For the past few years i have been really insecure about the size of my penis. Im actually pretty insecure about myself in general. Its gotten to the point where i cant take it anymore, and now i need to make a post. So here is information on myself and i will say what im insecure with and secure with. Age - 17 (18 the 23rd of this month)Height - 5'3 / 5'4 (Insecure i am very short for my age, and feel unaccepted by most people in the world. Most women wont give me a chance due to my height)Weight - 110-115 (Im fine with my weight and have an athletic build and think im a good weight for my height, most people say i look like im about 125-130lbs anyway)Penis Size - Length (5.5-6.0 inches, im fine with the length i guess, could be better but whatever) (Girth 4.0 maybe a little thicker and up to 4.3-4.5 on some days) Girth is where im really unsatisfied and i feel like i have a baby dick.I am insecure about myself in general but i will stick to the main subject here. I hate my penis. I dont wont to be pornstar huge but i just wish my girth was more on the average side. I feel like no girl would ever accept me because of it and it makes me hate myself. I feel like i could never satisfy any women and no women would ever give me a chance. Now heres the catch.Ive been in a realtionship for 7 months and my girlfriend saw my penis many months ago. We havent had sex because we are waiting a year but we have done everything else (Oral, handjobs, etc) She has told me a million times that im the perfect size for her but for some reason i can never believe her. Ive nagged at her to tell me the truth over and over before and i told her it wouldnt hurt my feelings and she just retaliated and said "I am telling you the truth". Yet no matter how much she tells me how perfect i am i can never become secure. I cant even enjoy my penis because im just constantly worrying about the size. I always picture my girlfriend wanting a bigger penis, even though she always tells me mine is perfect for her. Most the time we do physical things im just thinking about how small my penis is.Its something that bothers me 60% of the day and it makes me hate myself and ive even got suicidal over it. Ive even almost broken up with my girlfriend because I MYSELF felt like i could never satisfy her, how sad is that? And it doesnt even make sense because i can make her come with 1-2 fingers and i have tiny fingers (3 inch long at most, and virtually no girth)I dont know what to do anymore or how to get over this, I feel like its ruining my life and it makes me suicidal somtimes, i have a million problems in my life that have driven me to this point but my physical insecurities just top it off. I just want a normal sized girth, i just want to be NORMAL, i feel like i dont even have a penis, it feels more like a swollen finger. I dont know what to do anymore......i need help........i need your guys help....well girls actually. I just want to feel like i can satisfy a women.....i want to put my insecurities behind me once and for all. Why do we live in such a judgmental world? Why cant people be accepted because of WHO they are and not WHAT they are? Im beginning to hate life......and sometimes want to end it.
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Insecurity (Ruining my life)
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Oh, sweetie. You're a smart guy. You, out of all people in the world should, know that it doesn't matter about the size, it's about the person.First things first, you love your girlfriend, right? Then please try to trust her word. You have no idea how hurtful that is when someone you love doesn't believe you. Trying to get her to "tell the truth" isn't going to work and is only going to have a strain on your communication. Right now, you're only hearing what you think is the truth.I'll be the first to tell you that size doesn't matter at all, and I won't be the last, I'm sure. It takes time but if you work on your insecurity, you'll get over it. I've been with my boyfriend for over two years. In the very beginning, he was a bit insecure and worried about our sex life. But I kept reassuring him that not only size doesn't matter, but I love him for other, more important reasons.Here's something you may want to try to do. It may seem silly but why don't you write down at least ten things about yourself that you believe makes you a good boyfriend. Are you nice? Are you supportive? Do you make her laugh? Think about these things. Soon, you'll see that there's more positive things about you than you realize and you'll see why your girlfriend loves you. These things are a million times more important for a relationship to last than penis size.Once you do start having sex, you'll soon find out there's more to it than have her or yourself have an orgasm, roll over, and fall asleep. The bond between you two will grow either stronger or weaker. Your relationship ties into your sexual one. If you bring in problems into the bedroom, it's only going to make things worse. You won't be thinking about having fun with her, but rather, worry about your size and just grow fustrated and unsatisfied. You'll be upset, then she'll be upset, and then it starts rolling downhill from there.There's much more to life than trying to be a sex god. You're fine just the way you are and I'm sure your girlfriend knows this as well. Try keep telling youself the positive things about you. Everyone wishes they were bigger or taller or whatever, but it's not going to happen. There's no such thing as perfection. Hang in there and best of luck to you!
