ok i did not know where to put this so i put it under a catagory were the girls would read. This is long complicated question, i have this friend who is like a sister to me, an we talk about everything. We are always together and care and love eachother very much. we are very close phsically and mentally, we cuddle, spoon, hold eachother (not i a sexual way) but are just very close. This past weekend we started laying on top of each toher because we both found it very nice. obv. my penis got a little excited (as anybody would) and i told her about it so she wasnt sketched out, and she was fine with it. It started poking her in the stomach and things so she moved it to were it was not poking her (which happen to be her vigina). keep in mind we were both clothed and are very confy with each other so we ddn't mind. Now i have cancer and have had many surgs. on my leg and it needs to be moved offten and she knows that. So i would push up on my butt, but whilei did that my penis would preasure her and she liked it. So i asked if she waneted me to keep doing it and she siad yeah. so i did it every few seconds untill it got to a full grinding motion. after we were done she got up and said that she really liked that but we couldn't do it again. But i really enjoyed it and said i did't mind, but she siad no. I don't know what to do, i really like her friendship but also want to be there for her, pleasure. now i know that we would never do anything more, but i just feel like its weird, i just wanted to know whaat you guys thought..thanksty
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Question for the ladies
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Welcome to A2A, hope90.I'm no lady, but from a male perspective, to me it seems clear that she has decided it's not a good idea to do it again, and you'll have to accept that. She sees you as a friend and probably feels that sex of any sort takes the relationship in a direction she doesn't want it to go. She may also be concerned (with good reason, I think) that it wouldn't stop there but would be likely to go further.
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yeah thats kinda what i thought too. But it just kinda sucks you know, i know that we are close and are very close with each other, and she always says that, that means so much to a girl. But its just hard because she keeps saying that she really enjoyed it and everything but wouldn't want to do it again. And its just that i am very protective towards her, everyimte she gets a crush i look for reasons for her not to date him. I dunno if there is something else or its the fact that she has been there for me in times of need. Its hard to realize how close you are with someone untill you need them in hard time such as battling cancer. It just gives me a headache.
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If only there were more men like Ineligible who understand women. Hey OP, like he said, she just doesn't want to ruin what you guys have with sex. It seems like it was one of those "spur of the moment" type of things (it happens to the best of us). Don't take it too personally.
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It sounds like you have a different kind of feeling for her, then she does you. You want to perhaps move things in a dating/sexual direction, where women tend to love their male friends, like brothers. It seems easier for women to have that brotherly love with men, then men to have that sisterly love with women. If you love and value your friendship, and I can tell you do, you have to stay in the friend zone.
Welcome to A2A, I'm Rox.
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Most guys I know would have taken advantage of that situation.
Shes lucky to have a friend like you.