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So... a long while ago this SUPER HOT girl messaged me out of nowhere... never even seen her before... she says hi, introduces herself; turns out, we are gonna be going to the same school... so we just say how ho back and forth... and then talk about our plans for classes.So, I message her tonight just to ask her how her classes are going now that school's started... She says:‘Thanks for checking in we should hang out sometime’Now... how should I respond to this to make sure it happens... I mean, there is the chance that she's just being nice, no? I don't care though; I want to try this... hey, also, she just tonight changed her myspace status to looking for ‘relationship, etc.’I'm freaking' like I usually do when I am inches away from a mega cool chick... and like usual, I'm gonna f* this up! Hell, there isn't even anything to f* up at this point and I'm already worried about it... what? OCD? Disorder? I don't know So, how should I reply? ‘yeah, that sounds great... give me a call? give you a call? when and where?’ I don't wanna come off sounding like a fool.Also, I'm only 5'4", so remember that my confidence is at the bottom of the barrel, and she might be taller (most people are ), plus, she's latina... I think those people just tend to be a taller people, speaking in terms of geologically isolated evolutionary groups (i like anthro)... nerd? oops...Freakin'..Okay... sorry... just hope someone helps Thanks to anyone who even read this tantrum,LQ

There's something you should read, since it's similar to your situation: click here.The reason why I linked that is because I'm going to give you the same response: are you DEAD SURE it's a girl at your school and not just junk mail in your mailbox or even a dude in real life?Since you didn't specify, I'm assuming you've never met her face-to-face and don't even know if she does indeed go to your school.I think you should find out a bit more about "her" before you start exchanging numbers or something.

this chick is real... she has her school email listed, and it's got the same format as mine. she also has tons of pics of her with her friendsshe knows the names of the resident halls on campus...this gal is real; I'm sure she's a real person, not a dude. it's her in all of the pics.she's also in the school network... which requires access to a valid school email...she's real.thank you for your concern though Is there any way I should step ahead with this then, as she is real? Thanks for the speady reply,LQp.s., I said myspace, but it's really facebook... which has much less problems with this stuff, I believe

Originally Posted By: LittleQIs there any way I should step ahead with this then, as she is real? Okie dokie. Since you guys go to school together, why not have lunch together or grab a cup of coffee on campus?Lol, I'm sure you'll get better responses, but that's a start. Either way, best of luck to you!

thanks, but how do I say it...

do I just reply 'yeah, that sounds great, [insert sensible stuff here]'

What sensibel thing should I say 'what are you up to doing?' 'what would you like to do' 'give me your number and I'll call ya' 'shoot me a message sometime'

That's the problem... I don't know how to handle this latter part :frowning:

Once we decide that it's a go... then I think I should be able to come up with something to do... not that I'll be able to come up with anything to say once we get hanging out (super shy :frowning: )

Thanks,
LQ

Originally Posted By: LittleQdo I just reply ‘yeah, that sounds great, [insert sensible stuff here]’What sensibel thing should I say ‘what are you up to doing?’ ‘what would you like to do’ ‘give me your number and I'll call ya’ ‘shoot me a message sometime’That sounds fine to me. I don't see how you can mess up replying with that. I think you are just putting too much pressure on yourself with something really simple. Just take a deep breath and be yourself.

I have social issues... and I'm not a sociologist... so I say... that sounds like a cool idea, what sort of things do you like to do. are you a coffee personhow's that? Think she'll tap a creep tag on me? :Sthankslq

I don't know why she should. Sounds fine to me, at least.

YAY! I hope it goes okay! :laughing:

THANKS SO MUCH FOR YOUR HELP!

LQ

she just replied... she doesn't drink coffee...what now? she seems to be online... would it be off to ask if she has an instant messaging address?

I think it'd be best if you actually had a conversation with her, instead of someone here talking to her for you.Just go with the flow, man. If you mess it up, oh well. What's the worst that could happen?

should I ask her if she eats?

oops... now I'm officially obsessing... call me crazy :frowning:

okay.... okay.... ;-) point taken.

okay... so I offered tea instead... man, that's lame :frowning: I also told her she should add me to her im...

okay... I'm stupid... kick me... hit me... make fun of me...

why the mental problems? why mom did you raise me in the middle of nowhere to be an antisocial? :frowning:

HELP GOD! :frowning:

sorry,
LQ

R-E-L-A-X, honey. You're jumping the ship before it sinks. Just see where this goes and. if for whatever reason it doesn't work out, it's not the end of the world.

You're being way to hard on yourself.

Damn, dude, chill out

for all my days, I will never forget he expresion 'jumping the ship before it sinks'

we're iming rigt now... all seems well... I'm nervious, like you see, I can't spell, and I'm an enlgihs major so

:laughing:

Originally Posted By: LittleQ

I'm nervious, like you see, I can't spell, and I'm an enlgihs major so
LOL! Good luck! :smile:

Guys often think there is some magic form of words which is suavely perfect and anything else is inferior. It's not so! Any girl wants you to be yourself, and being too suave sounds insincere. Life is made up of imperfection.

thanks I'm not trying to sounds suave though... I just don't wanna look like a creep :?Anyway... we agreed to tea... but then the conversation sort of died and that was that... I hope to talk with her tomorrow Thanks for the encouragement,LQ