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JEEZUZ mate, I think you've got too much time on your hands! You need to spend your time on positive things you can do, not worrying about what you think is missing, because nothing is.To start with, if my conversion is correct, on your size frame, you actually have a dick which is bigger than the norm. 15,2 cm is the normal length for lads in about the 178-180 cm range. If it gets much longer it's going to make black and blue spots on your knees. Also, at 17 going on 18, you are not necessarily done with growing yet, in fact you may not be completely done with puberty. However, even after puberty, a teen's body continues to change well into his 20's. Since you don't seem to want to believe opinions which conflict with your favourite hang-ups, go on line and check it out or maybe some of theother lads here will also comment. Just look around when you feel like beating yourself up, check out the other teens around you, in school or city centre who are desperately over weight. They'd give anything to be your size and unless they find away to control their body and change, your healthy size and life style will mean that you'll most likely read about their passing on the deaths page in the newspaper. Hopefully, by then, you'll have learned to treasure all the gifts you've been given and stop complaining about the few you feel you were denied.
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To Virtual - I love her very much, and i dont want to cause problems for us. And my girlfriend knows all about my insecurities and she gets so afraid that she will lose me over them. I wouldnt actually leave her over it i just get stupid sometimes. My girlfriend loves me because of who i am, and shes told me a hundred times my penis could be 2 inches and she wouldnt care. And i believe her, i just make myself paranoid is the problem...and my insecurity is so deep that your right im only hearing what i think the truth is. I make her happier than anyone ever has, and she makes me feel the same way. We want to move in together in the next few months and go to college together and after that move wherever we have to to transfer for school. Thanks alot of your help, you are right and you and my girlfriend seem alike in alot of ways, as far as your views on love and relationships.To Christian - Its not so much that i have too much times on my hands its just my problem follows me everywhere (Its between my legs haha). I have a very full schedule actually, i work all day, then school, then MMA practice, then friends / girlfriend etc. I just cant get it off my mind wherever i go. I just need to start blocking it out of my head and i need to start caring less about my penis and more about the rest of my life. Theres plenty more important things out there and i know that. I will try to work on my insecurities, coming here was a good step for me, i wanted to for awhile but i just never had the time to make the post.
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Well... I can't talk for the girls, but I found some of my shorter than me classmates at the university quite handsome -- too bad they were all straight!As for cock. For me, most of the girth came only after I stopped growing in length, and it started pretty much around the age you're at now. I'm not fully sure, but I think I actually finished growing as thick as I am now (no idea about the measure, but I can safely say it's nothing extraordinary) around 22! So don't worry, it may as well change for you too, in the upcoming few years.>> She has told me a million times that im the perfect size for her but for some reason i can never believe her. Ive nagged at her to tell me the truth over and over before and i told her it wouldnt hurt my feelings and she just retaliated and said "I am telling you the truth". <<Maybe she is indeed telling the truth Very likely, especially after being together for 7 months!
