I've been tempted to do weed..

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Lately i've been asking myself if i should do it. All my friends do it and really im like the only one that doesn't, and sometimes i just feel left out when my friends go and hang out with girls to smoke weed and don't really invite me because, well i don't do it. Its not because their bad friends or anything, its just because, i mean whats the point of inviting me to do something i dont do? Im not usually the type of person who does everything friends tell me to, if i was i would have been doing weed a long time ago. I just see this as an opportunity to meet more people, including more girls. But im against smoking anything, and when i was entering my teen years i promised my mom i wouldn't smoke anything. I mean, I've already tried it(before my mom and i had that talk) i was 12, and i just took a hit, but i didn't like it. So im just really confused on what to do, everyone i hang out with does it and i feel left out when they leave me to do weed. I mean i already drink anyways which people say is much worse, and that weed isn't bad at all(which is another thing that confuses me, i was taught in DARE that its bad, but then everyone who does it says it isnt as bad as they say). Im just confused on what to do hear, i hate being left out. Do you think i should just try it one more time and see what happens from there? I just need some advice..

Let me tell you this to start. People will tell you it's not addictive and that its fun. Yes its fun but very addictive. I am very addicted to weed and cannot stop (I've tried many times).Reason #1 why you shouldn't start...  Quote: But im against smoking anything

Let me tell you one thing: If you're going to try it, try it because you want to, not just so you can hang out more with your friends.

> which is another thing that confuses me, i was taught in DARE that its bad, but then everyone who does it says it isnt as bad as they say

My only comment: Of course DARE is going to tell you it's bad. You don't expectr the government to tell you the truth about weed, do you?

My only suggestion: Do your own research. Don't listen to all the bullshit other people say. Do your own research and draw your own conclusion.

> Do you think i should just try it one more time and see what happens from there?

That sounds like a good idea to me.

And don't listen to pink. Just because she is mentally addicted to weed (physical addiction is simply not possible) doesn't mean weed is addicting. It's true, there are people who are mentally addicted to weed, but there are millions more who aren't. Let me put it this way: Very few people are "addicted" to weed.

Again, do your own research and draw your own conclusions. I suggest doing your own research, then deciding if you want to try it or not.

And he could one of the few who becomes "mentally" addicted, right?It's not worth it, if he's already not into it.And on top of it you shouldn't start as a condidtion to "just hang out".Smoking/drugs/drinking is not going to do anything good for you. It may do nothing or it may be bad for you, but it definitely won't have anything positive to add to your life.

I wouldn't say im mentally addicted to weed.And yes. You should listen to me and consider my advice.I didn't say not to do it.. i'm saying that you could get addicted to it. I can tell you right now that 8/10 people I know smoke weed on a very regular basis and some of them would say they are addicted.Like I said.. the #1 reason you shouldnt do it is because you are AGAINST it.

Sounds like peer presure to me. But I don't understand. Why do you need weed to meet other people and girls?Either way, sdp said it best: Originally Posted By: sdpSmoking/drugs/drinking is not going to do anything good for you. It may do nothing or it may be bad for you, but it definitely won't have anything positive to add to your life.

And he could one of the few who becomes "mentally" addicted, right?He could.But if you always live in fear of what could happen, you wouldn't do anything. You wouldn't drive a car because you could be one of the few people who gets hit by a drunk driver or something. Why go in the sun if it can give you skin cancer? You would also be wearing some kind of oygen mask to not breath in all the CO2, since it's bad for you.

But my point is that nothing positive can come from drnking/smoking/drugs.. so why bother in the first place?

nothing positive can come from drnking/smoking/drugsWe'll have to agree to disagree on that.

What "positive" things do they do for you except to numb your mind in order to "escape" from problems/reality.

I'm not going to get into this with you, as neither of us are going to change our minds.But I can tell you that someone like you wouldn't understand the good things weed can do for you.

Originally Posted By: sdpBut my point is that nothing positive can come from drnking/smoking/drugs.. so why bother in the first place? That is true. But i have been drinking since i was 14[im 16 now] i only do it when i go out on weekends. And it hasn't really affected me, i've been doing the same in school, good grades like always, only thing that i noticed that has changed is my attitude and personality, and that was only recently. And its only because i was tired of being the shy kid who everyone used to take advantage of pretty much. And i actually havent been drunk since maybe a month ago. I have drunk a beer or two in the last weeks, but not drunk. I know its not good but the only reason i do it is because it gives me confidence and takes away my shyness, once i learn how to do this without the need of alcohol, i won't need to drink. OKay and about the weed thing, my friends aren't pressuring me into doing it, yes they have asked me several times to do it, and of course i say no everytime. But they respect my decisions, they actually say its good that i don't do it. I guess its just hard not to want to do it when im hanging out with them because i mean theyre all smoking passing around a blunt having fun, and i just feel left out sometimes, other times not really because im just laughing along with them. Its just hard to have friends who drink/smoke and not do it because you see them having fun, and your just sitting there doing what?

