ok i was in the pool and there was my friends, girls and boys. like the girls will come and jump on your or something and of course they dont want to feel a boner unless they like you or want you and when they odnt they just get disgusted. how can i control this? it doesnt seem like any other guys do or they conceal it well. any ideas?
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Boners at crucial times, and controlling them
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I used to have this problem with a really hot friends of mine (A girl).
Whenever a me and a bunch of friends would go swimming, whenever we were in the hot tub she'd just sit or lay on top of me.
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yea i think it might be because like they are on me and i know not to touch their ass or anytihng but i just think of how great it would feel. im sure that doesnt help lol
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Well, it's very difficult to control an erection, I mean, sometimes you get one just as a result of pressure, like if someone's sitting on your lap, and that's not really a pleasant time to get one (unless it's a Lap Dance!). My advice, jack off before you go out like that. "Go down to Horney town and fire the Mayor" -Andy Richter
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ok i just get a little sore down there. i dont use lube, but i dont know what to use. also i like to whack at night and i feel bad or something when i whack 2x a day.
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Huh? your post doesn't follow...
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i was saying how i cant whack before i go out cause i like to at night, and i dont like to whack 2x a day. it did sound weird though.
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Sometimes no matter when you "whack it" the lil guy still has a mind of his own and there really isn't much you can do about it. Yep, it'll happen more when being rubbed or touched or experience anything remotely sexual. However, it'll happen at other times too...just part of the deal bud and while many of us have tried to control the lil beast, it just ain't that easy to do. Enjoy the fact that it works (even when you don't really need it to) and forget about masturbating to help control things... probably wouldn't help anyway. Just remember that you're not alone, happens to the rest of your buddies too....and if they give you any grief about it....one day you'll probably get to give it right back!
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lance, it's not always a good idea to call someone's penis "little guy" cuz that kind of gives a hint on it's size, and saying that just now made it seem like you knew his............argh, don't wanna think of it!
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Not meant to offend anyone at all...just a nickname I use often. I'll stop though because I certainly don't want to have anyone feeling like their penis is small. BTW...I have no clue about the size of his penis or anyone elses that hasn't shared that information with us..
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i wasnt offended lol. i never thought about that. im average, 5.5 but i think i will hit 6 but whatever.
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Glad to hear it, some folks just get a bit freaded by comments like that one I guess!
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I find it effective to hide boners by putting it in your pants so that the rim of your pants kind of straps the penis to your body, so it pionts up untill it's limp enough to fall down and again go unnoticed. I do it so it doesn't stick out in front of my family when I wake up with a boner. It helps if you have a shirt on, though. Don't think it will help at the pool... but it's usefull any other time.
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Okay, girls would not jump on you in the pool unless they had some kind of interest in you. A lot of the time, boners give girls a sense of accomplishment and pride, so just play it off. If a girl is sitting on your lap or feels your boner brush up against her, just laugh and make a comment about how she's so hot it couldn't help itself. I'm sure she'd understand, and if not, she's too immature.
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yes that would be good but hard to do. most of my chicks though im not sure how they would take it. but its worth a try
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In reply to: ok i was in the pool and there was my friends, girls and boys. like the girls will come and jump on your or something and of course they dont want to feel a boner unless they like you or want you and when they odnt they just get disgusted. how can i control this? it doesnt seem like any other guys do or they conceal it well. any ideas? First of all, I don't consider it "disgusting" or abnormal to see some guy get a boner at the swimming pool. It's only "disgusting" if they are trying to flaunt it or show it off, or jerking off someplace public. I consider it merely a cool fact of life, that a few guys will occasionally get uncontrollable boners in some place public. Penises just get hard sometimes, often for no apparent reason, and it's kind of cool to see a spontaneous hard-on showing as long as it isn't me, and that person isn't seeking undue attention.It doesn't seem like any other guys do [get boners] or they conceal it well, you said. I am not so sure this is always the case. Other guys do get erections, and they don't always conceal it well. I have seen a few people get erections that they seemed to have little ability to conceal. In most cases, I don't think they meant to get a boner, but it just happens. Some guy got really hard in the showers at summer camp. I have seen a few friends get hard. I have seen a few erections in class at school. But generally, nobody much said anything or seemed to care, as it can happen most any young guy. I have got boners in class, and once awoke with quite a boner at summer camp. Somebody said I was "Ready," and somebody else later admiringly complemented me that I have a "big dick," but after a few days most everybody seems to forget, at least if you laugh it off and don't worry about it too much.I think what happens, is that most guys get a few erections in public places, but most of their friends weren't there, or didn't notice. But you can't help notice if it is you. So you feel self-confident about it, and think only you feel those urges to