i'm pretty sure there isn't anyone that doesn't have a doctorate and that you don't have to pay to help you with personal issues.so in a way i'm just venting. and i'm sorry for wasting your time.two years ago i was in a relationship with a boy whom i had been friends with for a while. two years ago i was forteen. it was my first real relationship and i was what i thought to be, in love. so we ended up having sex and the relationship ended not long after. i was heart broken. i have always had low self esteem. always insecure and thinking i'm not good enough. i guess when someone has to hear another person's shit plus their own problems it can drive them insane.later when i found out he had cheated on me any confidence i had was crushed. since then i never give people the benefit of the doubt, i never trust.but i was extreemly lonely and after a year or so i started talking to a great guy and we were unoffical for about eight months and everything was fine. we are together now and every negative thought i had when i was with the first guy came back. i am constantly wondering who is with who he is talking to, if he still feels the same. no matter how many people tell me "he's a good guy and i really don't think he'd do you wrong" i still feel as though he's faking me out. i don't want my past to ruin a relationship to someone i really do love.
You're not wasting anyone's time, LunaBell. I think this is an issue for everyone who has been hurt before, how to trust again. I don't know what answers there are, except good experiences and time.
So basically your problem is: You were hurt, and you don't want that to happen again, so you don't trust anyone?Unfortunately, I know exactly what that's like. I used to struggle with this a lot (I guess I still do in a way), because I've been hurt plenty of times and like you, I don't want that to happen again.The only thing I can tell you is that this is a different person, and you'll just have to learn to trust this guy. You might get hurt, but consider the alternative: Never trusting ANYBODY, always being alone, etc.Besides, isn't it kind of unfair to this guy that he's trying to have a relationship with you and you won't let him? Think about that, too.You'll eventually have to learn to trust somebody, so why not give it a shot and trust this guy, especially if everyone is telling you how great this guy is?