I've had this really close guy friend for about a year now. He has always been there for me.. always listened.. always been someone I could count on. I guess I have to admit that when me and Josh broke up last summer.. I did kinda have a thing for him when we first met, and I guess I've always had a itsy bitsy crush on him. Me and Josh are doing really awesome right now, I couldnt be happier. We're talking about our future and saving hard so we can make a down payment on a house sometime within the next 2 years. I don't think I've ever loved Josh more.Anyways.. Greg is going back home to BC for the next 4 months which devastates me because I'm going to miss him so much. Friday night he tells me this on msn (while being a little bit tipsy.. hhhhmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm)"steph...i have to admit something i've had a crush for like a year "and goes on to say things such as this..."all water under bridge...and yah! i like you, i've always thought bad when you wanted to be treated better, i've wanted to like cuddle and crap when life is down, and other thoughts...but yah..."and"steph, i;'ve had this since like...the day i met you...i just liked you...hence all my wanting to hang with you...i mean, theres times i wanted to wrap my warm around and hold you and tha...and i never wanted to get between you and josh,,,so i never never said a thing"and"well...i;'m about to go four months without you...i feel terrible because here i am sobering up and admitting all this...what should we do?"and"you were fun and liked me for me! and i liked you for you! and i didn't ever want you to change in any aspect!!"He basically BEGGED me to come see him, and i was scared to.. I kinda figured if I went to see him it would ruin our friendship and make things really awkward and he continued saying things like this" because...four months is too long, and there's too much i've wanted to do and say before i left to let it go like this "and"i care for you with such a ridiculous regard it kills me when you're down, but eh, you know i like you...and i know you liked me"and the one that really kills me inside is this" i like the way we talk and laugh, the way you look and smile"I don't know what to do!! Im so confused.. Greg is a really great guy and if i wasnt with Josh I would go for him in a second. First I'm scared his and my friendship will be ruined.. and im scared that it will ruin things with josh thinking about this so much!!ahhhhhhhhhhhhh!
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My closest guy friend.
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If you love Josh sooo much and couldn't love him more.... why is Greg even bceoming an issue?It seems that you have mixed feelings about Greg, and maybe Josh isn't everything you say you want him to be?
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Kinda tough. If you intend to stick with Josh, then this bombshell will make it awkward with Greg. Guess you gotta pick who you like more.
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Greg is becoming an issue because hes someone very important in my life. Someone who I care very much for. I definetly do have mixed feelings about Greg. Quote: Kinda tough. If you intend to stick with Josh, then this bombshell will make it awkward with Greg. Guess you gotta pick who you like more.I definetly love my boyfriend and would stick with him. But it'd kill me to have to talk to greg about it. Its not like I could just stop talking to him and avoiding him. I would never ever ever want to do that.I dont know what to do. BTW I havent talked to greg since he said these things on friday. He doesnt get to BC until tomorrow night, so I'll prob talk to him then.
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This is tough. If you want to be with Josh, then you have to make it clear to Greg that you two are only friends.In my opinion though, it seems to me that it is Josh that you are not so sure about. And whether it is Greg or another guy, you need to reevaluate your relationship with Josh.Good luck!
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Thing is.. me and Josh were sooo rocky about 2 months ago.. and if greg would have told me this then I probably would have dropped Josh. I did reevaluate my relationship recently and I realized that I need to stop blaming everything on him and take respobsibility for myself and the things I do and say... (if u all havent noticed I have a very short temper :P). I've learned to stay calm and not sweat the small stuff because it's not important. I honestly think I've changed as a person... which has made my and Josh's relationship 150% better!! I care about Greg.. I'm not sure if I like Greg more than a friend. I don't think I do at all.. I used to.. not anymore.Should I tell Josh about all this??
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NO! You should tell Greg, but if you want a relationship with Josh, telling him, is just going to make it tougher! PLUS it is going to make it harder for you and Greg to be friends if you choose to do so. If I were Josh, I would be not wanting you to talk to the other guy any more!
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I 2nd that. Don't say anything to Josh. It'll just create tension between you two.
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Oh, I see. Then I agree with Jenn and sdp. Telling Josh will only cause problems and you two are doing great now.
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Yeah I didn't think that would be good.I guess it's a good thing Greg is leaving for four months.
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Originally Posted By: LTTAIf you love Josh sooo much and couldn't love him more.... why is Greg even bceoming an issue?It seems that you have mixed feelings about Greg, and maybe Josh isn't everything you say you want him to be? Just to be a smartass :P If you can't love someone "more" and you love someone else then that "more" that's how it could become an issue. I win ^_^
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I have nothing much to add but, good luck!
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What?
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I didn't get that either.