A few weeks ago me and my friends met this kid from another town at the st. patricks parade. We hung out the whole parade, we thought he was a pretty cool kid so we exchanged numbers so we can call eachother up to hang out on a weekend some day. I thought he was a pretty cool kid, and he would text me sayin wassup a few times. But today a cousin who goes to his school told me that he was talking shit about me. He was telling people that i try to hard to act cool..which makes no sense to me really, cuz i don't. And i find that really fake, because a while before that he texted me asking if i was going to a party hes goin this weekend, and then i heard he talks shit about me. I don't know if this is jealousy or what, but its been bugging me. I usually just shrug things off like that, but its been bugging me. I want to call him up and confront him about it but at the same time i dont because im the kind of guy who doesnt like to start problems, and likes to be cool with everyone. If i confront him and he says yeah i did say that, a whole problem will start, and if he says no i didnt say that then i didnt get anywhere with that. I just dont like fake people, but i dont know what i should do, just shrug it off or confront him? Its gonna really bug me though.
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Should i confront him?
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I have the same exact problem with a kid. It's all just insecurity, but I'm sure deep down he's a good kid and he's just lost with who is so he uses you (by making up things) for his own personal problems. I don't know if you get what I mean, but basically he's making things up that he does and saying that you do them. It's really up to you to confront him. Chances are it's not you it's him.
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I also forgot to mention that my cousin who goes to school with him says no one likes him and he has no friends really. So i don't know, i don't think i'll confront him but its gonna be weird for me to talk to him like everythings cool, you know?
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Yeah it's really too bad for kids like that. They get really insecure and talk about everyone behind their backs and then get everyone to hate them. I've done this with my friend, I just said "Look a couple of people have told me that you're talking shit about me behind my back. I'll give you one more chance to stop it or I'm cutting of this friendship. I really don't wanna lose you as a friend, but I can't be friends with someone who talks about me." If that doesn't get through to him then you're better off ditching him as a friend. But if you're forced into hanging with him (say you're friends still wanna hang with him) then go for it. Trust me I've been through all this multiple times.
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Thing is we're not really friends, i just met him once and it was st. pats parade and every1 knows what goes on that day. He doesn't even know me well enough to talk about me, thats what pisses me off the most, and also the fact that he still talks to me after saying that about me. Its whatevs.
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He goes to a different school. I bet the people he talks to you'll never meet and they won't know how you look like. So, why should you let this bother you? Shrug it off, delete him from your phone, and move on with your life. I bet you have better things to spend your energy on.
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Well actually i talk to a lot of people from the school he goes too, but your right i should just shrug it off and let people talk their shit, and it deffinetly is jealousy. Thanks.
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I mean he obviously doesn't really know you.So if you get to know him,and he's still talkin' shit then he's a bad friend.If you stop talking to him then it doesn't mater.either way,I wouldn't confront him