Hmmm IDK NEW GIRL??

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soo yah, now im kinda lost where to go and look for a new girl.... i went out clubbing and such but..those girls idk i dance we are drunk lol i get their numbers, but no connection im really not interested...GUYS GIMME GOOD ideas where i can go, and maybe meet a great girl, one that will love me, and take care of me, and treat me right, most most importantly make me happy... basically a replacement for my ex gf... ugh i hate being alone...more then anything in this world

I'd be careful if I were you. You just went through a really tough time and you haven't let your emotions fully blow over. I think you're rushing things way too fast and just want another girl to either spite your ex or need a quick rebound.Nothing wrong with going back to the dating scene. But be sure you're looking for a girl for the right reason. What's going to suck is if you meet a girl and you're still not over with your ex, and by that I mean not over the anger and fustration she put your through. It's really unfair that you're not going to be able to give all your emotions and attention to a new girl.I say give yourself more time. But if you really want to date again, then please be careful whom you pick and choose.

You just posted about your break up the other day didnt you? How heartbroken you were and etc. This really isnt the time to be looking for a new girlfriend. I dont think you can even handle one right now. If you really loved your last girlfriend your emotions and feelings for her arent going to blow over in a day.

>>>"...ugh i hate being alone...more then anything in this world"

Be careful of this cause it can get the best of you. My dad was like that and ended up marrying a woman he couldn't stand. They spent 16 miserable years together, because he hated be alone. Be mindful that you aren't settling for some one just so you don't have to be alone. Make sure you actually like 'em.

To your question if you want a different place to meet a women try a book store or take a class and even though it's cliche the grocery store works too or the record store. Just keep in mind your not in club and the women at other places are not looking to get hit on. Just start up a little conversation, about what she's reading, the class, where the mangoes are or what she thinks of this CD, and you can pretty quickly tell if she has any interest at all. Just don't make the mistake most guys do when meeting women out in the world, it's not a club, your not trying to pick them up... well you are, but don't act like it.

There... for what it's worth.

The first thing you need to do is change your attitude.I know this from experience, I wasnt afraid of being alone, I was afraid of going through life with out trying each and every girl on the planet at least once.You have to decide what it is you want, if you want to fuck off and around thats fine, just be honest about it, I was and i had more pussy than any 5 people I know added together aside from my former "student" who passed me about a year after I stopped whoring around.I never planned on being with a single girl but you have to keep an open mind, and when I found one that was able to make me see her as my equal, and a companion instead of just a piece of ass, I dumped the others and stuck with her. The last 4 years of my life have been the best and Im down to just that single girl instead of 3 or 4 new ones each month.when I was whoring I picked them up everywhere, 7-11 the atm, grocery shopping, walking down the street, bus stops, bars, pool halls, concerts, waiting in line , sometimes a huge line just so I could get the chance to talk to the cashier.Be open, and remember that the first time you see a girl, thats probably the only time youll ever see her, take advantage of that situation, ask her out then, if not you may never see her again to have a second chance.

yah i do still love my gf more then anything in this world...i want a new gf for a few reasons...selfish i know but inside i hurt so bad1. get my mind off my ex, and maybe move on 2. get some sex......its been 2-3 weeks, for me thats a looong time...3. i just want to be in love again ....even though love is fake and u get cheated on ...i love, TO BE LOVED

You REALLY need a LOT more time to change that attitude.

Those are definitely the wrong reasons to find a girlfriend.Would it be fair to the girl if she found out you're just going out with her to have sex, to not be alone, and to try to get over your last girl? That's pretty mean to the new girl.Just give it some time. Go to the gym, like you said, and just live life. You'll have moved on eventually.

OldFolks said take a class. That's a really good idea. There are lots of single, intelligent, attractive girls in college (I'm assuming that's where you'd be headed.) In any event you're not going to fall in love again any time soon ... I think that takes time. Just go date again. That takes care of two of your three issues: you won't be alone and you can be having sex. Never underestimate the benefits of dating and sex when you aren't in love. The best way to learn what kind of girl you really want and how to get her is to test the crop and remember what works.