Originally Posted By: eh501

Its just hard to have friends who drink/smoke and not do it because you see them having fun, and your just sitting there doing what?
Then get more productive friends and do things you both can enjoy.

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I know its not good but the only reason i do it is because it gives me confidence and takes away my shyness, once i learn how to do this without the need of alcohol, i won't need to drink.
But how are you going to learn to do that on your own if you're always using alcohol as a quick fix? And what's more, you metioned earlier that if you started smoking, you'd meet more people. This is starting to seem like a lack of self-esteem issue.

Good things? OK maybe if you are on Chemotherapy or something medical like that. Other than that.. it's all a crutch...

like eh said.... _I know its not good but the only reason i do it is because it gives me confidence and takes away my shyness, _

Just a crutch.

Let me just say that starting to smoke weed led me into other drugs

As I said before, we'll have to agree to disagree on whether or not weed can do good things or not.

Originally Posted By: Virtual_Star

Originally Posted By: eh501

Its just hard to have friends who drink/smoke and not do it because you see them having fun, and your just sitting there doing what?
Then get more productive friends and do things you both can enjoy.

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I know its not good but the only reason i do it is because it gives me confidence and takes away my shyness, once i learn how to do this without the need of alcohol, i won't need to drink.
But how are you going to learn to do that on your own if you're always using alcohol as a quick fix? And what's more, you metioned earlier that if you started smoking, you'd meet more people. This is starting to seem like a lack of self-esteem issue.

I can't just ditch my friends like that? And besides, im sure atleast 80% of the kids in my school either smoke or drink or do both. We live in the hamptons a place so boring that we turn to things like that. We have no mall, nothing like that. Theres nothing for us to do.

And actually it has helped me overcome my shyness a lot. Because i just think back to the things i said/did when i was drunk(yes i remember) and just do it. Compared to how i was a year ago, im not that shy anymore, i talk more and etc. Yes i do lack self-esteem i've always had this problem, and i can't seem to make it stop. This is why i say that weed might help me meet alot more people, and i also wont get left behind sometimes(their not doing it on purpose i explained why earlier) and i just hate being home on the week nights, it stresses me out sometimes and makes me even feel depressed for no reason at times..

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I can't just ditch my friends like that?
Well, they ditched you for weed.

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And besides, im sure atleast 80% of the kids in my school either smoke or drink or do both. We live in the hamptons a place so boring that we turn to things like that. We have no mall, nothing like that. Theres nothing for us to do.
All I'm going to say is that that's the lamest excuse ever.

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Yes i do lack self-esteem i've always had this problem, and i can't seem to make it stop. This is why i say that weed might help me meet alot more people
So, you're dependent on alcohol and the next logical thing to do is to possibly be dependent on weed? Wow, that makes sense!

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i just hate being home on the week nights, it stresses me out sometimes and makes me even feel depressed for no reason at times..
Then DO something. Do your homework, read a book, play video games, build models, go bike riding, learn a new skill, get a girlfriend, or make new friends. Don't be dependent on your friends to have a good life.

Look, in my honest opinion, it just seems to me like you're just another teen giving into conformity. If people are jumping off a building, then I gotta do it too. But really, the choice is yours to make. No one can really stop you. If you do try it, let's just hope it won't be a serious regret.

Originally Posted By: eh501I can't just ditch my friends like that? And besides, im sure atleast 80% of the kids in my school either smoke or drink or do both. We live in the hamptons a place so boring that we turn to things like that. We have no mall, nothing like that. Theres nothing for us to do.Tell that to the multiple generations who had no malls and still found things to do. Originally Posted By: eh501And actually it has helped me overcome my shyness a lot. Because i just think back to the things i said/did when i was drunk(yes i remember) and just do it. Compared to how i was a year ago, im not that shy anymore, i talk more and etc. Yes i do lack self-esteem i've always had this problem, and i can't seem to make it stop. This is why i say that weed might help me meet alot more people, and i also wont get left behind sometimes(their not doing it on purpose i explained why earlier) and i just hate being home on the week nights, it stresses me out sometimes and makes me even feel depressed for no reason at times.. You don't know that the drinking is what has caused these changes. For all you know, it could be something completely different.

All of what virtual_star said I agree in fact if I may be inclined to add to the activities you could pursue, watch Doctor Who, it's a real fun series or go to the movies or write stories or go to comic conventions! Trust me those are all fun things to do and some of those things don't even cost that much money ^_^