Sooo...last night I went to a strip club with my boyfriend and his older brother. Uhm, I felt slightly, just a tinge of jealousy, but I decided to crush that feeling by drinking. Hmm first mistake here. I drank just like two shots(actually I'm not sure cuz it was a mixed drink that had two shots of absolut mandarin, 6 smirnoff green apples and sprite) I drank about a quarter of that. but I haven't touched alcohol since two years ago, so I kind of forget that feeling of having absolutely no inhibition. I'm naturally comfortable watching other girls perform and myself in private. But anyways so we went at midnight. Really friendly girls and customer service, of course if you're tipping hella. So at first the strippers asked for a kiss from me. I obliged. I thought I was buzzed, but by now I think I may have been drunk. Because then one of the ladies performing that night pulled me up to the stage and had me strip too. Uhm, I don't know why I did it, but I only felt as if it was right. I was a bit too comfortable, I was laughing and smiling a lot. Enjoying too much, I feel like my boyfriend's brother's birthday idea had led me to loosen up and feel much more confident. However what I'm worried about is..did I cross the line to do such a thing? If I was sober I wouldn't have even thought of letting other people there see me topless. Mind you, there were a lot of guys that night. BUt I don't know, I'm just nervous I may have turned into another average american skank...I feel just so guilty but yet so joyful to be able to do something like that. Ahh, what I'm trying to ask here is just...you think its ok if it was your gf who did that? Would you think of her as kind of slutty...or just having fun? Oh, and would you think its weird if a non-stripper girl goes up on stage to do a little stripping...
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Not a good idea for gf to go to strip club
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Just do what you want to do, if you are having fun why does it matter what other people label you as. However the issue here is that you are in a relationship, you have to ask yourself if you would be okay with your boyfriend getting a stage and stripping for a bunch of girls.Personally if it was in good fun and a one time thing that was spontaneous I wouldn't have a problem with it, because at the end of the night none of the other guys are going home with my girl. However if it becomes a regular thing I would definately have an issue with it.
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Ohh well you know I would have been jealous back then. But now I would be damn proud if my man can work his body like that. haha. It would be fun, definitely. After this experience, I've never felt so sure and confident in myself to just be myself. I really liked it, and I actually feel much less guilty about the sexual exposure. In fact, I feel so much more of a woman. However, I wouldn't over do things, because you know in the Buddhist culture, moderation is the balance to a happy life. I'm glad I got to go, I'm glad I didn't strip all the way. haha but I went topless. I was a bit iffy about it after I was sober but after reading your response an asking my bf how he felt. He was super turned on that I had done that for him.
I just wonder did the strippers kiss me and pulled me up on stage because I tipped them well. Or so lol they don't have to strip hahahaha
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Well, it's important to be comfortagle but make sure that your safe. It sounds like you were but it might not always be that way.
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If I was your boy friend and It was my birthday I would be delighted to see you dirty dancing on stage and showing your top. But then a part of me would be like damn it, all these other guys just saw a part of you that only I SHOULD. I wouldn't be mad just a little annoyed and satisfied at the same time.-21 year old asian, who comes from a family of buddist-
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Hey if your boyfriend is cool with it and you had fun doing it, then there's no harm done. You won't see most of those people ever again so who is to judge? Life is too short to feel guilty about silly stuff like this. You should be proud that you had the confidence to get up on stage and strut your stuff!