She says that she loves me...

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I am new to this site, but either way a litte ventiation needs to occur. I am in a relationship now, and have been engaged now for 6 months. I have been in a serious relationhsip before, and I know what to expect in a relationship, good or bad. What I have been experiencing lately is really confusing to me. She says that she loves me and wants to spend her life with me. Awesome. Only ketch, she is not sexual at all. We have kissed, cuddled, hell, even sleep in the same bed together. Awesome, right? Well, we had sex a month ago, and since, she has kept her distance. The sex was awesome, so I know it wasn't the performance that made her pull away, but I just don't get it. I compliment her and kiss her, but she never goes out of her way to compliment me or kiss me. I am stuck on this one way street. Basically, I need someone to tell me their opinion, please.

Welcome to A2A, scooterboo. The obvious question: have you asked her why she is keeping her distance?

yes, i had a talk with her on tuesday, then she has been gone with her mom ona trip, and hasnt called me all weekend

Did she give a reason?

Oh boy, I dated a girl like that a long time ago and she slept with pretty much every single one of my best friends. She was an emotional wacko and used sex to keep you attached. The sex was REALLY good, so it worked on me. Go through spurts of awesome sex and then barely any. Figured out down the road the dry spells were when she was screwing someone else. Believe me the hurt that chick caused me, was almost enough to ruin my career. Years down the road we end up living near eachother and become friends. Well she starts having a little trouble with the new boyfriend and guess what she wants from me? Yea, sex! I gave her a hug and pretty much told her to go pound sand, and that was hard because she RAWKS in bed!!!! I almost feel bad for the guy. I think he is at the point that he knows what she is doing, but he is letting his ego get the better of him and holds onto her.

This is just my .02 and not gospel, but your thread just totally brought back so many memories. Your girl might actually have a problem a be a good person and not be a complete ASSFUCK like mine was! Cheers!

well, answer to q #1- she is shopping this weekend, and the reason she gave me for being distant is that she "is not an affecionate person" then she had the gumption to ask me if I was happy. I told what i was unhappy about. I have on good nature to say that she is not screwing someone else- she is a flirt though and so am i, so i dont know what to think. my feer is that she is going to come back tomarow and say that things are over between the two of us and that would suck royally.

Then you either need to have a serious talk with her about your relationship and if there's a future.Or its time to call it quits.Does she still love you, despite what she said? How do you feel in return?

if she were any shorter, i would be literally nuts over her. She said that she loves me- and she says that she is happy. It's just a front I think. right now witht he plans i have, they all include her. so i am going to be talking with her later today when she gets home and completely lay thing sout for her.

Having a nice long talk with her sounds like a good plan.You're engaged to this woman, after all. If you're having that many doubts about her, something's wrong. Hope you can figuer things out.

Originally Posted By: scooterbooif she were any shorter, i would be literally nuts over her eh????

Was she always like this or is this something she is pulling just recently? My last gf was kinda like that, one week she would be incredibly affectionate and the next week it was like she just met me, unfortunately this was caused by some serious emotional baggage that I just couldn't deal with.

He's trying to say that if she were any shorter, that she would be at the height of his scrotum (Although how can that be a bad thing, either?)

I see! I think I was having an incredibly stupid moment there...

I had to read it twice too; (since in most contexts; saying you're 'nuts over someone' means you're infatuated by them; not that you could tea-bag them standing up, lol)