In about four months I'm going to be going off to college. While I can't wait for the freedom, the fun, and the massive amount of time I'm going to have to put in to become an engineer (woohoo), I've got on small problem, my mom.My mom isn't a bad person, she's just over protective, a little paranoid, and a major control freak. I can see that letting me go is driving her crazy. This over over protectiveness is causing some problems. Right now she is complaining about everything, and I mean everything. I get constant reminders to clean my room, do my homework, do my chores and go to bed early, ect. Hell I just got grounded for two weeks for going to the mall to pick up a bday gift without asking (apparently I lied and violated some trust thing). She complains about every little thing I do that she doesn't like. Lately it feels like she is just trying to control my life. She tries to keep me home as much as possible and gets worried whenever I'm out. I'm 18 but I'm treated like I'm ten.Unfortunately she doesn't seem to get that this control freak personality is annoying. She'll try to act like my best friend right after yelling or complaining to me.What I said above is nothing new though. It's just getting worse the closer college comes.What I'm really worried about is when I get to college. I have the feeling she is just going to get worse after I leave. I've got this fear that she's going to want to call me repeatedly and surprise me with random and unwanted visits (my mom doesn't work so theres nothing from stopping her). If not this she just might take it out on my brother.Anyway I could use some advice. I hate being stuck at home all the time because of my mom and I really don't want to be bothered by her my whole time at college. Sorry if I sound like some angry teen who hates his parents. I'm just kinda annoyed right now for getting grounded and getting yelled at.
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Off to college
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Have you tried talking to her about this?
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It's often hard for parents to let go, but it's important for them to learn. There's probably not a lot you can do in these four months, except talk to her as LTTA suggests; but when you're in college, if she calls so much it constitutes harassment it might be best to block her calls. (You'll need to have your phone off during classes and in the library and so on anyway.)If she visits too much you might call some family friend or minister whom she respects, and say her over-frequent visits are affecting your studies, and would this person talk to her.You may well find, though, that once you are at college she settles down.
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Sort of off topic, but some really, really good advice. As stupid and obvious as it sounds ALWAYS goto class, and ALWAYS get assignments in on time. Even if they're shit and you have to pull an all nighter to do it.Do both those and it's very, very hard to fail. Good luck, and have fun.
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I can't say I can be of much help, I went to college 1500 miles away from my parents.