Ok there's this girl I liked and we made out and cuddled and stuff last night but as I always, when I like a girl and it gets to the point where we're gonna go out together as boyfriend/girlfriend, I realise I prefer partying and no-love making out and shit like that. I want to tell her I wanna enjoy my highschool years and that I'll have my whole life to marry a woman and that right now I just wanna enjoy life . This also isn't the first time this has happened and she knows it also . I was also her first kiss (She's 16 never had a boyfriend before because she was too shy)Any tips on how to tell her before monday?
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How to tell her I don't want a girlfriend
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Well, I think something like that should be said in person.
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Agreed. And bring it to her slowly and gently and friendlily and tell her your side of this and make sure she knows in the end that it wasn't her that was the problem, it was your own thoughts. Just don't say, "It's not you. It's me." Because that's a cliche that's just asking her to get mad at you. And if it's true, you can tell her that if you were looking for a relationship, you'd have no problem with her being your girlfriend.
Good luck! :wink:
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Originally Posted By: MinorityReportOk there's this girl I liked and we made out and cuddled and stuff last night but as I always, when I like a girl and it gets to the point where we're gonna go out together as boyfriend/girlfriend, I realise I prefer partying and no-love making out and shit like that. VERY VERY unhealthy lifestyle. and maybe it's because I'm a FRIGGIN WEIRDO but I see no enjoyment or satisfaction in making out with different people and moving on to the next person time after time just for the sake of it but hey that's just me I'm weird. Quote:I want to tell her I wanna enjoy my highschool years and that I'll have my whole life to marry a woman and that right now I just wanna enjoy life . tomorrow is promised to nobody and once again unhealthy lifestyle but whatever.really all you have to do is say, I'm not ready for a relationship right now and I'd rather be good friends.
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omgosh! I hate you. Im having a guy do the exact same thing to me. Well sorta.But PLEASE be straight forward with her. You can tell her nicely, but DO NOT sugar coat it. & dont just try to keep her on the "back burner" just incase you ever feel you might want a relationship, or just to hook up with her.
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but, but, but... but why do you hate me? I didn't do anything? I'm sorry.
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Another case of why people need to pay attention to who the reply to. :scream_cat: No one can ever hate someone as sweet as you, Abi. :wink:
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Lol. Virtual_Star is right. I wouldn't hate you :grin:
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iv said that line many times and it comes down to the girl disliking you most of the time and feeling youv taken advantage of her by making out and wanting to do nothing more. what i have found works better is "im not over my past gf. emotionally i cant deal with another girl yet, my dick my think differently but i cant be a bf yet" it leaves you the option for later and shows that you are interested but isnt such a dick move.
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Just tell her. It's going to hurt her feelings and she's going to resent you. But that is what you risk when you kiss and cuddle with people you don't like. After all, you're only in high school and don't have much time to live. So, you better party up while you can.
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Lol yeah, enjoying your adolescence isn't all that weird. To the O.P. Here's the best way to tell her you don't want a girlfriend:"I...don't...want...a...girlfriend....at...this...juncture...in time."
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hahaha! japanfan I wasnt talking about hating you. I was talking about the kid who posted this. & I dont really hate him, im just pissed cause im having a guy do the same thing to me right now.hahaha but noo i deff. do not hate you.
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Now you're talking to blackmanoncampus. Be sure you click on the right reply link. You're causing confusion again, lol.
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Dude I see nothing wrong with what your doing except that you shouldn't try to sleep around. 1. you didn't sleep with her. That's good because there are no emotional attachments at least in the sexual kind of way. 2. You were her first kiss. Now I don't know if she was your first kiss either but that is a real damn shame because in my opinion there was a potential for romance. 3. You don't want her as a girlfriend and you don't know how to let her down easy. Well you could just tell her that I'm still young and your still young and that we'll find someone for each other. And let her know that you guys are still friends. Well that last part was my idea but you know what I mean, I hope lol. So let her down nicely don't sugar coat it be cool and make sure to end it on a good note. Thanks for reading ^_^!!
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ooooh hahahaha!!wooow. I never even noticed that thing before.Thanks
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Kinda like me?