Me and my boyfriend broke up 2 months ago and i want him back but im not really sure if he wants to get back together. at school and sometimes out of school he acts like he still likes me. he tells me that he is over me but none of my family nor friends believe that he is by the way that he acts. While we are at school if i look over at him he is looking at me. Before we broke up he never really hung out or talked to any of my friends but now that we are broke up if i am with one of my friends he is always right beside us. One of my friends told me that while im not at school he acts all depressed and stuff but while i am there he is hyper and alwasy looking at me. The first month that we were broke up he still told me that he loved me,he would kiss me and everything and he would still come over to the house but now he dont tell me he loves me nor kisses me and he stopped comming over to the house. I asked him why he acted like we were going to get back together the first month we were broke up and he told me that he thought that i would change but i didnt. but i dont know what i was suppose to be changing....I dont want to lose him, i love this boy with all of my heart....Everyone is telling me to just forget about him but how do i do that when i am still in love with him. i dont understand how he can say that he dont feel the same after 2 years. He gives me all these signs that he still loves me but then he say that he dont do any of that. i dont know what to do anymore. We broke up because he was tired of fighting and when i tell him that we will not fight as much anymore he does not believe me. i do not know what i could do or say to make him believe me....i need some advice from someone......If he still talks to me, and looks at me all the time, and he says that i make it hard for him to not want to get back together then dont that mean that he does want to get back together but he just dont want for it to turn out to not work out??? I would be asking my self about all of this and answer my own questions but i have asked myself these questions over and over again and i cant come up with the answers. This is all that i have been thinking about ever since we broke up and now i am just so confused, scared and want him to be back in my arms....Sometimes i cant look into his eyes and see that he does still love me but other times i look into his eyes and see nothing....if you have any advice for me please let me know
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I need to know what to do!!!!!!!
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The first month that we were broke up he still told me that he loved me,he would kiss me and everything and he would still come over to the house but now he dont tell me he loves me nor kisses me and he stopped comming over to the house.
Of course he's going to have some feelings for you after the break up because it's still too soon. Long term relationships are not easy to get over in a day or two. It can take weeks and even months. Emotions are really high and unstable and it's usually best to not talk to each other because anything can go wrong. It's best to wait until all emotions are in check so you can think rationally.Quote:
I asked him why he acted like we were going to get back together the first month we were broke up and he told me that he thought that i would change but i didnt.
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We broke up because he was tired of fighting and when i tell him that we will not fight as much anymore he does not believe me. i do not know what i could do or say to make him believe me
There's nothing you can do if he really feels you haven't changed or give you a chance to prove yourself. I don't know what you would fight about but apparently it was the last straw that broke the camel's back. It's clear that he wanted you to "change" but if you don't know what he means by that, then no one else can tell you nor help you.Quote:
If he still talks to me, and looks at me all the time, and he says that i make it hard for him to not want to get back together then dont that mean that he does want to get back together but he just dont want for it to turn out to not work out???
It seems like he does want to get back with you, but again, if you don't work on what caused the breakup in the first place, then there's nothing you can do. Do you know what he meant by when he said he thought you would change?If you and your ex want to work things out, then you need to clear your heads and talk to each other. If he wants you to change, then listen to him by what he means by that and try to convince him to give you that chance.
If he doesn't or has come to the conclusion that it's over, then it's over. You just need to accept that, cry your river, and then build your bridge to get over it.
Best of luck!