A very good friend of mine went out last night for New Years Eve.She's had loneliness routed depression, and is on a double dose of Prozac. While she was out (she was sober) she was at a friend's house. The friend was drunk. She was talking with him on his bed, she laid back. The Drunk friend, suddenly decided he loved her. Kissed her, and bit her, hard on the shoulder. Normally, Stephanie, although perhaps over-lonely, doesn't let people be romantically interested in her. Her explanation to me was she felt out of her body. As though her mind were floating above her, and her body was on the bed. She felt helpless to control herself, and made no effort to stop the friend's advances. Needless to say, I was sick with anxiety to think my friend was raped. Luckily, she wasn't. The friend stopped his advances, after biting her.Regardless, this brings me to my question.What could have caused her lack of self control? She herself is extremely confused and ashamed that it happened, but she could not stop herself from letting things happen.I severely doubt, but wonder anyway, could the Prozacs have had any effect on this? What could have caused her to accept the violently sexual advances?
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Troublesome Accident
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Extreme tiredness can do this.
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as she explained to me, I nearly had an anxiety attack. It was fortunate that nothing terrible happened.
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Reading is a wonderful skill, Helms.Once you learn how to do it, you might see that Rain's friend was NOT drunk.@Rain: Can't your friend do something (lawsuit?) about this sexual harrasment?
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I only said that to show that you weren't ignoring me.
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But you're still reading my posts, which defeats the purpose of me being on ignore.
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Onto subject:The problem, as she explained it to me, wasn't just that he was drunk, but that she seemed to have lost her control over herself. That was what scared her the most.I mean, obviously the drunk part is the major cause here, but her reaction was the most frightening for her.
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This is also very true. She comes from a broken home. Her older sister lives with her father and his girlfriend. (She's about the worst influence I've every encountered) She and her little sister live with their mother and step-father. Both of home tend to leave the sister's alone. Laissez-faire upbringing so to speak. The fact Stef is as moral as she is...well I dunno why she turned out that way. I like to think I had something to do with it.Also, in response to earlier, she was very tired. She had been up for more than 30 hours when it happened.
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How should I go about convincing her she should seek help as such. She's very touchy on the subject at all, and sees getting help as declaring herself a failure.
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just bring it up casually in a convo and suggest the idea to her, you could also add in that it might help and that doing so wont make you a failure
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Eh, I get a somewhat bad feeling about this, but , what's right is right. So here's to hoping.
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Quote: A failure?! Getting help, and trying to better one's self is failing? That's preposterous. Successful, happy people don't get that way by "white knuckling it". While not impossible, it's highly doubtful that she will just wake up one day and be all better, and she won't get (learn) the skills necessary to overcome her situation without doing the work. Failing would be not finding help.Helm's hit that nail!! Anyhow, he also mentioned "self help" books. There are several good ones. IF your worried about her feelings, I would suggest buying one for "yourself" reading through it, and then recommending it to her to read.I gave out about 6 copies of one I really liked, because it helped me so much, I NEVER told anyone I thought they had a problem, just that it was an awesome book that built on what we/they already know.
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Heh..I may read it.