Hi, i need some serious advice.... Aight here it goes, i have 2 other friends ( Ann & Jane {not there real names}) i had a bf, James and he had a friend named Ken. Anyways, long story short Ken and Jane became intimate ( this Ann and I found out from him) but he doesn't want us to tell Jane, they've been having sex really really really often ( like once or twice a week)and im really worried about her having sex soo often and what it can do to her {she's 17 and he's gonna be 20 this year...and her body structure is wayyy smaller than his)and just feel really betrayed that she doesnt trust me (us) enough to share it with us..... but I cant talk to her about it because Ken trusts me and told me not to tell her....SO I need a way to talk to my friend Jane without betraying Ken's trust....I still feel betrayed as a friend and really would like to slap her ass around
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Hold up. I'm sorry but I don't see a problem here. Your friend is having sex, so what? Her sex life is her business, not yours. If she doesn't want to talk to you about it, then there's nothing you can do. You have no right to put yourself in her private life.
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Yeah, Virtual has a point.She's 17, old enough to make her own decisions. Sex won't be "bad on her" for her size, or however you think. It's a natural thing to do, it's made to be "A-OK".What exactly do you need to talk with her about? If she is enjoying herself with her friend, then I would say, good for her (Even though I may not personally agree with it).
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prob is he's really promiscous and he's havin sex with like 3 other people than her and im not sure if he's using protection with any of them...im worried about if she catches something from him...
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Originally Posted By: anonymous112he's havin sex with like 3 other people than her Are you sure about that or are you just assuming? If it is indeed true, then tell your friend (unless she already knows). You don't need to have to butt into her life, but just casually let her know to always use protection.You can say something like, "I'm your friend and I want you to be safe. Please always use a condom."
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i've been dropping hints towards certain things and trying to give her subtle signs that im worried about her. The last time I talked to him to was saying that there's a lady at work he was havin sex with...like a friend with benefits and they're other girls he's having sex with too... and i'm sure she doesn't know
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If you're really worried about her, don't drop hints or signals. Tell her straight up and see what she says.
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I am really stunned that you feel "betrayed as a friend" because this girl is sleeping with someone and hasn't told you! I must betray my friends every day of the week by your standards because I certainly don't go around assuming they have the right to know what's going on in my sex life!If you care for this person as much as you say I don't see the problem with being honest with her. It's very simple: you just tell her that you got to hearing that she is sleeping with this guy and also that she is not his only partner. Also though, you should add that you don't know how much truth there is to that rumor, because the fact is (unless you witnessed him having sex with someone else) you actually don't.
