationship work. I'd say that I'm not looking to wait until marriage to have sex and I love being physically attentive toward the girl I am involved with. If she gets offended, then I'd tell her, "I'm sorry if I've offended you in any way. We're all different people in this world and I respect the choices that you make in your own life. I just have different choices for my own life. As far as a relationship is concerned between the two of us, our ideals is a good clue that we probably won't mesh well together." Sometimes, an emotional flame cannot be put out. But if you tell her how you feel and explain that you don't look down on her for her personal choices, then when she gets time to think about it she may then realize what you were trying to say.My current girl is a Christian and a preacher's daughter. I agree with the people of Judaism on their stance that Jesus is not the messiah. She knows that, but we're able to work out our differences with honest and open communication.

Date a super jew, double the fun and half the guilt.

Nah, Christmas is shit with Jews. Not to mention the Jewish mother...

Quote:double the fun and half the guilt. lol. If only that was true.

I resent that Jewish mother joke, and instead of one shitty day, we get 8. Christians have it back wards with these one day holidays.

Well you're different, you're a Jewish MILF! And when it comes to Christmas, the Jews are just as bad as the Catholics with their damn candles!

dies laughing What?!