What to do?

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Ok so here is the deal im 17 years old. i've been having homosexual feelings for other guys. and i've talked to other guys and looked at pics and everything. but i dont want to anymore i like girls all the way. and i live in a very religious home. and feel trapped by all this stuff. most ppl around where i live at least kids call me gay even only because, well i really dont know why they dnt know any of the stuff i've done. i think they just go off of the fact that almost all my friends are girls. and to tell u the truth i didnt ever even think about guys until they al started saying it about me. im in need of advice on how to stop this stuff. how to get them to stop talking about me, how to fit in with guys more.

Actually you sound a lot like I did when I was younger and trying to figure out my sexuality. I kept telling myself I liked girls only, though in the back of my mind I was attracted to other boys. I always had a girlfriend through school, and even that didn’t stop other people from calling me gay, and I agree I think they mostly called me gay because almost all my friends were female.Now I am not saying you are gay simply because we have a lot of similarity, only you can figure that out. I can only say I sympathize with what you are dealing with.One thing I can tell you, if you are gay there is nothing you can do to change it. It’s simply a small part of who you are. As I would tell anyone, the sooner you accept your sexuality the sooner you can move on to more important things in life. A person’s sexuality is such a small detail in comparison to other life challenges. For years I fought myself about being gay, I dated girl after girl. I was 17 and about to graduate High School when I finally admitted to myself I was gay. It was like a boulder was being lifted off my shoulders. And when I say admit it to yourself, yourself is the only person that matters. If you do soul searching and figure out you are gay, the only person you have to worry about accepting you, is you. Worry about everything else later. I would however, recommend that while you are in school to keep it to yourself. High school kids (especially boys) are cruel and no one needs to be taunted and hurt for something they cannot control. Sorry I know I have got a little off track and rambling. Main point I want you to understand sexuality is not something you can change, it’s simply is what it is. And if your straight, don’t change yourself or anyone. Keep your friends and do the things that make you happy. You are in High School, not a place that’s permanent. You need to hang out and do things that make you happy. Don’t go around pleasing everyone else simply because you think it’ll stop people from calling you gay because trust me from experience, no matter what you do people will always be cruel and always find a way to put another person down.Hope my ramble was of SOME help.

thanks your advice really was helpful. but as for being gay i really dnt think i am. i think if anything i would be bi. but i dnt even think that i like girls i want relationships with girls. the feelings for guys aren't like i want to spend the rest of my life with them its like i want sex and thats it. so would classify me as more bi-curious?
once again u really did help a lot it made me feel more like i wasn't alone.

"...how to fit in with guys more."Screw 'em. Like Eddie said, if your happy with the friends you have, fuck the guys. They're not worth trying to be a friend to.Why do you really want to hang around with guys like that anyway?As for the gay thing, your young and there's no need in figuring it out now. Your the only person to who your sexuality should matter. There's no reason to label yourself one way or the other all it does is limit you anyway.

ok thank you both.

I'd certainly say you are curious. When I first started becoming attracted to guys I thought I just wanted to have a body like theirs, so I easily dismissed the idea that the reason I was looking at their bodies was because I was actually attracted to them. Even when I slowly started to realize I was having sexual urges towards other boys I figure "Eh, maybe I am bi... but only for sex. I still want a girlfriend". Even after my first homosexual "relationship" (If you want to call it that lol, didn't last long), I went right back to dating females for 2 years before I finally admitted to myself I was gay.What you are going through isn’t easy; trust me many people have gone through it. All that be said is take it one day at a time and at your pace. No need to trust when ti comes to your sexuality, explore and be safe about it.

And incase you didn't figure that out... I'm Eddie :wink: hehe

Oh yeah, sorry... points up He's Eddie. I'm Scotty... and your, you.And by the way, welcome to the boards.

Dude,You’re only 17...You’re coming into your sexual prime. It’s not abnormal for a young male to experience thoughts about sex. Right now, I would say it sounds to me like you might be a virgin and have not really had a full on sexual relationship with a woman. Finding out about yourself and your sexual orientation just happens when it happens. One day you’ll just know what side of the fence you want to be on or a little bit of both. You find this out by sexual experimentation. Some people just know while some people like to find out what makes their toes curl and quench their sexual appetite. Don’t stress out about it. It will just become apparent one day. Like someone turned on a light switch. Sex for you right now or in the past might consists of watching porn, masturbation, fantasies or visual images you might have in your head that represents “SEX” or “SEX ACTS”. You might be watching porn and think... “Wow! That guy had a huge dick and is all buff. I wish I looked like that or I wish I had a dick like that. I wish my arms and ass looked like that… Then you try to imagine what it would be like to have sex looking like that or with those images that you saw and when you do that you have to think about the guys and their manhood’s or whatever.! Guys sometimes think about this and think it means their gay… Trust me... You’ll know if you’re gay. Right Eddie?Good luck with all of this and I hope my perspective of your situation helps you out.

Quote:You’ll know if you’re gay. Right Eddie? Yeppers very true