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MMA - I know it can't be easy to say those things to yourself, much less post them on a public forum. I honor your courage. The courage that allows you to put all that out there very well may be the courage that allows you to grow beyond this.The sense that I get is that this really isn't about your penis. It may be that you are taking a lot of insecurities about this that and the other, including your height, and focusing all of them on your penis. So no matter how many well-intentioned, honest people (including your girfriend) tell you with all honesty that your penis is quite fine, it may not help until you can start looking at the real source of the insecurities. Radeckl's response sounded a bit harsh, but I think he's right in suggesting that maybe you find someone you can talk to about what's going on in your life, what things are feeding into your self-image, and how to deal with a boat-load of insecurities.I have a friend in Louisville who started dating her current boyfriend last fall. She told me he was kind of short. When I met him in December I was surprised that it was actually someone I already knew. This guy is short. I mean really short...considerably shorter than you...and going bald to boot!!! But he is one of the coolest guys you can imagine. What makes him that way? I think it is his self-confidence. I'm sure he struggles with some of the stuff you (and all of us) struggle with. But I see him as someone who believes he is just as big, just as worthy, just as likeable as anyone else in the world. AND HE IS! He is involved in community affairs, taking ballroom dancing, and he is incredibly outgoing and friendly. He has my respect.So maybe what I'm saying is that the best way to grow beyond this is to start giving yourself a break. I doubt people around you see you (or your penis) the way you see yourself. And the more you become comfortable with yourself...start liking yourself and whatnot...you will see people responding to you more and more. Because, really, they are probably responding well to you already, you just don't see it.Good luck to you. Hang in there and give yourself a break.
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I appreciate what you said Damien. Im glad i came here to talk to people, because talking to other people about it even if over the internet helps me alot.I guess for the last couple years ive just been really hard on myself, well i always have been. I was always hung up on my height and then once i got into highschool i let it go for the most part. The problems was me not feeling accepted. I always had girls telling me i was cute and they always said if i was taller i would be "So hot" and that kinda made me feel self conscious about my height again because i felt i could never be "hot" or attractive to a women unless i grew. I dont know why i am so hard on myself. My girlfriend tells me im to hard on myself and she does her best to try to reassure me im just fine, and i dont want her to always have to do that. But we are both kind of that way. We were both teased alot in our earlier years and still get judged because our height. Im 5'4 and shes 5'1 so everyone always just assumes we are in Jr High and they treat us like it to. I dont know what makes me be so hard on myself, i know i shouldnt be. My life isnt exactly easy, ive been working since i was 16 and ive been helping out with bills every time i had money, even when i was younger. Now i have a job and im always paying bills, mine and helping my mom. I think it is partialy my life that makes me this way, its like there are so many things wrong already it just makes it easier for me to point out what else is wrong (About myself) and it just kind of goes from there.I dont even know where the Penis issue came from. I never had it until recently. No girl ever told me i had a small penis or anything, i guess i just listen to the media too much, and when i hear all this stuff about how all girls want a big penis and this and that and this and that it just gets to me. Its like 10 girls can tell me my size is perfect and then 1 girl says a penis has to be 8 inches and that just cancels all the other girls opinions out for me. Maybe part of it is just because we live in such a judgemental world, i think alot of people and alot of my generation is self concious about one thing or the other, and most people out there in my experience arent very nice, so its hard to feel accepted.I myself am not judgemental towards anyone and i accept people for who they are because thats how i want to be trated and thats how i wish everyone was. Someone once asked me if my girlfriend got fat would i still love her and i said of course i would still love her. Love has nothing to do with looks in my opionon, just as long as shes the same wonderful personality i fell in love with thats all that matters. Sorry for that long rant, i just need a place to vent, or just talk sometimes. And to Raed i didnt take your comment harsh. I understand what your saying and i have actually considered getting help before. But i would rather try to work it out by myself first because i feel it will make me a stronger person. If it got so severe to the point where it was affecting my life to the point where i really wanted to die or i was really close to doing something stupid i would seek help.Ive been suicidal before but its not self consciousness that makes me that way. Its just life and sometimes i want to give up and the self conscious issues just make me perceive my self in a way that just makes it easier and easier for me to want to do that. Anyway sorry that was so long, thanks everyone for there input it has helped greatly already. I just needed to hear some opinions from some other "real" people out there.