Virginity

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Okay, this may be weird, considering i am male. Yet, i will continue. When a girl has sex for the first time, do they bleed? I have only been picking up the odd snippets from previous topics, but i would like to know. One of those things you should know?

Some do, some don't.

i didnt bleed the first time, but i bled the next several times.. it depends on the girl

A girl can be a virgin but still not have her hymen intact. It's when the hymen is ruptured that bleeding happens.

Yeah I didn't, thanks to tampons.It did make my first time a little bit more comfortable

Yeah I didn't, thanks to tampons.

It did make my first time a little bit more comfortable.

So i am presuming you should be slower on the first time? Or should you rupture the hymens so that you get rid of the problem ?This is merely for knowledge, i am not planning on having sex soon. :]

Rupture the hymen, are you kidding?! Do have any idea how painful that is? Unless you want your nuts slapped, you must take it slow. Be sure to use lube as well.

Wait I'm confused, is it possible for a woman to have her hymen intact after her first time?

Yup, surgery. Once it's stretched out, it won't grow back or anything.

I've heard a lot about a woman's first time being painful. Is that because of the hyman? How long would the pain last?

If you're nice and easy on her (like you should be), it shouldn't last too long. The first time pain isn't THAT painful, assuming everything's fine. It's like a small pinch, it'll go away in a few seconds. It'll take a small bit of time for her to get used to the feeling of something bigger than her finger or tampon in her vagina.If you're too rough, she'll probably bleed and be in more pain than necessary. That's when you have to stop or else you deserve a kick in the nuts, lol. This is exactly why you should always have plenty of lube, have her be very relaxed, and you take your time. Slow is key.

i wish i woulda read this years ago... i always figured it was like taking off a bandaid, just yank it, and get it over with...lol explains the tears in the girls eyes... (im not trying to brag, juss simply stating that i learned something new, and am glad)why does it hurt more if u dont just go slow? i mean dont you get accustomed to pain?

Quote:why does it hurt more if u dont just go slow? i mean dont you get accustomed to pain? Because it's too much too fast. Your brain and your body can't get used to something new that quickly. I get that you're a guy, so it probably isn't as obvious to you as it is to me.So, think of it like this: Does getting hit in the junk hurt any less if someone kicked you really fast? If he quickly kicked you again, would you get used to it?

hmmm... idk i think that men and women are extremely different when it comes to pain...i mean my girlfriend cant take me rectally, but i myself have taken things as big as myself (for testing purposes only) easily...actually getting hit in the balls gently hurts, usually worse, than getting hit hard and fast...and when i got hit multiple times, my balls got numb after the 3rd time, but it did leave me in pain for a good 2 weeks....

Lol, congrats on missing the point entirely. I wasn't trying to say men and women have different levels of pain, although that's a bit silly to some extent because we have the same nervous system. I was trying to say that pain hits you pretty fast and it isn't going to tell the brain to "quickly get used to it". It's not like you can get a bone broken and in a second tell your brain to shut off the sense of touch so you can tolerate the pain.That's why I was trying to use an example that you may be familiar with since you're not a girl. That's why I said if the pain from getting hit is any less painful if you were hit really fast. And would your brain quickly get used to it if you were hit a second later. The answer should be no.

well then i guess u make a point... lol.but i do think that men and women take pain differently.women have thinner skin than men, and men typically have thick skin.reason being is because of the way that we evolved. men were hunters/workers, skin got hard, women, were cookers.i watched a segment on the discovery channel about this, thats why typically women get colder, faster than men...i say TYPICALLY so much, because there are some exceptions. as there will ALWAYS be exceptions.

I didn't see that thing on the discovery channel, but I heard from a few sources that the main reason women get colder faster than men is because men have more muscles mass which generates heat. Whereas women have more fat that doesn't hold heat as well.

it was on a segment talking about the evolution of man, and it gave little kinda Did You Know things about women...they were saying that since men were always outside and working, and hunting, there skin became thicker to accomodate themselves for the wheather and conditions... where as women stayed typically inside, and they took care of babies, and the house.and on another note... i think that when it comes to pain and men vs women, there are pains that women can take, and men cannot... but then again... there are ALOT of pain women cant take where as men can... since our skin is thicker and stronger...

I'm not saying you're wrong or anything. It makes sense, but I think most of it is attributed to muscle/fat mass.