Speed?

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So, I just started a topic on a particular girl. Anyway, that same girl, we went out yesterday. At the end of our 16 hour day, we started making out in my car.

We were going at it... and feeling each other up. She was grabbing at my crotch and stuff...

and then she went for me buttons...

she asked if I would mind. I sort of gave her an odd indirect answer, but she gave up with trying to open my pants...

Later when she was leaving she said she was sorry for being too forward.

Should I be worried that she wants to get in my pants on the second date or is this a normal speed for a relationship to develop. Personally, I have no problem with any such speed, but it does make me question the type of person she might be to go for the pants after date #2. Should it make me question? Or... is this normal for most people and I am just out of the loop?

Thanks,
LQ

There is nothing wrong with a girl who goes for the crotch on date #2. My girlfriend and I had a 6 hour shag session on our first date and there is nothing wrong with our relationship. Girls are human, girls get horny. Don't judge her for it.

She is a slut

Bullshit! What is with this ridiculous belief that any girl interested in sex must be a slut. Guys can be horny but girls can't?A very interesting blog that I read is Girl With A One-Track Mind and its very interesting. Its an English woman who goes by the pseudonym Abby Lee who openly talks about her sex life. She has a book published about her experiences that is very popular. A quote that I like from her is:"Just because a woman enjoys sex, it seems that she must be seen as pathological in some way; that she must be abnormal, or bad, or – as in my case – an addict. Why can’t women just like sex? Why can’t we be seen to enjoy it, without being called ‘‘sluts’’ or ‘‘whores’’ or ‘‘addicts’’? Why must something be wrong with us, just because we openly express our needs, desires and wants?"

It is true and sad what you say. After the little incident with my thingy not going up, she was worried that she was moving too fast and thought I would think she was a slut!I had to try my damndest to convince her otherwise. You are right, and I think that if people like Oprah didn't make women seem like sex-scared prudes, the world would be a better place. Also... I get to see her today. YAY!

I think a girls actions is wut makes me peg her as a slut. I mean I know people call girls that when they find out they like sex. And guys get off free. If some of the girls my brother has done heard him talk about them they’d never look at him again. He’s a pig. any girl that tries to get in a guy pants knowing he’s dating some one in my eyes is a slut. cough my ex-Lindsey cough but there are girls that like sex, have sex and aren’t sluts. (well to me , yea other have different views on that) The way I see it.. A girl that goes out with her boyfriend and they start having sex on the 2nd or 3ed date.. Fine there bf/gf screwing each other. Big deal. Well it’s not a big deal unless one of them is using the other for a fuck… yea but that’s a different topic. A slut…. (to me).. Example time. Lol we (me and Shannon) were at a Christmas party that one of the girls from college invited us to and Shannon got up to go piss. Some chick that I never saw in my life comes and sits by me and pretty much lets me know she’s got a room waiting on me to join her. Yea.. umm.. I didn’t stay there long. I left fast and on my way trying to find Shannon another slut “tongues” at me and gives me a come here motion with there finger and I acted like I didn’t see her and headed another way. I ran into a friend and she said Shannon went into the kitchen then pointed out the way to the kitchen. Got to the kitchen and there was no Shannon. The host’s mom winks at me while I was looking for Shannon .. That’s just not right. And while I was facing another way Shannon comes up from behind me and touches my shoulder. I almost jumped out of my shoes. I just knew one of those sluts had grabbed me…. We left. She could tell my nerves were ..yea. Well we ended up laughing in the truck at them and the two guys that tried hitting on her. I shouldn’t call those girls sluts but they sure were acting it. There actions put that view of them in my head…not that they had sex with their bf (tho if they got a bf wtf are they doing trying to hit on me) .. I dk how much shit they had to drink or if they were on anything else. I dk but the way they were acting sure scared the hell out of me.

Well if the girls had boyfriends, or if they knew that you had a girlfriend, then yes I'd classify them as something other than fine, upstanding ladies. But if they were single and they thought you were too, then I don't believe (in my eyes) that that makes them sluts.

Yay for you! I hope everything works out great.

maybe it's wut i'm used to but a girl i have never met b4 just ys hi and then askes me to go to a room with her...all was said by me was hi (after she said hi) then telling me to go to her room... single or not... i know wut she wanted and she wasn't getting any from me. my brother probably would have took her offer.

i don't know if she knew i was dating shannon.. i dk if she saw me sitting with her for hours either.. so i dk. but she knew after i told her.

but yea.. she/they could have been loaded.

I wouldn't worry about it too much. Everybody has a speed that they think is right for them. I've been in the sitution that she's, where i've wanted to do soemthing, but I worried about the speed. It's really uncomfortable for girls, especially with the whole double standard that was mentioned in an earlier reply. Just talk to her, if you don't have a problem with the speed that you guys are progressing at, and neither does she, then it should be fine. As long as you guys are comfortable, don't worry about what other poeple think is a good speed for you. :smile: