First fight...
well if thats what you want to call it.
We've only been dating a month and for the past 2 days hes been a dick. Today he barely talked to me and I finally asked if everything was ok. He said he didnt know so I asked if I had done something to make him mad. He said I didnt do anything. But hes still acting like a jerk and not talking to me.
Im so sick of assholes. I think I want to break up with him already. But its only been our first fight. Is that alittle too extreme?
dont break up with him, theres something you did that upset him, you gotta find out what it is an talk about it/apologize
she can't apologize for something if she doesn't even know what she did. dirkGuys seem to having as many mood swings as girls do, kinda weird. But don't give up on him, it's just a small fight. Just give him some space for a little bit first and then you know just try and cheer him up, be a lot softer to him and try and get it out of him what his problem is.
Don't jump the ship before it sinks.Like Japan said, guys will have their moody days also. Just give him time to himself, like a day or so, and he'll feel better. Once his head is cleared, I'm sure he'll talk to you about whatever happened. That is, if he's the type to talk about his feelings.Just let him know you're there if he needs someone to talk to.
could always tell him something like, "If you dont tell me whats wrong, I dont think there'll be anymore me and you..." see if that will get whats wrong out of him preferable use that last lolor you could try the nicer way, "I really want us to work out, is there anything I can do? please talk to me..."Fights are normal, he sounds a bit like me... stubborn at something that has happened. If he doesnt want to communicate and still be an arsehole, forget about him you can find better
I think xslpegex has a good point. Although he may just be being moody, he may well have been upset at something you said or did - perhaps something he feels it was wrong to be upset about, which is why he won't say. I think most of us have weak spots, things that we are particularly vulnerable about, or things we hold onto dearly and get upset when they are challenged.
I am sure you maybe just struck a nerve or sensitive spot. Try confronting him on the matter or if he is not so straight up go for hints and try do the math problem of 2+2 and hopefully you will end up with 4.Don't give up at the first hurdle, you have been dating a month so everyone has there off days . Men suffer a form of pms no matter how much they deny it. Torx
Yeah, i go through mood swings, it's one of two things: Either you have hit a sensitives spot, and him, like me, clams up and becomes stubborn, and the best thing is to be gentle and kind. It would probably make it worse getting pissed off with him, or two, he's being a jerk about something small.
Thank you for all your replies, but as it ended up he called me last night and wanted to talk in person. I didnt want to break up but a few minutes after we started talking he told me he wasnt sure what he wanted anymore. We got into a fight and I went home broken hearted.Tonight we talked again after he had time to straighten out his thoughts. He told me that after we started dating (& hooking up alittle) he felt he was falling farther from God. He felt horrible. He says he still likes me but needs time to clear his mind and step away from temptation. From what it seems to me he wont be gone for long, but do you think I should wait for him?I like him alllott.
Originally Posted By: floridacansuckitFrom what it seems to me he wont be gone for long, but do you think I should wait for him? It's not just a matter of waiting. It's a matter of respecting his beliefs. Don't push him into things he doesn't want to do (like "hooking up" if that's what bothered him) and just take it slow. Give him time.But if YOU really need to be physical in the relationship so early, then perhaps you need to find someone who can meet you at that level.
I was actually the one trying to take things slowly because I knew what his beliefs were. He was the one pushing it.
Then he needs to work on his self-control.
