Should I confront my dad on drugs?

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The other day my dad went out with my sister to the Red Sox game. Since no one was home I decided to check around on his room. I know I know none of my business, but I was acting on a hint I got when I came into his room and he was sitting there watching TV and the room smelled what I thought was marijuana. So I went in and looked around his room for all the possible places he would be hiding it. I looked in his drawer next to his bed and I see a stack of money, which I assume is drug money. I'm guessing there's at least $300 there or more. Normally, I would take this off as being a stash for when he's low on cash from work. But recently I've asked him for money and he says he's out of money, and now I know he's really not. That pisses me off. But wait it gets better. I went into his sock drawer to get a pair of socks and underneath it all I find 2 scales that measure up to milligrams (obviously for weighing drugs). Upon further inspection I see little marijuana bits on it. God did that ever push me over the edge. Of all the times he's told me he'd kill me if I ever tried it and here he is not just using it BUT SELLING IT. What I wanna know is should I confront him on it or talk to my mom (who is divorced from him for other reasons).

Well you might want to confront him, if your worried about what can happen if he gets caught. But he probably needs the extra money, his job probably doesn't pay enough and he needs it to support you and the house, im just taking a guess here. You could try and talk to him just saying your worried about the consequences, theres little chance he's going to stop selling. But make sure he actually is doing all this.

But the thing is he owns his own company and makes about $150,000-$200,000 a year, I didn't think money was a problem. The only thing I'm worried about is cocaine and other more serious drugs. I myself have no problem with weed, but I'm just worried. I'm afraid if I confront him he'll hit me or get extremely offended.

Hmm..then you might not want to do it, or do it in a way that he won't get offended..

You probably should. If a customer of his is implicated in a crime and drugs are found, guess who they'll trace them back to? Having a SWAT team bust down the door at 4 am is not fun. In this paranoid, backward nation with the "War on Drugs", that scenario is quite possible.You can remind him that his salary in prison will be significantly less than his salary outside.

I'd be very careful if you're going to confront him. Don't mention that you found all that stuff in his room because I can bet that he's going to be pissed when he learns that you were snooping around when you shouldn't have.

If you want to play it safe, talk to your mom and say something along the lines like "Mom, I think Dad is selling/doing drugs.". But you don't know for sure that he's selling.

That is, if you want to confront him. But in my honest opinion, I don't think you should nor do I think you had a right to snoop around.

good idea

How do you know he is selling it? Just because of a scale?That's a pretty huge assumption you're making.Oh, and don't listen to the idiot who was talking about a SWAT team outside your house at 4am, that's ridiculous.

Originally Posted By: LTTAHow do you know he is selling it? Just because of a scale?That's a pretty huge assumption you're making.Good point. He even assumed that the money he found was from dealing.

I think you shouldn't be snooping around other people's stuff. I think what he does is his business. You wouldn't want him snooping around your stuff.

Assuming the scales means that he's dealing is absolutely ridiculous and is just an image passed on by the media.I agree that it is likely he probably is taking cannabis, but there's no evidence to suggest he's selling it.Some of my stoner mates have scales as a means of weighing a "responsible" dose. If anything it sounds like he's at least trying to be careful of his 'habit'.Confronting him is just gonna break trust down even further. You could maybe try and sweat it out of him by asking him if he's ever tried it, and mention how devastated you'd be if you discovered he ever did it.I doubt he'd come clean, but it might make him think twice.What even makes you think he'd used the scales recently?EDIT: Sorry didn't mean to reply to Ineligible. I hate this feature of the forum. So confusing :|

How old are you? I can't remember, but dude, he is an adult, what he does is up to him. It isn't directly affecting you and you shouldn't be snooping through his stuff. As an adult, money may be in my purse but it is usually earmarked for something, just because it is still in my hands doesn't mean that I have money to just hand out to my kids. I am sure your dad has the same thing going.Get over it, be a kid, and worry about you and how your going to live your life. The only real, and good choice I see you having here is, whether you want to do stuff like that with your life or not. Your not going to get your dad to do differently unless he wants to. And if you confront him, your just gonna make it harder around your house.

Well there's 2 things. One, you can't overdose on marijuana so there's no "responsible" amount. Two, I should be worried because if he gets caught or even worse killed over it. I'm not gonna have a dad, house, money, or a decent life. The other thing that makes me suspicious is that he says he's "going out" even on the weekdays and he'll leave around 530-6 and come back around 11. I know he's not meeting any women, because he doesn't want a girlfriend right now, so what else is he doing?

So do you really thing a hairy confrontation is going to make it better? He could be driving to work, or anywhere for that matter and cause a car accident, and be killed. Injure another family and his estate could be sued and gone anyway. Leaving you in the same situation you describe.I don't think it is your place to confront him. I don't think you should be snooping in his stuff, and I don't think it is for you to worry about. You could ask him, but I certainly wouldn't make it a scene.Plus, what WOULD you do if he said yeah, money is tight so I sell "insert drug here".

I'm not gonna have a dad, house, money, or a decent lifeI hope you don't believe this.If your dad gets caught with any amount of weed (since I'm assuming he's not dealing with kilos of weed), he may get a fine or some probation.Again, if that's what your dad wants to do, then that's his choice. Do you want him snooping aroudn your stuff and asking you about everything you do?

Originally Posted By: LTTAHow do you know he is selling it? Just because of a scale?That's a pretty huge assumption you're making.Oh, and don't listen to the idiot who was talking about a SWAT team outside your house at 4am, that's ridiculous. Man caught in fire-fight during drug raid According to the article, he was a recreational smoker of marijuana with a small amount for his own personal use. He didn't deal.Police do crash through doors for things as idiotic and trivial as recreational marijuana smokers. My father as a detective is rather familiar with these things.

Quote:What's clear, though, is that Chesepeake police conducted a raid on a man with no prior criminal record. Even if their informant had been correct, Frederick was at worst suspected of growing marijuana plants in his garage. There was no indication he was a violent man—that it was necessary to take down his door after nightfall.So the police fucked up. Big surprise there.What's your point?

are you fucking kidding me? every single one of those fucking pigs should be jailed, they did no investigation they just raided this guy on suspicion of growing some weed in his back yard? and now theyre trying to charge him for capital murder cause he shot an intruder that happened to be a dumbass cop? what kind of fucking fascism bullshit is that? and what piece of shit judge gave them the fucking warrant?