ok well theres this guy im currently going out with and i used to dance with him and now he works at the news agents near my place XD he likes me [i know cause he told me and i can just tell] and i think i like him but i dunno.. im the happiest when im with him but now i can feel things getting a lil more serious and i wanna run for the hills. Im scared to meet his friends, im scared to kiss him and most of all im scared to love him. He is 17 and im turning 15 at the end of the year. Its a massive age difference!! He isnt the hottest guy out there and i just dont feel that sort of attraction but he makes me happy and he is the sweetest guy out there. What should i do??? PLEASE HELP!!
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HE LIKES ME, WE R GOIN OUT AND IM FREAKING OUT!!
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Don't jump in!Just hang out together, see if you start to feel attracted to him.If you end up still not being attracted to him then it's probably best you stay friends. Attraction isn't everything but it's still important.Just give it time
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I agree with sadbuttrue. If you're not attracted enough to him that you want to date him (obviously, you don't), then don't lead him on. Spare this guy's feelings and let him know how you feel and let him down easy.If you want, just continue to be good friends.
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Hmm well the thing is - i dont wanna let him go, maybe i just need time (he is my first bf - even the first guy ive ever gone out with to). Im new to this whole concept but i just love the way we can have fun and the way he makes me feel perfect.
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Hmm well the thing is - i dont wanna let him go, maybe i just need time
Oh, I misunderstood you. I guess you're already dating him. Give yourself sometime if you really feel that something can happen. Since you seem to be enjoying his company, just continue to do so. You don't need to rush into love. That has to come naturally. :smile: -
In my personal opinion I would say that you don't lead him on but since you enjoy his company and he makes you feel great just enjoy the time you have with him ^_^. Besides you are still young and you have a lot of years ahead of you before you meet your one and only. So take each day slowly with him and if you end up getting attracted to him then cool but if you don't then let him down easy and make sure his feelings aren't hurt.
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Originally Posted By: gorjus sugaok well theres this guy im currently going out with and i used to dance with him and now he works at the news agents near my place XD he likes me [i know cause he told me and i can just tell] and i think i like him but i dunno.. im the happiest when im with him but now i can feel things getting a lil more serious and i wanna run for the hills. Im scared to meet his friends, im scared to kiss him and most of all im scared to love him. He is 17 and im turning 15 at the end of the year. Its a massive age difference!! He isnt the hottest guy out there and i just dont feel that sort of attraction but he makes me happy and he is the sweetest guy out there. What should i do??? PLEASE HELP!! So wait...you're "dating" (I don't know how many definitions there are...are you using one that we've not heard of?) and you don't even have a strong enough physical attraction to him??It seems like you're indulging in the way he makes you feel. You're comfortable around him, you enjoy his presence, but alas you don't feel attracted to him "in that way". You need to make this clear to him, before he thinks you guys are something that you're not. You need to be sure aboot your feelings, as well. If you don't know what/how/when/if you feel something, then you need not act like you do. That's deceitful and irresponsible. Take it slow, talk to him (he may or may not change after hearing what you have to say -- anticipate this). Maybe in time things, important things..like attraction, will develop...if not? You can attempt to maintain a friendship. Good luck!