People's exes

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Hey you guys--I don't know if any of you remember me but I used to come on here last year sometimes. Thanks for giving advice for those issues, but I decided to leave those people and issues in 2009.I finally found a very sweet man to be with and have a boyfriend, but the only problem is...Can someone help me understand the behavior of psycho exes? He hasn't had a girlfriend in forever before me, and didn't keep in contact with her...out of the blue as soon as she finds out he starts dating me, she starts shit.This bitch, one of his exes who happens to be psycho, blew up my phone last night when I was trying to sleep sending me these rude texts saying I don't deserve her bf or something...we're all in college and people are still pulling this crap, for real? Do psycho exes truly think they'll get their ex back by making up things about the girl he's with? Sometimes people may break up because the drama becomes too much, but that doesn't guarantee the dude will come crawling back to them just because the girl he's with may not be in the picture anymore. I'm still with him, that psycho's gonna have to deal. Have any of you dealt with something like this, if so, how did you solve it?

I remember you. It's good to see you back.I've never personally experienced the drama you are, but I know that it exists. There's another thread on here that's related and has gone on entirely too long.Some people are just immature and feel that if they can't have him (or her), then nobody else will either...at least without experiencing some pain. I think that answer is to not let her get to you. Don't take the calls and don't return voicemails. Turn your phone off at night so you can sleep. Hopefully she'll learn pretty quickly that you aren't going to play that game.Good luck.

Can you block her on your phone?

it's a small world where I live and she actually stole one of my best friend's phone unfortunately and didn't use her own number, but luckily he got his phone back. i told her she could still send me those nasty texts, but the last one i said i wouldn't respond. i hope she got the clue that i don't care. for now i haven't heard from her, and i hope that was the last of it. this is a different psycho ex of somebody's from the last time i posted about something similar. =/ these people really amuse me.

I've been in this kind of situation, kinda...Only, he wasn't texting me, and he wasn't an ex... He liked me, I didn't like him, he eventually cut himself outside of my apartment building and that was when I figured out he was not mentally stable... I ended up calling his mother, who was furious, she came picked him up and took him to the hospital, After that she went to his house and took every knife out of the place.(Gotta love mothers.)He proceeded to calling me for the next 6 months at 2am trying to get into contact with me, I always screened his calls and he would leave some weird voicemails... But, I assume he eventually got the message(or found someone else...) He has not tried calling me. Haha. I see him sometimes when I'm out clubbing, but, he never comes up to me, he actually leaves the room after telling his friends that "his night is ruined"... Hahahaha, he treats me like we were in a bad relationship.I just want to let you know that people generally stop after a while.

Man, I can't believe this! But then again, I saw this coming...my bf broke up with me last night...and we were only official for like two or three days. We had been kind of dating for like about a week and a half though. I was put through all that drama for nothing, it kind of pisses me off. I just wanted someone to have fun with, he thinks we were being serious already but I didn't think we were. All we did whenever we hung out was party and just hang out like friends, I don't get how that was serious.I kept telling him how I wanted to hang out for a while so it wouldn't look stupid if he broke up with me three days later because everyone can see this kind of stuff on facebook. Yet, he asked me out right away anyway...I still said yes because I did like him just to see where it would go.Now I don't know what to do if he asks me out again after a while, should I give him another chance if it happens?

I already know you will say yes, regardless of what we say on here, but, unless he does something seriously stupid, I don't see why you shouldn't give him another chance... A chance to redeem his image in your eyes, if you will. He didn't give you any other reasons other than the seriousness factor to ending the relationship?

I think people that go on the attack like that are so frustrated with being rejected that they allow themselved to get out of control. As you know, this is simple desperation...the last resort. If they aren't happy, noone can be. Here's what I suggest:1) Don't let her see you sweat. Don't respond, at all. You'll only fuel the flames.2) You need to have a very serious talk with your bf about because often in these cases there may be some small behavior that is encouraging this. Don't attack him and start making accusations, but find out what calls he's taken from her.3) Involve law enforcement. Keep a log of her calls and emails and take them over to the police station. We see too many violent stories on the news steming from stories like this.Good luck.

