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Originally Posted By: SexpertYes, being gay is not a choice. Otherwise many people would rather not deal with the stygmas that come with being gay. Who would choose to be the target of jokes, humiliation, and the shame that society makes you feel? I don't think even the most strong minded people would make a choice like that. Exactly

Here at my work there are guys you would not EVEN suspect they are gay. I have developed a serious "Gaydar" though since I'm straight but work with mostly gays. You're right, some are more flamboyant than others, and that I think is a choice made concientiously. And "Lifestyle" choices range from being outwardly gay and those who cover it up well due to their own personal reasons. So in that sense, yes there is a choice that can be made. Some try to cover it up but do not fool anyone. Not anyone with Gaydar anyway.

so was this question ever answered??

Yes.

There are these two boys in my class who we all felt were "different" since we were all about 9 years old, but we couldn't describe it or why we thought that. Both of these boys, last year near the end of 8th grade "came out" publicly, which I thought was really strange...Geez, I didn't have an attraction to girls at all last year but I do now. What if, because of that, last year I publicly labeled myself as "gay"???

Yes, that's a good reason for not being too concerned about labels at that time - things are still fluid and developing.

When someone is gay, they have feelings of being different from the time they can reason, long before there's any attraction to anyone.

Originally Posted By: SexpertWhen someone is gay, they have feelings of being different from the time they can reason, long before there's any attraction to anyone. This is SOO VERY true. I knew I was different since I was very young and could never put a finger on it until I was about 15 years old.

Now, Eddie puts a lot more than finger on it. I've heard he even decorates it with glitter.

damn..that's impressive...lol

Originally Posted By: OldFolksNow, Eddie puts a lot more than finger on it. I've heard he even decorates it with glitter.

No its not. i've never done it but I'd love to sometime

not at all.. if someone interested add me [email deleted - this isn't a place to pick up] lookin' for a jerk off bud

Originally Posted By: HelmsmaN

The important thing is not what other people think about it, but how do *you* feel about it? If you saw two guys jacking off, would you lean more toward thinking that they were gay, or just two straight guys jacking off and think nothing else of it?

It is what it is.

I agree with what HelmsmaN says about it being how you feel about it. If you view it as a non-gay act when _**you **_do it, then it is. If you look at it as a gay act when _**you **_do it, then it is.

But if you see or hear of two people of the same sex engaging in mutual masturbation, then you can't really say whether it was a gay act or not because you don't know then minds of those people doing it.

I think though that the question being asked is this "Can two people of the same sex engage in mutual masturbation and still be heterosexual for all intents and purposes?"

My answer to the above question is an unqualified yes.

Bingo/We have a winner.It's not about what you do - but who you are.