I messed up B.I.G. TIME!!!

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ok..so me and my girl have been going out for almost a year now. I love her very much but sometimes i can do some really stupid things.So here it goes...I just graduated form HS and going to college now, im a pretty popular guy and i have a lot of girls that like me, and i like the attention..its like i feed of the attention it makes me feel good to have lots of girls like me and sit on my lap or tell me how much they like me and how they want to go out with me..of course i dont tell my gf about these things b/c i love her alot and dont want her to get pissed.WEll anyways 2 days ago this girl, her name is Amber..we were child hood friends, we went out for 6 months during my junior year of HS and she is a very attractive girl. She still likes me and we still talk..she tells me sometimes that she still want to get back together and she will wait for me. So 2 days she sent a comment on my myspace( a comment is a message that EVERONE who looks at my page can see it) and the comment said that she still loved me, remember what we talked about, we can still be together...i accepted the comment..because it made me feel good and i disreguarded my gf's feelings about how it would make her feel.That day my gf went on my page to post a "i love you" like she always does. And she saw that i was talking to Amber and what Amber had said to me...She got extremely upset and disappointed in me she said that i had disrespected her! and that i did not defend her, that i betrayed her and that i let amber disrespect her and our relationship THEN just yesterday!!! Like i told her last weekend i was goind to the lake with my friends, i named the people i was going with...but i left out 1 name..It was this girl Mackenzie. I left her name out b/c my gf knew Mackenzie also liked me and that she always tries to cuddle with me. Anyways my gf found out that Mackenzie went with us b/c she saw a pic of our group that one of my best friends posted on the interneT ! so now she is saying i lied about that and she cant trust me ;(Ive been trying to talk to her but she is sooo upset at me ;( idk what to do!!! SHe says she cant trust me, anything i say or me as a person. She says she loves me but she doesn't know what to do Ive appologized multiple times!!!I dont know what i can do!! So she can forgive me

first off, dear, I'd just like to say... .YOU NEED TO EAT SOME HUMBLE PIE! just something I wanted to get off my chest. you sound very conceited and I find a conceited human being VERY VERY VERY unattractive and a complete turn off in an instant.now, on a more gentle note, I think your girlfriend is being a little extreme, however, she has a reason to be mad. you are NOT sticking up for her. if you have chickenheads.. sorry.. girls pushing up on you and you HAVE a gf, tell those chickenheads I mean girls to stay away. When you are in a relationship that's a commitment. and this doesn't sound like any commitment I've ever heard of. In fact, it almost sounds hopeless, as if you don't care because how do you think she feels? That's not right. And you say you feed off of people's adoration for you? Is she not adoring you enough. In my relationship I know what goes on with my boyfriend and he's the type that if a girl tries to push up on him then he tells her to back off. Not rudely but he makes it known that he's taken and he wants nothing to do with them. And if one of the girls had the nerve to say they'll wait or whatever crap knowing that you're in a relationship it's like saying "I know you won't be with her for long so I'll just wait". Know what I say to that? SLAP SLAP! That's just looking for a beat down.My advice to you, yes you screwed up BIG TIME, and I have no doubt your gf may be thinking some things over right now if this is what she has to go through with girls coming after you all the time. IF you want to keep your girlfriend I suggest you apologize, get these chickenheads, birdheads... darn... girls off of you and start paying closer attention to your gf. If you really love her that is. If you don't love her and you feel like you could be with that girl who said she loves you then I suggest you end it with your gf so she doesn't get hurt anymore. I don't mean to come off as rude or whatever but this is one of those situations that get me really pissed off when the guy gets hit on by other girls and the girlfriend is the only one doing the defending.

1. u did lie to her by not tellign her the girl was going to be at there.2. why didn't u ask her to join in the trip?3. u can't controle wut those girls say to u but u can not let them sit in ur lap and cuddle.4. maybe if u got ur gf to join u in theses trips and going palces and stuff she wouldn't fill so...... well there is areason ur not wanting ur gf to go with u to places. that reason (in my eyes) is you liek the attetion form the other girls (u even said it) and that is a good reason for ur gf to not trust u. now how to fix it...1. u got to show her as well as tell her (and dude ur not showing her)2. ask her to join u when u do stuff with ur friends3. stop letting the girls hang all over u. p.s. i dk.. i just felt liek using numbers today lol

well...i think there is a little bit more to this relationship i better tell everyone...1. I used to be really depresseed so i went to a rave decided to try ecstacy and OD'ed and went to the hospital for a week....dumbest thing i ever did in my entire life. this happened 2 months in our relatioship, and she was ver upset about that.2. AT the 3 month mark...we weren't that serious, i was only with her for fun i didnt love her yet...but that still doesnt exscuse me at all..i was drunk at a party and made out with another chick..her friend was at that party and told her...again she forgave me 3. 7 months into our relationship,i told her i loved her and i gave her our promise ring. WE made love that night, for the first time. I already knew she wasn't a virgin before she met me...and i was a virgin..she was the one to take my virginity. Well we ended up talking adn she sahred with me that she had 8 previous sex partners before me,and that she has had a 3some, and that once with her ex bf JAMESWEll stupid me i texted my best friend matt that i thought she was dirty..b/c of her past. BUT i had miss sent the message to my GF instead cause i did a reply instead of a message! So she saw that i texted that to him..and she forgave me for that too...4. and a month ago, i told her i was at a friends house watching the UFC fight that a friend ordered on ppv...the friend was amber and i didnt tell her it was amber ;/ so she was super upset about that

in other words, you're putting her through hell.

Sorry dude, but she did the right thing. She deserves better.*ADDED:Bah, I thought I saw somewhere that she broke up with you. But I'm seeing things, sorry. But IF your relationship does end, it's the best. If it doesn't and she forgives you, GET YOUR ACT TOGETHER!