Thanks so much for your input so far. Appreciate it! Reen Tar- Yeah that's basically what he said as to why he broke up with me and nothing else really.Let's call my most recent ex I, his cousin A, and another friend of mine J.I have known I's cousin A for 8 years and just met I like two weeks ago. I kind of had a crush on A for a while when I first met him, but practically everyone likes him and there's a lot of competition with him so I never said anything about it.Then, I met J in a college art class of mine, but he was already seeing somebody else so that didn't go anywhere. When I told J I met I, his other best friend, they are all best friends, he said I should give I a chance so I did.A is still hanging out with his girlfriend or whatever they are right now so I was fine with hanging out with them as friends.Now I don't know what to do if some time in the near future A becomes available and so is I. They are cousins, but I didn't want to date me anymore, at least for now.Can you believe I met all three of these people through different functions over the span of 8 to 10 years.And they just happened to graduate from the same high school and all be best friends. This is such a mess. :P

Originally Posted By: aquariusReen Tar- Yeah that's basically what he said as to why he broke up with me and nothing else really. I might also suggest you ask for other reasons to the breakup, never hurts to know, right?

he sent me a text saying that he likes me and i am a really nice girl but he does not want a serious relationship right now and he thought it was moving way too fast. idk it didn't seem like it was serious to me. i mean if it was serious and he broke up with me, i probably would have shed tears by now but i didn't find it serious at all, lol. i just feel disappointed and extremely stupid for finally accepting him to be my boyfriend the 3rd time he asked me out, then 3 days later he freaking dumps me. i just feel very very stupid. i thought it might work considering how he claimed he "likes" me "a lot."in the case that this relationship wasn't long at all, i suppose i will be ok with him breaking up with me in a text, but if it was like a 1 year or more years relationship and he broke up in a text, that would be wrong i think.

I also have another situation with I and A. I wouldn't mind getting back with I if it did happen, but the thing is, I've always liked A a little more, it's just that A is hardly ever available...he's always dating someone.

A is kind of with someone right now, but if in the near future he
becomes available, I kind of like A more than I and was sort of set up with I. I, my ex doesn't want to date me anymore so...I don't think he would be mad if I tried something with his cousin. He's the one that dumped me, right? What if A started to like me?

Would it be okay to go for A if it is okay by I?

Originally Posted By: aquariusI also have another situation with I and A. I wouldn't mind getting back with I if it did happen, but the thing is, I've always liked A a little more, it's just that A is hardly ever available...he's always dating someone.A is kind of with someone right now, but if in the near future hebecomes available, I kind of like A more than I and was sort of set up with I. I, my ex doesn't want to date me anymore so...I don't think he would be mad if I tried something with his cousin. He's the one that dumped me, right? What if A started to like me?Would it be okay to go for A if it is okay by I? It'd be okay to go for A if it's okay by I. Why don't you open your eyes up to like... Z and Y and G, H, Q... there are plenty of dudes out there. I recently was stuck in a predicament between the same group of girls. It is really not worth the hassle. What is worth the hassle... is getting out there and meeting someone new until you find the someone. I ignored all of the girls in my predicament and started fresh. Opened my eyes a lot too on what I really wanted in my better half. As far as the text-dump... I've had it happen. I asked this girl out un-officially as she was still w/ buddy and she said yes(she was dumping him same day as question) she ended up breaking up w/ buddy and we hung out 3 nights in a row. All to the wee hours of the a.m. She sends me a message 10 minutes after dropping her off the 3rd night officially ending what wasn't official. hahaha It REALLY just shows how much the person respects things in life. Weather the relationship be 5 minutes or 2 years... my break up will always be done in person.

Sorry I haven't logged on in a while. Yeah, you're right about there being more people not related to each other.

Since then, a lot of things have happened.
For the past two and a half weeks recently...I've been hanging out with someone I went to high school with, but let's just say L, haha, doesn't know A or I and isn't part of that group luckily.

In fact, L is a year older than me, but the funny thing is, we never talked at all back in middle school or high school. We always rode the same bus, have always lived down the street from one another, and hung out with some of the same friends (not related to A or I of course). We always knew who each other were because of that, but just recently started talking 15 to 20 years later randomly one night.

Even though we live so close I could even walk to his house and not have to drive 25 to 30 minutes like I did with A and I, I'm giving L his space and he's giving me space, too. At first we kind of saw each other a lot but I haven't seen him since last Wednesday and I haven't texted him any at all. He texted me on Sat/Sun, but things came up so I'm just waiting for him to say the word. I'm not going to ask to hang out and I think I have been pretty good with not bombarding him with texts.

Hopefully we'll be hanging out this weekend.

Just giving some updates on the situation. :smile:

A and I are no more in my life, lol.