get hard. But I have felt the urges to get hard in the swimming pool, but didn't get more than mildly hard there. I haven't seen erections at the swimming pool, but seen them elsewhere, and while I don't consider it common for somebody to get a boner in the pool, I hardly think it should be rare either as most all guys feel those urges. Urges aren't bad, but rather what people do with them.Yeah, you are supposed to try to control or suppress it, but if somebody gets an erection in the pool, I hardly think it would be the first time that happens to somebody, nor the last. I don't consider it much ranking in the things of life to worry about, especially if it is "the other guy," and not me it happens to. I don't think most people would find it "disgusting," but more like one of life's cool curiosities.I am not so sure that jerking off at home, helps prevent those erections either. Maybe for some people, maybe not. The jury still seems to be out on whether that relieves those urges, or stimulates them further? Perhaps both. And I doubt that all people really find it necessary or worth the bother or waste of time to masturbate, and I think the religious types should frown on the use of anti-life "birth control" far more than on private masturbation.I also would not always like people "jumping on me," but respecting my space some. Perhaps for kids playing around, this isn't always so realistic? They probably have no idea that they are giving you an erection. I wouldn't be turning in a direction that they would feel a boner coming on, but I don't consider it realistic that everybody always be able to conceal a rising hard-on. In reply to: yea i think it might be because like they are on me and i know not to touch their ass or anytihng but i just think of how great it would feel. im sure that doesnt help lol Erections aren't easy to control and while I don't think much of how great it would feel to be touching anybody else, but it is hard not to think of how good a rising erection can feel. Thus, when I got a hard-on in class, it often wouldn't be just a minor bulge, but soon lept into a full persistant 7" boner thrusting down my pants leg. It just wouldn't stop but would often soon grow into a raging boner sometimes even oozing semen . (But they soon subsided with age but still rage at night.) And thinking too much of trying to make it go down, only makes it get harder I think. The best thing to do is to ignore it, and go on like everything is normal. Erections happen, and I don't think they should be such a big deal. Often many people won't say much anything it seems, because they have seen guys get them before, or it could happen to them too. I never have seen much reason to tease anybody about them, and think it cool to see that the equipment works, and that they could someday marry and give their wife some babies. In fact, with the world population exceeding 6 billion people, do people really have all that much "control" anyway? But human population levels should not be any less at all, lest you and I might never have been born. Large families should be encouraged worldwide, so that all the more people may live and experience life.I have a few ideas how to better control those spontaneous or involuntary erections.1. Get older. Most people seem to get more control with age, when puberty and those reproductive urges aren't such a new or novel thing anymore.2. Get married, to have a proper outlet for those sexual urges.3. Erections aren't always so "sexual" and usually not intentional, so downplay and ignore them.4. Give up swimming and just stay home? Not very realistic. Should no boys ever go swimming?5. Make the best of it. Not being able to "get it up" would likely be a far worse problem.6. Perhaps it's just part of the going-through-puberty experience to get a few erections at inconvenient times. Boners happen. Most people have probably seen a few boners before anyway.
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well 2 every 1 thats reading this lets just face the damn fact that when ur dick gets hard in public theres nuttin u can do bout i but hope thats no 1 notices it -lol-!!! its life, so deal with it!!!!!! -
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well 2 every 1 thats reading this lets just face the damn fact that when ur dick gets hard in public theres nuttin u can do bout i but hope thats no 1 notices it -lol-!!! its life, so deal with it!!!!!!
A civilized society would probably just ignore it. It happens. No big deal. A world with over 3 billion penises is likely to have a few boners in public places. It's inevitable. No big deal.
Just be moral and limit sex to marriage, and provide for and love all the children that God gives.
Society doesn't need to be too uptight about sex, when as they say, "Everybody does it."
One place I worked, I saw people come in and change their clothes, mixed company who cares?, in the back where customers wouldn't see, but we employees would. They turned their back, to make no big show or anything. Perhaps it was because the bathroom was such a tiny water closet with scarcely room to turn around? Well I think that was as it should be. Perhaps not everybody can wear their uniform already from home?
I also think it is cool for mothers to breast-feed in public. People eat in public don't they? I imagine they can cover up with a baby blanket or something to be modest and discreet, but it would be better than fussing babies, wouldn't it? And to allow more acceptance of motherhood and babies, would be great for society, and more family-friendly.
I think we should be more like the third world, and be more fond of having many children, and have a child-friendly, family-friendly society; while they should be more like us and modernize, to better provide for their growing populations.
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i thought we were talking about boners, not saving sex and having 10 kids...
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i thought we were talking about boners, not saving sex and having 10 kids...
Well not everybody can always avoid a boner, and I also think that not everybody can be expected to avoid having 10 kids.
At least having children serves a great purpose. What purpose do boners serve? Just one of life's embarrassments, perhaps to keep humans from being too cocky? :blush:
Could you imagine the angels in heaven watching, if the antics of humans even amuse them, laughing to one another, "There's one of those silly humans, done went and popped a boner. I am glad we don't have that problem..."