NO! honestly she is the one for me...and im the perfect one for her!!! I dont know how to get her to understand that i WILL NEVER do this to her ever again!!!!!! I was being super stupid!!!! i disrespected her and our relationship...i even broke like 3 of the promises i promised her when i gave her a promise ring! I HONESTLY wan to make EVERYTHING right again i just want our relationship to be ok again...she was the first girl that i ever really cared about, so fare in my life im only 19, but ive had 12 gf's...and out of all of them she is the only girl that i have ever loved, that i ever trusted and has been there for me completely......I REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY honestly TRUELLY MADLY DEEPLE DO LOVE HER! WHAT can i do so everthing will be ok?I promised her i'd give her taht fairy tale ending...and i still want to

You got handed a near-perfect life and you abused your power. Just couldn't settle for one person could you? I swear, its people like you that turn women into guy-haters. I hope your GF dumps you.

I hope not...honestly i've done some really bad things.But i've also done some really good things...i always treat her good when we are together, always make time for her, alway make sure she feels beautiful..and perfect. I always take her out to do fun activities...i got to know her parents and got them to like me b/c she wanted me to(even though i really didnt want to b/c her parents were stand offish) I honestly love her....im just an idiot for doing these things, alot of it has to do with my personal problems...YES everything is handed to me..i have pretty much everything a guy would want..a nice car, nice clothes, im 6ft tall, athletic build, i had alot of gf's, i have an amazing gf...who truely loves me and honestly we feel that we could be together forever.."IF" i dont do anything stupid..:( which i did!i really just want o make it right....

Okay, I'll try to help you out. Sorry for being blunt, but honestly, if my man did all that shit, he's ass would've been kick out a long time ago. I'm actually suprised that your girlfriend forgave you so many times.

1. You need to do is STOP promising her things you obviously can't keep. Breaking a promise hurts, so just stop until you are mature enough to handle that kind of responsiblity.

2. You say that you love her...well, PROVE it. From the things you've done, I'd say you don't even respect her. Show her how much she means to you. Take her out to her favorite places, buy a bouquet of her favorite flowers, write her letters (not e-mails), and things like this. Treat her like the queen that she is.

3. Give up the stupid groupy thing. That kind of arrogance is just despicable and a major slap of disrespect to your girlfriend. Tell these girls that your happy with the one special girl in your life. Like Abi said, eat a whole lot of humble pie.

4. Start being HONEST! Stop being such a little, punk-ass kid and lie to this young lady. If you love her and respect her, be honest with her. Lies get you nowhere and makes things worse, fast.

5. Let go of her past. The past is the past and you have NO right to judge her on things that happened when you were not there. For all we know, you may have done worse things.

6. Grow up. It's that simple.

I honestly wish the BOTH of you the best.

well, I hope everything works out, you actually don't deserve her so I don't know how you can say that you're perfect for her. but if you truly love her then make it work and please stop being so conceited. being conceited is very UGLY. very ugly.

Im honestly not conceited...I dont go around thinking im the shit..orgo around flaunting my money and showing off..i dont go around hitting on girls or making them like me and some of them love me..it just happens.

Im going to have to echo everythign you said because you got it all right. he did lie, he did fuck up, and he is in the wrong.

Originally Posted By: takumi10i dont go around hitting on girls or making them like me and some of them love me..it just happens.Pardon my french, but that's bullshit.You just posted how you love the attention girls give you.  Originally Posted By: takumi10im a pretty popular guy and i have a lot of girls that like me, and i like the attention..its like i feed of the attention it makes me feel good to have lots of girls like me and sit on my lap or tell me how much they like me and how they want to go out with me.

how is it bullshit?! I dont do anything to go after the attention..whats wrong with liking to recieve it? I dont go aroudn saying hey wanna like me?hey wanna sit on my lap or adore me and giveme attention

What's wrong is that you KNOW you have girlfriend who wouldn't like what you're doing. That's the reason why you don't tell her, right? So you don't piss her off...because you know that's what makes her upset!And you can easily say, "Sorry girls, but I'm taken."Honestly honey, it's common sense.

honestly...if she will forgive me i would tell any girl that ever liked me again to fuck off if i had too i would give it up for her...i was seriously stupid..thanks for the help star

Honestly takumi, best of luck to you and hope everything works out for the best.

dude all that that u just said... (1 - 4) don't help you out any. stop fucking with her. if u want alot of other girls attention break up with her and go let all the sluts..i mean girls..... sit in ur lap. U said > “im the perfect one for her!!”Are you sure? Your not treating her that way. You Can’t tell her…….you HAVE to SHOW her. (like I said…dude ur not showing her) You have to forget those other girls. And forget the attention……. If girls want to aoogle and aww and crush on u fine let them do it away from you. You’ll never get any where with ur gf if u keep sneaking off and letting these girls hang all on u and sit on ur lap and all that. A year ago when something happened with me and my gf (and a stupid slut ex) I was asked something… now I’m going to ask you. Wut if this was the other way around? Wut if your gf was sneaking off with guys and sitting in guys laps and haggling and cuddling on other guys…. Would you like it? Would you want her to treat you the way you are treating her? tell her…….start SHOWING her.... u want keep her if you don't show her u are going to change.

Just couldn't settle for one person could you? I swear, its people like you that turn women into guy-haters. I hope your GF dumps you. Agreed 100%.@TC: I hope she dumps you. You just want to mess around with other girls and lie to your gf anyway. You obviously haven't learned a single lesson from all those previouis times.I honestly don't know why people are trying to help this guy. He may be sincere now, but he's going to mess up again in the future. I guarantee it.